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Wife and I have been married for 20 years. I recently started sharing with her fantasies I have and one of them was a MFM threesome with her and she wasn't opposed. She didn't jump out and say NO WAY, she wanted to know how we would proceed. She has asked good questions and we have had good discussions and she seems willing and open to taking the next step. So, what is the next step, want to hear from people who are married or in long term relationships and have had MFM threesomes and how that was arranged...

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We put an ad on a swinger's site and started reading others' ads to get a sense for what swinging is all about. I wish we'd have found this resource before we began our swinging journey - hands down, the best place in the internet to learn about swinging and what it takes to be successful. I'd encourage you to read this forum together, talk about what you want out of a mfm experience, then begin to slowly narrow down the many possibilities you'll have.

 

Fair warning, new couple, especially those seeking single men get overwhelmed with offers. IMO, a man who has been part of a swinging couple or a married man with permission is the type of guy you'll want to look for aside from the physical characteristics you are interested in. Take your time, find the right guy and enjoy the ride!

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The simple answer for us was that we were playing with my best friend and his wife and they eventually got divorced. Since his wife was no longer available for me to play with, we changed to MFM threesomes so my wife and I could both play.

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Powi, you story sounds exactly like how we got started after being married for 20 years. We've had a blast so far and we're been very successful at finding great playmates. Your first step, if you haven't done so already, is to join a quality swinger site. Check out the sites in your area and see which ones are the most popular. You can't go wrong with SLS, but I think Kasidie might also be big in your area. By all means stay away from CL and AFF, both are a waste of time and energy. Next, set up your profile using the tips posted here in the forums and be sure to post plenty of pics. This sounds counterintuitive, but it's important to block single males when you set up your profile. Once your profile is online it's time to start shopping. Talk to your wife and find out what her ideal specifications are, then sort through profiles. With single guys it's important to make sure they are paid members and have several good certs from attractive couples. You don't really want to play with someone that plays with someone you wouldn't touch, lol. Free members and no certs are a def no go! Don't get discouraged, we go through hundreds of profiles before we find the one that she finds hot. With SM's, you can be very picky, look for the ones that can host, they tend not to be married. If the wife is not into uncut guys, or she wants a certain size, make that a requirement. Always remember this is all about her and fulfilling her fantasies. You are in the driver's seat when it comes to SM's, don't be tempted to relax your standards, especially on certs, or you will have problems. NEVER be tempted to play with vanilla friends or coworkers, or pick someone up in a bar.

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Wow, thank you! This was helpful to me. I did not consider all these factors. I enjoy finding a couple for threesoe play. My wife is halfway across the country....the first time she saw me suck another man, she was hooked on MFM play!, Hugs, Marc

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