My husband wants to swing

[kidcleveland]

the one thing i think you need at ask also is how would your hubby feel if this was asked by you an he had to watch you with someone else its something some dont think of before they ask of you this is not to say yes or no to swinging just a remimder that the question goes very deep

[curiousR]

DONT DO IT. especially to save the marriage. he has some wild oats that may or may not need to be sowed. your idea of sex is shared by most women and you belong to men who feel the same way. unless one of you changes, its like gasoline and a match. sooner or later its going to blow up and get real ugly.

step back and try to be objective. who has the ability to change? we are talking ability arent we? i know that i dont have the ability to change the way if feel about sex. nor do i have the desire. im happy being just who i am.

pick his brain, find out where he is at. compare that to your basic nature. let it simmer for a few weeks until you can come up with a compromise you can accept, you can live with for the rest of your life.

my brother in law heard i had a threesome. he said he and my sister were thinking about doing it. i told him its pretty awesome BUT its risk vs. reward. is the sexual high worth losing your relationship with my sister?, because that is what is at stake. i dont know what they did but they are still together. we had that conversation twenty years ago.

[sereneiders]

Moonlight, thanks for your post. Your experience is worth to be known, and I am sure it will be helpfull for a lot of people.

As a personal request for you: please, don't regret for having your own oppinions and keep posting them, even if there were who doesn't agree, and no matter how experienced these people may have. Everyone's experience pertains to the forum, even if it were not perfectly fitting the original poster question, it will sooner or later for someone reading it.

[cy_ay]

Thanks for all the advice I enjoyed what everyone has had to say. I feel like you Moonlightkiss. I realize that right now I am not ready for this. I shouldn't do this just to keep him. If he can't wait until I am ready then things between us are not were they should be. I would like to thank everyone for there advice. Who knows one day I may be back. I know right now though that it is not that time. I wish everyone good luck.

Thank you for helping me. I am glad to know that I was not alone in making this decision. Again, thank you.