Glove with the one you love?

[Spoomonkey]

Another thread got me thinking...

I wish it hadn't because I get headaches easily when I do that

Anyway - is it "unfair" for the married male to go "sans sheepskin" in a MFM with his wife while the single guy gloves up? Would it be more equitable to slide one on yourself? Should you reserve your tube-free love-making to your bedroom only - or is your wife's parts a free play zone for your "jungle Jim"?

I hadn't really thought of this - and have always simply saved my condoms for another day when a threesome presented itself, with my wife being the lone female in the room. But is this wrong?

And single guys - how do you feel about being asked to "glove up" when the action starts and the mister is still "feeling the breeze, au naturale"?

We had a single guy once who, after discussing the fact that we only play with condoms, try to go in commando. I wrote it off as a "heat of the moment" mistake - but oddly, he couldn't get it up after my stern reminder. Could he have been confused by the "double standard" that I was presenting?

I think I know how this thread will go - but who knows - I could be surprised.

Either way, it should make an interesting topic.

Spoomonkey

[Vespertine]

Yup, interesting topic.

When we had a MFM threesome it was a must for the other guy to wear a condom- but of course, Hubby was au naturale.

When you think about it, it doesn't seem 'fair".

[littlebit54]

My b/f and i just had this discussion last week. If i go out with a "sexsitter" he will be gloved; or no action other than a b/j. My b/f used one the other night, but only for the staying power of those "special" Trojans. Otherwise he's perfectly happy and more than welcome to go skin to skin...I do not care for them, but; when it's necessary it's necessary!

littlebit54

[Spoomonkey]

Just so you know, I have already been chided by Mrs Spoomonkey for making the poll an "all-male" poll... I wasn't thinking... I just figured - we wear the condoms, so we would answer the poll...

She has corrected my erroneous thinking and I shall never make that mistake again...

If I knew how to fix the poll, I would...



Spoomonkey

[ALilOEverything]

Well I answered this as a male because I asked my husband and he looked at me crosseyed and I got this "wtf would I want to do that for" when asked if he would wear a condom with me and another guy even though the guy had to wear one. I feel the same way, no sense on wasting a perfectly good glove when you don't really need it.

[good times]

I wouldn't wear one with my wife, but it is mainly because I'm cheap and wouldn't want to wast a perfectly new raincoat. If the guy was offended by me not wearing one, when he had to, then I guess the cure is pretty simple for me......See ya later,...... Next!

Originally Posted by good times

If the guy was offended by me not wearing one, when he had to, then I guess the cure is pretty simple for me......See ya later,...... Next!

Ditto!!!

You guys should live closer to us!!!

[xxoticangel]

We don't use a condom when we have sex together. When playing with a single guy we always make him aware of the "no glove no love" rule and only once has someone gotten offended that I didn't wear one. When we are with another couple the guys always gear up before entry but are sans condom with their partner. If you want to play in our sandbox you have to play by our rules or bring your own sandbox.

[EvilMJ]

Condoms for everyone!! but only because I'm not on the pill and have no desire for further children....

[curiousagain]

I have no problem wearing a condom while the husband is bareback. The condom is for my protection as well as theirs, why complain??

Just a thought though. If two couples are together and going bareback with their own and wearing a condom with the other couple, what happens when you switch back and forth?? You keep changing condoms? I don't mean if you are swapping but if you are having a foursome whatever and the action is fluid??

[littlebit54]

If you don't put on a clean one what's the point of wearing one at all? Hopefully you buy in bulk...lol

littlebit

[curiousagain]

Originally Posted by littlebit54

If you don't put on a clean one what's the point of wearing one at all? Hopefully you buy in bulk...lol

littlebit

I was too brief in my post. Let me explain. Lets say I am in a foursome, a couple friend of mine, me, and a single female friend. I wear a condom, the husband of the couple is suppose to wear a condom when penetrating the single female but not when penetrating his wife. In the heat of switching back and forth, do you (this is to you husbands) ALWAYS put a condom back on or do sometimes you "forget" and penetrate the single female without a condom??

edit: By the way littlebit54, I was just wondering what the pay scale was for a "sexsitter"? I'm curious ya know.

[newhotcpl]

Actually... We've done it both ways. The wife really enjoys bareback, though.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by curiousagain

The condom is for my protection as well as theirs, why complain??

EXCELLENT point! You get a cookie!

Originally Posted by curiousagain

Just a thought though. If two couples are together and going bareback with their own and wearing a condom with the other couple, what happens when you switch back and forth?? You keep changing condoms? I don't mean if you are swapping but if you are having a foursome whatever and the action is fluid??

You know - we've had this problem. In a foursome, I find that we tend to gravitate more towards the other playmates. So, there isn't a lot of jumping back and forth, really. There is some, but it is usually fairly easy to make the condom switches and stay fluid.

We had our threesome with another woman though - we "borrowed" the wife of a coupel that we are friends with - and we knew this would be an issue. We talked a long time prior to the event about going bareback and we all felt good about doing it, so we approached it that way. When Mrs Spoo played with them (the other husband's turn) the same rules applied.

But - really that is why a threesome with a single woman doesn't really appeal. It's hard to find people that you are that comfortable with.

Does that make sense?

Spoomonkey

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by ALilOEverything

Well I answered this as a male because I asked my husband and he looked at me crosseyed and I got this "wtf would I want to do that for" when asked if he would wear a condom with me and another guy even though the guy had to wear one. I feel the same way, no sense on wasting a perfectly good glove when you don't really need it.

I agree. We don't use condoms at home why should he wear one just because we are with a single? Curiousagain made a good point he wears it for his protection as well as the female's. I don't need protection from my husband so why should he wear one?

Beside I think, and hope, singles would feel this same way if and when they have a partner to bring into the mix. Make sense?

Mrs Spoomonkey