HappyInClyde

Wow...um...my 2 cents worth...I'll say that both your wife and your 'friend' have managed to create a situation where you are the 'bad' guy, where you are the problem. I have nothing against polyamory, or in this case, polyandry. In fact, I could see my wife and I in a polyandrous situation with one of our swinging friends. But polyandry and polyamory flow from a mutual respect from ALL parties involved, and in my most humble opinion, the third should never suppose to supplant the primary. The situation you describe seems to me to be that your wife and friend get to be at home alone while you go out and work and make their lifestyle possible. I hope everything works out for you guys, perhaps it's time for a man to man chat with your non-working, non-contributing friend and reassert the proper boundaries. Not to say that can't ever include sex with your wife, but if it's not coming from some level of respect for you...it's nearly bound to end in disaster. Best of luck!

First, thank you to all of the soldiers, both former and current. Second, thank you to all of the men and women of law enforcement, my brothers and sisters. Now my wife and I welcome you to the wonderful world of Worker's Compensation claims adjusting, though I am a 10 year department of corrections veteran (until I screwed up my shoulder breaking up a fight in the jail). Great poll btw!!! Even though it's a couple of years old, its still incredibly interesting to read

I was that jealous guy the first few years we were together. I knew that she had been in a FFM before, but nothing for me. At the time I could see myself in a FFM or even sex in the same room with another couple with the two ladies playing together. One night while playing out the verbal fantasy, E said, "Well what if I wanted him to fuck me?" I vividly recall saying, "No way". The funny part is that planted a seed that has grown and become quite fruitful. I have grown to embrace our individual sexuality and we have turned some great fantasies into even better memories. I don't know what switch 'flipped' in my head that night, but 2 days later I told E that I had changed my mind and wanted to see her with another man. It took 2 years, but I've now seen it (still waiting to see actual vaginal penetration), and I LOVE it, not a single jealous bone as I've watched her being intimate with 3 different men. And when it comes to a new man actually entering her, I think I'm almost more excited to see it than she is to receive it. Long story short, though my initial society programmed response was no, whatever it is that makes a man a swinger came through and we are now quite happily on the prowl

Absolutely agree with the last post. I know exactly how much I've got and I'll never have any more. Trust me, if the bigger it is means the more fun I'd have, I couldn't stand any bigger or I'd fun myself to death! We are still waiting for her to complete a full swap (the two ladies wore the last poor guy out before she could go there), but when we do, I'm hoping to see her enjoy a nice big one and from a guy who knows how to use it