3 strikes....Meeting a Couple

ENCRYPTEDTX · 06-11-2009, 08:28 PM

As with anything, practice makes perfect. We have to make our own mistakes before we really learn and this encounter really amplifies the importance of patience and some other important things before meeting someone.

I met a couple on the internet and began chatting with them. They had contacted me and they were a bit younger than I was at the time. I usually only meet couples that are older than me, but I was 27ish and they were only a couple years younger...maybe 25 and 24.

While this wasnt strike one, it was something that I had compromised on with myself. Older couples with houses, debt, dogs and kids are typically more stable and more attractive to me.

We had chatted on the internet and phone and exchanged some pics. The pics they sent me were a little dated and that childbirth had move things around a little bit. Her self confidence hadnt returned and she was very camera shy so she didnt want to send a recent photo.

STRIKE ONE. Fast Ball right down the center!

I joke that I am a coffee whore and that I will meet anyone in the lifestyle for coffee and chat. I do enjoy meeting new people and I dont choose friends or coffee buddies on looks. A public place is essential to meet someone for first time. Starbucks is a relaxed, no pressure, no expectations venue. It was difficult arranging a public meeting with this new couple. They were having problems finding a sitter, and we both were working odd schedules. We finally had worked together to arrange a meet for one evening. Later in the day we talked on the phone and the sitter had garden variety excuse and couldnt make it. They wanted to know if I minded coming over directly to their home and we can share some drinks or a bottle of wine.

STRIKE TWO

When I arrived, the person in the photo was definitely not the person greeting me at the door. I am not hung up on looks at all, and feel personality is much more important...but there has to be some physical attraction. Trying to make the most of what we had tried to put together, I wanted to share conversation and maybe a drink, and learn about experiences they had and so forth. I had already made up my mind that something physical would not happen.

We go to the living room and the husband puts on some porn. Its his wife that he has videotaped with someone else.

STRIKE...FOUL BALL.

Somehow we get that off the TV and a music channel as we begin conversation about the lifestyle, likes, dislikes, and experiences....

The husband is overpowering the conversation and when I ask her, who she likes to meet or what she enjoys...he answers for her. I was witnessing the classic door mat relationship

STRIKE FOUL....PLEASE UMP THROW ME OUT OF THE GAME!!!

I am searching for a convenient way to wrap things up politely and find the exit when he tells her that I look like I need a Blowjob and cajoles her into moving over to me as I am protesting and looking for the door.

STRIKE FOUL...UMP YOURE A #$%^&*() THROW ME OUT OF THE GAME

As I am resisting her advances and his pressure for her to make the advance, their child begins crying...

STRIKE THREE.....IM OUT!

The crying child was my way out and I politely left. When I got home, I politely emailed and let them know that I didnt think we were a good match and that we lacked chemistry......

Do we need to review the important lessons here?

Kyle

2inSanDiego4u · 06-11-2009, 08:36 PM

Great post!

It's nice to have a single guy here who gets it! BTW, Starbucks is our meeting place of choice too. We used to do lunches/dinners, but after a few of those that seemed to go on forever with people we had no attraction to whatsoever, coffee or drinks is all we'll do now for the first meet.

sweet_tna · 06-11-2009, 08:56 PM

Aunt Jemima's socks, what a nightmare for you! Thanks for sharing this, as it shows that couples can be just as bad as the rap they pin on singles. May your next experience be a positive one.

=)

ENCRYPTEDTX · 06-11-2009, 09:03 PM

I used to live in San Diego. I think I have every Starbucks in the area in my "Favorites List" in my GPS.

I have both PHENOMENAL and not so experiences from meeting people in SD!

Thanks.

Kyle

ENCRYPTEDTX · 06-11-2009, 09:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sweet_tna

Aunt Jemima's socks, what a nightmare for you! Thanks for sharing this, as it shows that couples can be just as bad as the rap they pin on singles. May your next experience be a positive one.

=)

Its really a game of numbers. Sooner or later it will happen to each one of us until we learn from our own mistakes.

I just posted my greatest experience in the GOOD Experiences opposite this thread.

Kyle

The Fuse · 06-11-2009, 09:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sweet_tna

Aunt Jemima's socks, what a nightmare for you! Thanks for sharing this, as it shows that couples can be just as bad as the rap they pin on singles. May your next experience be a positive one.

=)

You had me at "Aunt Jemima's socks". What a GREAT expression!

To the OP: Sorry that happened to you. You've got to wonder what goes through the mind of a husband that is trying to make this type of thing go his way.

**two4youinswva** · 06-11-2009, 09:32 PM

Now THAT was a classy couple, huh?

Quote:

Originally Posted by ENCRYPTEDTX

..........when he tells her that I look like I need a Blowjob

If you ever talk to this guy again, please ask him what the tell-tale signs are that indicate a man needs a blow job. I'm sure this would be valuable information for all the ladies.

PB&J · 06-11-2009, 09:34 PM

eee-w. Just eee-w

ENCRYPTEDTX · 06-11-2009, 10:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

Now THAT was a classy couple, huh?

If you ever talk to this guy again, please ask him what the tell-tale signs are that indicate a man needs a blow job. I'm sure this would be valuable information for all the ladies.

Thats easy....check and see if he is breathing.....

tiger4play · 06-11-2009, 11:54 PM

I've heard of things like this happening to singles.... that sucks! "Pun intended!" Thanks for the warning.... only Starbucks meetings...got it!

**LFM2** · 06-12-2009, 12:34 AM

OH Damn... I woulda ran!

Glad that was a one-time only event.

lustylearning · 06-12-2009, 02:39 AM

It's probably wrong to giggle, but

**two4youinswva** · 06-12-2009, 06:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ENCRYPTEDTX

Thats easy....check and see if he is breathing.....

Well played.

Spoomonkey · 06-12-2009, 09:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

If you ever talk to this guy again, please ask him what the tell-tale signs are that indicate a man needs a blow job.

I think the correct answer is "the guy is breathing."

Spoomonkey

***JustAskJulie*** · 06-12-2009, 02:46 PM

I'll give a second to Starbucks as the ideal meeting place. No dinner to sit through, and no option of it. The meeting can be over as fast as you can down hot coffee (if need be) or last as long as you are comfortable.

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06-11-2009, 08:28 PM	#1 (permalink)
ENCRYPTEDTX Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 51 Location: Virgina, NY too! Status: Single MALE Swing Lifestyle Name:encryptedtransmission	3 strikes....Meeting a Couple As with anything, practice makes perfect. We have to make our own mistakes before we really learn and this encounter really amplifies the importance of patience and some other important things before meeting someone. I met a couple on the internet and began chatting with them. They had contacted me and they were a bit younger than I was at the time. I usually only meet couples that are older than me, but I was 27ish and they were only a couple years younger...maybe 25 and 24. While this wasnt strike one, it was something that I had compromised on with myself. Older couples with houses, debt, dogs and kids are typically more stable and more attractive to me. We had chatted on the internet and phone and exchanged some pics. The pics they sent me were a little dated and that childbirth had move things around a little bit. Her self confidence hadnt returned and she was very camera shy so she didnt want to send a recent photo. STRIKE ONE. Fast Ball right down the center! I joke that I am a coffee whore and that I will meet anyone in the lifestyle for coffee and chat. I do enjoy meeting new people and I dont choose friends or coffee buddies on looks. A public place is essential to meet someone for first time. Starbucks is a relaxed, no pressure, no expectations venue. It was difficult arranging a public meeting with this new couple. They were having problems finding a sitter, and we both were working odd schedules. We finally had worked together to arrange a meet for one evening. Later in the day we talked on the phone and the sitter had garden variety excuse and couldnt make it. They wanted to know if I minded coming over directly to their home and we can share some drinks or a bottle of wine. STRIKE TWO When I arrived, the person in the photo was definitely not the person greeting me at the door. I am not hung up on looks at all, and feel personality is much more important...but there has to be some physical attraction. Trying to make the most of what we had tried to put together, I wanted to share conversation and maybe a drink, and learn about experiences they had and so forth. I had already made up my mind that something physical would not happen. We go to the living room and the husband puts on some porn. Its his wife that he has videotaped with someone else. STRIKE...FOUL BALL. Somehow we get that off the TV and a music channel as we begin conversation about the lifestyle, likes, dislikes, and experiences.... The husband is overpowering the conversation and when I ask her, who she likes to meet or what she enjoys...he answers for her. I was witnessing the classic door mat relationship STRIKE FOUL....PLEASE UMP THROW ME OUT OF THE GAME!!! I am searching for a convenient way to wrap things up politely and find the exit when he tells her that I look like I need a Blowjob and cajoles her into moving over to me as I am protesting and looking for the door. STRIKE FOUL...UMP YOURE A #$%^&*() THROW ME OUT OF THE GAME As I am resisting her advances and his pressure for her to make the advance, their child begins crying... STRIKE THREE.....IM OUT! The crying child was my way out and I politely left. When I got home, I politely emailed and let them know that I didnt think we were a good match and that we lacked chemistry...... Do we need to review the important lessons here? Kyle

06-11-2009, 08:36 PM	#2 (permalink)
2inSanDiego4u ♥♥♥ Lovin' This! ♥♥♥ Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 726 Location: San Diego Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:2inSanDiego4u Blog Entries: 2	Re: 3 strikes....Meeting a Couple Great post! It's nice to have a single guy here who gets it! BTW, Starbucks is our meeting place of choice too. We used to do lunches/dinners, but after a few of those that seemed to go on forever with people we had no attraction to whatsoever, coffee or drinks is all we'll do now for the first meet. __________________ "Doggie Style is Mandatory." -- from a Swing Lifestyle profile we came across!

06-11-2009, 08:56 PM	#3 (permalink)
sweet_tna Being good is overrated Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 3,782 Location: Poconos, PA Status: The boss of Mr. Sweet Swing Lifestyle Name:Sweet_tna	Re: 3 strikes....Meeting a Couple Aunt Jemima's socks, what a nightmare for you! Thanks for sharing this, as it shows that couples can be just as bad as the rap they pin on singles. May your next experience be a positive one. =) __________________ I'd rather go to hell for doing something I enjoyed than heaven wondering what it's like.

06-11-2009, 09:03 PM	#4 (permalink)
ENCRYPTEDTX Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 51 Location: Virgina, NY too! Status: Single MALE Swing Lifestyle Name:encryptedtransmission	Re: 3 strikes....Meeting a Couple I used to live in San Diego. I think I have every Starbucks in the area in my "Favorites List" in my GPS. I have both PHENOMENAL and not so experiences from meeting people in SD! Thanks. Kyle

06-11-2009, 09:34 PM	#8 (permalink)
PB&J Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 831 Location: Southern Ontario Status: female half of couple Blog Entries: 4	Re: 3 strikes....Meeting a Couple eee-w. Just eee-w __________________ Who doesn't like a PB&J sandwich?

06-11-2009, 11:54 PM	#10 (permalink)
tiger4play Here to Stay Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 26 Location: Vista, California Status: Couple	Re: 3 strikes....Meeting a Couple I've heard of things like this happening to singles.... that sucks! "Pun intended!" Thanks for the warning.... only Starbucks meetings...got it!

06-12-2009, 12:34 AM	#11 (permalink)
LFM2 ~So happy together~ Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 3,480 Location: State of Confusion Status: Couple Blog Entries: 11	Re: 3 strikes....Meeting a Couple OH Damn... I woulda ran! Glad that was a one-time only event. __________________ Dave & Holly

06-12-2009, 02:39 AM	#12 (permalink)
lustylearning Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 620 Location: Virginia Status: female half Blog Entries: 1	Re: 3 strikes....Meeting a Couple It's probably wrong to giggle, but

06-12-2009, 02:46 PM	#15 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 25,707 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 78	Re: 3 strikes....Meeting a Couple I'll give a second to Starbucks as the ideal meeting place. No dinner to sit through, and no option of it. The meeting can be over as fast as you can down hot coffee (if need be) or last as long as you are comfortable.

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