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Reviving an old topic, but with a poll this time. Do you ask other swingers that are potential playmates if they have been tested for STD's? Always, sometimes, never? If the answer is "sometimes", what factors do you use to decide to ask that question?
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My husband and I just established with a new doctor. I really like her, she seems very nice and easy to talk to. This is a good thing right? I am going back in next week for a well woman check. It's just my yearly and I am having no problems. I do want her to check me for everything (again not having problems but would like to have that peace of mind) though but I am not really sure how to ask. My plan is to just say "Since we are already doing a Pap can you just check me for everything else too". My fear is that she will ask questions why since she knows I am married. What should I say if she asks me why? Any ideas? I'd rather not say I think hubby is cheating but I ALSO don't want to tell her I'm a swinger either! HELP!
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How would you feel about an online std risk assessment that quantifies sexual risk as the means of better managing it? My idea is for such an assessment that does so by summarizing results in terms of what I call an "x-factor" metric, which is the absolute maximum number of sex partners you may have, under a given set of conditions, before it is statistically inevitable that you have become infected. So let's say the risk of you becoming infected is 1%, under a given set of conditions, and you have already had sex with 10 people under said conditions, then your "x-factor" would be 90. That is, the absolute maximum number of partners you could have based on the choices you have made, and continue to make, would be 90 before becoming infected would be statistically inevitable. Using this "x-factor" metric you could more clearly see how certain choices impact your ability to swing safely, making trade-offs where needed as part of a safer sex strategy. Perhaps you don't care to use condoms, which would increase risk, but are willing to abstain from anal sex, which would decrease risk, or maybe you aren't willing to abstain from anal sex, but you insist all partners are tested first. Whatever the case is, you could then see how making one set of choices over another set affects your overall risk, thereby making yourself more able to effectively negotiate safer sex by knowing what is, and is not an acceptable risk, and why. So back to my original question: How do you feel about online std risk assessments in general, and how do you feel about the idea for this one in particular? Would you use it?
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Would you attend a club that required everyone that came there to be STD tested and the results would be disclosed to the Owner/Manager of the club? You would have to cover the expense of the test and you would have to be retested every 30 days. -
Hi everyone. I have been reading the posts on here for some time. Lately I have seen a few people post about being "second man in" and "creampie" and such and I know that there are people with very strong views on STD's. I was curious about the numbers when I read an article about syphilis on Yahoo. These are the numbers I came up with. I must say it makes me think they do make it seem worse than it is. These statistics are from the CDC's website under the facts section if you wish to disagree with me. We use condoms but I was just amazed at the numbers here. PID 1,000,000 Trichomoniasis 7,500,000 Syphilis 36,935 Chlamydia 1,100,000 Gonorrhea 358,366 Herpes 50,000,000 HIV/AIDS 1,300,000 Now the CDC does not differentiate between the types of Herpes virus so it is unclear if it is necessarily genital or not, as it can manifest in either form. total infections 61,295,301 US population 304,000,000 This makes the infection rate of some form of STD in the US to 20%. Though if you really look at it, since all herpes infections are not necessarily genital herpes, if you take that out of the equation that brings total infections to 3.7%. 3% really does not seem like that much when you think about it. At least to me it doesn't. I'm not advocating anyone stop wearing condoms, I just thought numbers were a lot higher.
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I thought it would be interesting to discuss people's thoughts on STD testing. Do you require it of your play partners? If a play partner asked you to produce a test would you do so? For us, we typically play in club settings, I've just never been a big fan of the "setup" and feeling like we are going out of our way to make something happen (it just feels contrived). Even in the dating world the idea of having to make great efforts to have sex rarely turned me on. I can recall one time where we planned ahead to get a hotel room for sex. That said, I can't see asking someone in a club setting to produce an STD test (I'm just guessing that like us most people don't carry them around in their wallet). Add to that that I don't find much validity in an STD test, all things considered... 1. They don't test for EVERYTHING, no matter what. 2. Even if you ask them to throw in all the extras, many STDs don't show up right away. 3. There is always going to be a time lapse between the time the test was done and when you see it and there is no way of knowing what happened in that time.
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We had the full scale work up this week - and while the entire process was painless (compared to the peace of mind in knowing that you are doing the right/safe things) it was a bit scary. The doctor who did all the tests was quite attractive and surprisingly (almost uncomfortably) flirty, especially when examining the little monkey... Anyhoo, if you have never had it done, you should. And to get you mentally prepared, here is the run down... We decided to go to the sexual health clinic rather than have to explain to our doctor why we wanted a full STD screen. In hindsight, I am glad we did. They deal with sexual health all the time, so they were very knowledgable and familiar with us swinger types. They said they knew we were because we came in as a couple and neither was pissed at the other Anyway - we expected a nasty little clinic, but it is actually quite nice - which was quite nice... My only complaint is, they have a sign sitting on the check in desk saying "men - do not urinate two hours before exam." Well - I drink over a gallon of water a day, so going two hours without peeing isn't going to happen. Besides - they DIDN'T have the sign on the bathroom door - which was just before the clinic entrance - so I ended up having to wait a little longer. So - HEAD'S UP, GUYS! Hold your water... We walk up and the lady shows us the options and asks, "do you want a number 1 or a number 2?" "Are we ordering Chinese food?" I ask... She snickers and from that point on, we're buddies... We take the number 1 because it is the full meal deal - and then we wait... And wait... And wait... When we finally go in, I am already expecting sloppy, free clinic phlebotomy - and when a tough looking, deep accented Russian nurse walks in, my willy shrivels to nothing. I feel a taste of Gulag coming. As it turns out, she WAS very no-nonsense and straight forward, but the pain was nothing. I HATE needles and swoon when I see one, but for some reason I was actually able to watch her do her thing and I never flinched or felt a thing. I think she was extra gentle though because I was flirting heavily (I do that when I'm nervous). "That's quite an accent," I said with a smile. "Are you from Texas?" She laughed and went into a speil during which I picked up the words "Russia", "Chicago" and, I think, "Pan Pizza". Other than that, I have no idea what we talked about... Then she leaves to run my blood to the lab... And I wait... And wait... And read sexual health pamphlets. Did you know that what we really need to do is just never, ever have sex? That is pretty much the gist of everything put out by the board of sexual awareness. We need to learn to be content with massage. Then doc comes in. She looks striking like the first woman I ever had sex with in the lifestyle - and is quite flirty. Yum! And she was extremely nice. She asked a few questions: "Sexual preference: Male, female or both?" "FEMALE - I swear it!" "Ever sell your body for money?" "Why? You have a little disposable cash?" Sheepish grin... "No - but I do have kids - so I'm strongly considering it." She laughs. "Any symptoms?" "No." "So, what brings you in?" "High risk lifestyle." "Say no more... Drop your pants." She swabs my throat - looks at my skin, which leads to a ten minute discussion of my tattoo, she's fascinated by it - then she fondles me (HER words, not mine!!!) - and uses two swabs on my johnson... This part was worse than the blood draw... "Yes, that's fine. Looks nice. Hmmmm. Now you know why my husband doesn't want to hear about what I do all day." It's just fun to have a nice doctor Anyway, the doc comes in after more waiting and says: "It's all negative - there are still some cultures to run (which we now know are negative as well!) - but if there were anything, we'd see an infection of some sort." She smiles. "Just keep doing whatever you are doing to stay safe, because it is working." I walk out with a surprising spring in my step... And what sucks is the entire next day at work I wanted to share my joy. "I'm STD free!!!" But, you just can't... So - I share here... And encourage everyone - if you haven't, or don't regularly - go grasp that peace of mind, for you and your playmates
