What do you like about single male swingers?

I know some think single swinging males can be a little... well, too horny, creepy, or desperate. Personally, if you enjoy using a single male in your swinging life, what arouses you about them? Do you enjoy using them as a piece of meat for your pleasure? I've been in threesomes with couples and enjoyed being seen as only another cock to use and play with. It seems that was the thing they wanted most from me. Sometimes they only wanted me to watch and masturbate to them.

My wife and I have no interest in the MFM thing but she does like men, single or attached. I always feel uncomfortable about answering on behalf of my wife, but it is apparent to me in a big way that to her a man is not a piece of meat. If a man is not able to achieve a ceribral seduction, he is going to have to seduce some other woman.

One nice thing about single guys is you can tailor your desires. Sometimes we want a piece of meat, sometimes we want more connection. We just advertise for something specific and sometimes are able to find it.

Interesting this topic came up. As some of you read in my introduction, I am now a single M.Male back in the lifestyle with my wife's permission. When my wife and I swung several years back we started out with couples. I soon realized that the sight of my wife with another guy distracted my focus from the attention I needed to direct to his wife. It wasn't because I was uncomfortable with my wife screwing another guy, on the contrary, it was because watching my wife with another man seemed to turn me on even more that having another woman. Don't get me wrong, I did encounter wives that I was VERY attracted to and things worked great. BUT, I wanted to see my wife screwing another guy so much that we found MFM situations were actually the best sex for both my wife and I. I never knew I had a cuck side until we got into the lifestyle. Now that I recently got back into the lifestyle as a single M.Male my focus has changed. What I want now is to be that "other" guy for men who love the same thing I did and as a side benefit to explore my bi side. I am not after his wife, honestly, I truly want to see both of these people have great orgasms and I prefer they orgasm before I do because that is how my mind works best. Kind of my reward to myself for doing a good job I guess.

They really fill the bill when you have that urge to be talked to and treated like a total slut.

I know some think single swinging males can be a little... well, too horny, creepy, or desperate.

Single males are most likely horny:) Most single males are not single because they are "creepy". Some men are single by choice.

Do you enjoy using them as a piece of meat for your pleasure?

Having been on both sides I never minded being used like a toy. I have always treated the men that have had sex with my wife with respect.

Q:What do you like about single male swingers?

A: Not much!

We've never ascribed to the theory that calling oneself a swinger actually makes one a swinger. I think it would be sufficient to simply refer to single males as…well, single males. Swinger couples may invite a spare penis into their play time but otherwise, a single male is just that. If a couple doesn't make use of him, what does he do? Sex without a partner?? That's NOT swinging!! Single males have nothing to trade, they are looking for a warm wet NSA place to put it and bring nothing to the party but said penis. That being said, sometimes a 2nd dick is useful but if we really need one of them, we can find one at any vanilla bar on any Friday night and we wouldn't have to listen to any mindless drivel abut how fulfilling their "lifestyle" experiences have been.

I have to say that that is not a very respectful way of thinking about single men. Now, I realize that many single guys have failed to earn respect, by being themselves disrespectful and inconsiderate. But not all guys are like that. Some are actual three-dimensional people, who treat the women and couples with consideration and sensitivity, and are interested in the friendship as well as the play. Those people deserve to be treated as more than a piece of anatomy, just as women deserve to be treated like more than sex objects by single guys.

I feel that a core concept of swinging is the aspect of allowing sex without the romantic emotional attachment, non-monogamous fun sex. According to that concept, lots of people are swingers, including single and solo men and women who are not swapping a significant other. It may not be your cup of tea, but I see no reason to try to exclude them from the ranks of swingers.

There was a question. I answered it and explained my answer, our answer actually. The OP didn't ask that answers be sugar coated and mine wasn't. Further, I don't believe that I am subject to the jurisdiction of thought police.

There was a question. I answered it and explained my answer, our answer actually. The OP didn't ask that answers be sugar coated and mine wasn't. Further, I don't believe that I am subject to the jurisdiction of thought police.

You got it! I don't want sugar coated answers as that won't accurately reflect how the populous feels on here. Personally, I always show respect and go with context. I would be a guest, therefor, I would act like one. I like to be treated with respect, but find it highly arousing to be personally used as just a cock but not a cuck. I realize I am outnumbered when joining a couple. It's their rules I go by.

Some men are single by choice.

This! I love masturbating so much that it is not pressing to have sex.

There was a question. I answered it and explained my answer, our answer actually. The OP didn't ask that answers be sugar coated and mine wasn't. Further, I don't believe that I am subject to the jurisdiction of thought police.

I do not think any thought police have checked in here! I support your right to post your opinion, just as I expect you support my right to disagree with your opinion and explain why I disagree with it.

I'm not asking for sugar coated answers. I just think that people in the lifestyle should be treated with respect. In my particular case, I would not be inclined to spend time with a couple who did not have basic respect for me as a whole person, who thought of me as a piece of equipment. Others' opinions vary!

You can disagree all you want with my opinion without being a common scold ("that is not a very respectful way of thinking about single men"). I answered a blog question, period. Since you and I have never spoken in depth, you haven't a clue about my thoughts on any subject or individual. To presume that you do and then to draw a conclusion and make a judgement on my "way of thinking" fits my definition of thought police.

Oh, relax.

If I said, "not a very respectful way of talking about single men", would that make you more comfortable?

Once again, you immediately leap to a conclusion without having any knowledge or direct contact at all. There is nothing in any of my posts that indicates that you've made me "uncomfortable" in any way. I seriously doubt that there is a circumstance in which you could. It's more likely that my posts are striking a bit close to home for you and that YOU are the one who is uncomfortable. As for spending time with us as a couple, wouldn't we have to invite you first, before you'd become un-inclined?

Please save your psychoanalysis for someone else. And rest assured that, were I talking about you (and my post did not indicate that I was talking about you- a conclusion that you've jumped to, I guess), I know enough about you to know that I would never want to seek an invitation.

To return to the point, and the question of the OP: I, and many of my friends, like single male swingers who go against the stereotype of single guys, who are respectful and courteous, who are three-dimensional people who are interesting and interested, who think of themselves as more than appliances, and who are capable of becoming good friends. Those are the single male swingers to seek out. It's worth sorting through the rest to get to those people!

Let's get back on topic here folks.

What we like about single males is the same thing we like about single females: it's easier to make a three-way match than a four-way match.

Let's get back on topic here folks.

 

What we like about single males is the same thing we like about single females: it's easier to make a three-way match than a four-way match.

That's kinda what I'm getting it is that there seems to be a stigma to single males for many in the swinging community. The assumption seems to be that they act like assholes or are just thoughtless for anyone but themselves.

The assumption seems to be that they act like assholes or are just thoughtless for anyone but themselves.

What is behind that is the simple truth that some do. You don't have to be around swinging very long, either on the online sites or the clubs, before you will experience it. The key word there is the SOME. There are couples that act that way too, but the percentage is much, much less in our experience. Enough single guys are like that to make your starting point an assumption they are like that until they prove otherwise. Some people don't want to deal with it at all, so they just paint with a broad brush and assume all guys are like that and don't even give them a chance to prove otherwise, while others are more open to at least giving a guy a chance to prove himself.

What it comes down to is that people swing to have fun, and when you try to have fun, having to deal with some single guy acting like an idiot is not fun. It's the bad apples that ruin it for the whole group, and that's unfortunate, but there are a lot of things in life like that.

We do not look for singles. No particular issues with them at the meets as there are other couples looking for that and more power to them. At the clubs and parties it is a different matter. The atmosphere is totally different when there are unlimited singles allowed. At a club on a couples-only night the men are doing little high fives in the halls as they pass, it's all smiles, women are dancing naked. With a significant amount of singles there is a more visceral feeling and people are on guard and there is an air of competition.

I am not totally dissing that second experience. We mostly go on the couples-only nights but we do occasionally go to the more inclusive nights as well for a more "intense" exhibitionist experience, you get a better audience

They really fill the bill when you have that urge to be talked to and treated like a total slut.

When I first read this I thought "Some of the women will be excited to hear this, and some will say 'thanks for the warning'".

So, how about another perspective? As for us as a couple, we are open to new adventures. Our fun could be over tomorrow for some unknown reason so we hate to pass up an opportunity if it presents something new. The "Single Male" is an interesting creature. We can't lump them into one catagory. The one that we have no time for is the single male trying to play without the knowledge of his female partner. If they are married we ask that the female partner comes along with them for the first social meeting to confirm that they truly do have a hall pass. We have yet to have any takers on that scenario. My wife scans some sites on a daily basis in case that diamond in the rough happens to show up responding to our profile. She is also the type that is not looking for 32 glorious cock pics. If that is all you have to offer, just keep on moving. She says they have to get into her brain first before they will ever get in her pants. I never second guess her choices. She has a wonderful sense of sorting them out. Once they are screened they know that this is not a one time thing.They will need to be repeat offenders. It has worked for us to stay occupied while we search for those elusive couples for "Married and Dating".

I (the male) always enjoyed watching the single male in our first date. Some of them suave and confident, others nervous and unable to roll the ball. My wife enjoyed it as well, playing them along, seeing how far they'll go in public.

Another thing was once they came to our home, watching them try to seal the deal. My wife was a chatter, she'd give the guys a tour of the house and go on forever about the history of a doodad. (After talking about it, we discovered it was an unconscious thing - she wanted the guy to make the first move, he was never sure about how far he could go.) I'd get us all drinks, then go upstairs for a few minutes to prepare the bedroom. When I'd come back down, a few times they'd be kissing, but much more often she was still droning away. That's when I'd get behind her and unbutton her blouse or something, or break in and ask him if he wanted to taste her lipstick. That got them going . . .

Now, of course, I don't think anybody enjoys the single male who is just a jerk on-line. But those never got through our vetting process.

A fascinating way to people watch!