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Thanks, Kitty! That was fun.

 

Seems I'm honest but not very poly, although I'm tolerant of those who are. That's no surprise to me. :)

 

Mr. Alura

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You're 69% Poly

84% tolerant of the poly lifestyle

you're 0% just in it for the sex

 

I am completely tolerant of poly folks, but the thought of sharing the remote with a third person and trying to split the holidays between 3 families would just be exhausting. I guess I'm just too dang practical for my own good. :)

 

Pepper

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You're 61% Poly =) 81% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 21% just in it for the sex =))

 

I think the Poly lifestyle is cool for those that can do it but I doubt if I could. Then again, you just never know. :)

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74% Poly

89% Tolerant

14% In it for the sex

 

Although I don't think I could be in a poly relationship I am very curious about the day to day functioning of this lifestyle. Fortunately, I have had the opportunity to meet such a trio and they have helped me to understand some of the different aspects.

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You're 76% Poly

81% tolerant of the poly lifestyle

But... you're 29% just in it for the sex

 

Boy.......that's interesting. I thought I'd be 100% in it for the sex :lol:

 

I could see the advantages.....the women having someone else to turn to when we guys "just don't get it" :rollseyes

 

But lookout when the cycles intertwine and you've got twice the pms'ing :hahaha:

 

I'd certainly listen and give it some thought if Tammy were interested in it. But it wouldn't be anything that I'd persue on my own.

 

Brett

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You're 58% Poly

68% tolerant of the poly lifestyle

23% just in it for the sex

It goes on to say...

You're not very poly yourself (and that's cool - there's nothing wrong with monogamy at all =)) and you're awfully tolerant of poly relationships which is a very cool thing =)

 

On top of that you scored low on the "just want to get laid by everyone" scale and high on the honesty scale - all in all - you're my favorite non poly person today =)

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Kinda biased questions, but fun nonetheless: "You're 83% Poly =) 99% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 4% just in it for the sex"

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89% on True Poly, 82% on Tolerance, 23% on Sex Only.

 

OK - now that I know this, what comes next? :lol:

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Mr. here.....

 

You're 56% Poly

72% tolerant of the poly lifestyle

25% just in it for the sex

 

Hmm...........tolerant, yes, not surprised. But, unfortunately, I did not find the questions tricky at all. I have a tough time with those kinds of things, they are usually too easy to figure out. Psychiatrists hate me, I can twist their silly little tests.... :lol:

Oh, well, I just wanna have fun, maybe that just for sex # needs some work? :D

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yeah..there is no way i could do the whole actual functioning poly relationship; i'm way too bitchy..lol. i don't think anyone in the world would put up with me on a day to day basis except dear ole hubby.

 

i was in the tolerant but not for me crowd as well.

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Strange for being in a semi-poly where the second female stays about 3 nights per week, compared to folks like intuition who are committed swingers...

 

You're 72% Poly

76% tolerant of the poly lifestyle

(But... you're 24% just in it for the sex =))

 

Ooooooohhhh Aaaaaaaaahhhhhh

 

You're poly.

 

You're tolerant of poly lifestyle. (Good for you you like yourself!)

 

You're not just here for the sex.

 

And you won't lie to your mate.

 

I *Like* YOU.

 

LOL,

-seriously

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Mr. Menage's Results:

97% on True Poly

90% on Tolerance

1% on Sex Only

1% on Honesty

 

The Other Mrs. Menage's Results:

96% on True Poly

88% on Tolerance

4% on Sex Only

0% on Honesty

 

Mrs. Menage's (the workaholic) hasn't had a chance to take it yet but she will and we will post her's later.

 

NOW...............let us first explain something - the True Poly and Tolerance number represents whether you are or are not a poly person and/or tolerant of that lifestyle. The number for the Sex only and Honesty is a percentile rating based on the number of people who have taken the quiz. The way the questions are structured, if you are a true poly person or tolerant of poly's the questions will not allow you have have a high number for the Sex and Honesty. The reason for this is in a true poly relationship it's not about JUST sex and HONEST is priorty! Don't get us wrong SEX is very vital part of any HEALTH relationship but just like in a traditional marriage it's much much deeper than just sex.

 

In this particular test it is impossible to score high on sex and answer the questions based on a TRUE poly relationship. As for the honesty, if you are an honest person you will score in the low range for example, Mr. Menage scored a 1% which means that he was almost totally honest. Just for the fun of it - we took the test together didn't try to answer it like we were a poly couple and answered as if we were only in it for the sex and didn't care if we were dishonest to our partner. Our results were the following:

2% on True Poly

4% on Tolerance

99% on Sex Only

98% on Honesty

 

See! What a hoot....if you answer based on a true poly relationship it's impossible to get high scores on the sex and honesty issues.

 

This was actually alot of fun for us but yet very natural and easy.....obviously it explains why we are in the poly relationship we are in BUT we are a little perplexed by the lower tolerance levels we have......HMMMM

 

To Mrs. Goodtimes:

We loved sharing our poly lifestyle with you and if you need more ANSWER'S to all those questions spinning around in that beautiful head of yours ASK away....Same for anyone else.........we are an open book.

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Yeah, weird, eh? I answered the questions assuming that it was a perfect world. Mr. and I are definitely not a poly couple in reality, but we grasp the concept of it. I believe that in the right circumstances and with the right group of people involved, it has a lot of potential and makes sense. I doubt that we'll ever find ourselves in such circumstances, though. Without even getting into all the external social bullshit polys have to deal with (families disowning you, losing friends, etc), my relationship with Mr. intuition requires a LOT of my energy. It's not a lack of love to go around, just energy. I would find an arrangement like this draining on my energy reserves whereas serious polys find just the opposite. They would find it to be restorative.

 

We had discussed the possibility of adding to our relationship, but concluded that - at least at this time - it just wasn't for us. It probably never will be, and I don't have an interest in developing a relationship with anyone else like the one I have with him.

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Yep, Dito on Intuition897's last posting...

 

Based on my results:

71% Poly

86% tolerant of the poly lifestyle

14% just in it for the sex

 

I'd say the test is a little off on the Poly rating... I'm very tolerant of the idea of a poly relationship and find it hugely interesting, but I know for a fact that I'd go green with envy if my wife were to be emotionally involved with any other person.

 

But it was fun and that's mostly the idea behind these tests, nice one...

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I wouldn't be able to excited about it either way, just one of those things off my radar so to speak. :o

 

Fave Non Poly =)

You're 63% Poly =) 77% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 8% just in it for the sex =))

You're not very poly yourself (and that's cool - there's nothing wrong with monogamy at all =)) and you're awfully tolerant of poly relationships which is a very cool thing =)

 

On top of that you scored low on the "just want to get laid by everyone" scale and high on the honesty scale - all in all - you're my favorite non poly person today =)

 

Nice to meet you!

 

Oh - just so you don't go off wondering - the first question? the one about monogamous cultures? the answer is 16% of recorded cultures have been monogamous - 84% have been non monogamous! how about that? =)

 

Have a good one =) Gabriel_Night

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You're 72% Poly

81% tolerant of the poly lifestyle

But...you're 0% just in it for the sex

 

LM

 

This is weird...

 

My numbers were identical to yours...

 

I guess we'll just have to stay friends ;)

 

Actually, my poly number was a LOT lower, but still... Pretty creepy... How can we both be 0% into it for the sex??? LM - are we just here to get our hands on your pretzel recipe???

 

It said I am tolerant of the idea of poly - which I already knew. It isn't for me. My house just isn't big enough. But for people who make it work, good for them :)

 

Spoomonkey

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89% Poly

100% Tolerant

13% Sex

 

Kind of interesting given how comfortable I am in my current male/female relationship. For the most part, though not always, I do like an emtional connection with play partners.

 

David

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You're 74% Poly =) 80% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 4% just in it for the sex =))

Ooooooohhhh Aaaaaaaaahhhhhh

You're poly.

 

You're tolerant of poly lifestyle. (Good for you you like yourself!)

 

You're not just here for the sex.

 

And you won't lie to your mate.

 

 

Who would have thought? :rolleyes:

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You're 53% Poly =) 69% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 34% just in it for the sex =))

 

 

Guess I'm not that Poly...

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You're 76% Poly =) 76% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 20% just in it for the sex =))

 

Hmmmm I would have figured I would score higher on the just in it for sex number....

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You're 86% Poly =) 89% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 17% just in it for the sex =)) Ooooooohhhh Aaaaaaaaahhhhhh

 

You're poly.

 

You're tolerant of poly lifestyle. (Good for you you like yourself!)

 

You're not just here for the sex.

 

And you won't lie to your mate.

 

I *Like* YOU.

 

Congratualtions on being a pretty good person =)

Wow. Who'd of thunk it. We have two friend couples that are good friends, we don't play with (unfortunately) who are poly. I can say their kids are some of the most well adjusted, well behaved we've come across. And they are some of the most tolerant people we know, too.

 

Now us? I've mentioned in other posts that Mrs. WS especially is toward the poly side with relationships we build with others. I definitely love the lifestyle for the social aspect of it. So maybe I am more poly they I thought. :rollseyes

 

Now I just need to talk to Mrs. WS about those other two women the quiz mentioned. :lol:

 

Mr. WS

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You're 78% Poly =) 91% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 17% just in it for the sex =))

 

I found this test and the choices I made problematic. For many of the questions the way they were framed and the answers supplied, made it impossible for me to feel certain about THE answer for me. I found truth to some degree or another in two, three, and sometimes all four of the answers. If I were to be able to select more than one of the answers, I probably would have also scored 93% conflicted! :lol:

 

I had fun though too! Make that 94% conflicted.

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You're 73% Poly =) 81% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 22% just in it for the sex =))

 

That was an interesting test. OK Cupid has got some great tests, this was one of the better ones.

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What a shock !!!

 

UOMO (of all people) ... is NON Poly: 46% (w/ 34% just in it for sex).

 

My scoring the lowest (yet) in this poll is completely inconsistent with my outspoken (& since abandoned) advocacy of "making love" in the lifestyle. :confused:

 

Not quite sure what to make of the results (... or the survey).

 

I am (it appears) ... a mystery even to myself.

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Heavenly Perfection

You're 74% Poly =) 87% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 21% just in it for the sex =))

Ooooooohhhh Aaaaaaaaahhhhhh

 

You're poly.

 

You're tolerant of poly lifestyle. (Good for you you like yourself!)

 

You're not just here for the sex.

 

And you won't lie to your mate.

 

I *Like* YOU.

 

Congratualtions on being a pretty good person =)

 

 

 

 

Not suprising :lol: , but a fun test.

 

 

 

Teresa

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You're 83% Poly =) 86% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 21% just in it for the sex =))

 

I'm a little surprised by these results. But then again, I also don't expect it to be 100% accurate. Fun though!

 

~SS

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the mrs here scored:

 

Heavenly Perfection

You're 89% Poly =) 93% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 2% just in it for the sex =))

Ooooooohhhh Aaaaaaaaahhhhhh

 

You're poly.

 

You're tolerant of poly lifestyle. (Good for you you like yourself!)

 

You're not just here for the sex.

 

And you won't lie to your mate.

 

I *Like* YOU.

 

Congratualtions on being a pretty good person =)

 

Gabriel_Night

 

Oh - just so you don't go off wondering - the first question? the one about monogamous cultures? the answer is 16% of recorded cultures have been monogamous - 84% have been non monogamous! how about that? =)

 

 

 

My test tracked 4 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender:

 

You scored higher than 99% on True Poly

 

You scored higher than 99% on Tolerance

 

You scored higher than 99% on Sex Only

 

You scored higher than 99% on Honesty

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You're 76% Poly =) 92% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 0% just in it for the sex =))

 

Well, it's biased, what makes sense since it's intended to profile you for the dating service they provide. I am 0% just in "what" for the sex? In a polyamorous relationship, as portrayed by the test author, sure... but meanwhile... and in between, I am 100% just in for the sex, for as long as it doesn't hurt my beloved ones feelings... and since we're swingers... it doesnt! :)

 

Oh, btw:

 

You scored higher than 99% on True Poly

 

You scored higher than 99% on Tolerance

 

You scored higher than 99% on Sex Only

 

You scored higher than 99% on Honesty

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I was only in it for 15% of the sex.... :sad::lol: nice little test. Would have to say the 15% sex...is so good with these two ladies (our poly group), that just fine with me :kissface:

 

They keeping, bringing up the Pussycat Dolls song..."Don't wish your girlfriend was hot like me!"...except when they sing it it goes "Don't you know your girlfriend is hot like me!", and "arn't you glad she is a freak like me!".

 

Poor, poor me... :rolleyes:

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89% Poly, 5% just for the sex. I am soooo disapointed in my sex drive today!!

 

Mext question that comes to mind is how to get the wife interested in me having a second wife? I know she wants one but just for chores!!

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You're 64% Poly =) 66% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 18% just in it for the sex =))

 

You're not very poly yourself (and that's cool - there's nothing wrong with monogamy at all =)) and you're awfully tolerant of poly relationships which is a very cool thing =)

 

On top of that you scored low on the "just want to get laid by everyone" scale and high on the honesty scale - all in all - you're my favorite non poly person today =)

 

 

You scored higher than 99% on True Poly

 

You scored higher than 99% on Tolerance

 

You scored higher than 99% on Sex Only

 

You scored higher than 99% on Honesty

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I know its not a scientific test and just for fun but the questions are very leading and pretty useless as a real guide.

 

12. One poly relationship consists of 1 man and 3 women, what does this say about the man?

He's a sex maniac.

He has problems with *real* commitment.

He's incredibly loving and must be an astounding person to be so loved in return.

He needs to find another man to help out.

 

Example of a 'none of the above need apply'.

 

But my score is....

 

Heavenly Perfection

You're 73% Poly =) 82% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 19% just in it for the sex =))

Ooooooohhhh Aaaaaaaaahhhhhh

 

You're poly.

 

You're tolerant of poly lifestyle. (Good for you you like yourself!)

 

You're not just here for the sex.

 

And you won't lie to your mate.

 

I *Like* YOU.

 

Congratualtions on being a pretty good person =)

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Fave Non Poly =)

You're 46% Poly =) 69% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 13% just in it for the sex =))

You're not very poly yourself (and that's cool - there's nothing wrong with monogamy at all =)) and you're awfully tolerant of poly relationships which is a very cool thing =)

 

On top of that you scored low on the "just want to get laid by everyone" scale and high on the honesty scale - all in all - you're my favorite non poly person today =)

 

Nice to meet you!

 

Oh - just so you don't go off wondering - the first question? the one about monogamous cultures? the answer is 16% of recorded cultures have been monogamous - 84% have been non monogamous! how about that? =)

 

Have a good one =) Gabriel_Night

 

 

 

My test tracked 4 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender:

 

You scored higher than 99% on True Poly

You scored higher than 99% on Tolerance

You scored higher than 99% on Sex Only

You scored higher than 99% on Honesty

 

There were more than a few questions where you really had no choice to either pick a really "bad" answer or a really "good" one...no true middle of the road stuff. Ahh well it was still fun

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Damn I wish I kept my answers. :(

Anyway I was todays favorit non poly person. :D

I am curious about the idea, and would love to pick your brains Menage.

I am happy putting up with just one Dog. :lol:

Your friend,

Prettylady :kissface:

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You're 84% Poly =) 82% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 15% just in it for the sex =))

 

"Heavenly Perfection," indeed.... :rolleyes:

 

Well, after 23 years and all...

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Heavenly Perfection

You're 88% Poly =) 93% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 2% just in it for the sex =))

 

I'm Suprised but wow something new to explore!

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You're 92% Poly =) 94% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 0% just in it for the sex =))

Ooooooohhhh Aaaaaaaaahhhhhh

You're poly.

 

You're tolerant of poly lifestyle. (Good for you you like yourself!)

 

You're not just here for the sex.

 

And you won't lie to your mate.

 

I *Like* YOU.

 

Congratualtions on being a pretty good person =)

 

The 0% in it for the sex is funny next to one of their other quizes:

The Results ARE IN! You are:

 

70%

Slut

 

Your above score was normalized against the average, so don't even TRY to disagree with us. Science is certain, and so are we: you are absolutely 70% Slutty.

 

GO FIGURE hehe

:lol:

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The way the questions are structured, if you are a true poly person or tolerant of poly's the questions will not allow you have have a high number for the Sex and Honesty.

 

I'm sure glad you explained the way the test was graded. Especially in light of my results.

 

You're 32% Poly =)

53% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =)

(But... you're 58% just in it for the sex =))

 

You scored higher than 1% on True Poly

You scored higher than 1% on Tolerance

You scored higher than 99% on Sex Only

You scored higher than 87% on Honesty

 

Thanks

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Thanks for bumping this thread. I had missed it before.

 

74% Poly

89% Tolerant

14% In it for the sex

 

 

That seems about right, I'd say.

 

Sarah

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Your Score: Heavenly Perfection

You're 72% Poly =) 85% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 39% just in it for the sex =))

 

Ooooooohhhh Aaaaaaaaahhhhhh

 

You're poly.

 

You're tolerant of poly lifestyle. (Good for you you like yourself!)

 

You're not just here for the sex.

 

And you won't lie to your mate.

 

I *Like* YOU.

 

Congratualtions on being a pretty good person =)

 

 

When M's next home, I'll offer him the opportunity to take the test also...or asking over the phone one long late night. Though, I was hoping it would say I was more in it for the sex.

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You're 77% Poly =) 84% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 21% just in it for the sex =))

Ooooooohhhh Aaaaaaaaahhhhhh

You're poly.

 

You're tolerant of poly lifestyle. (Good for you you like yourself!)

 

You're not just here for the sex.

 

And you won't lie to your mate.

 

I *Like* YOU.

 

Congratualtions on being a pretty good person =)

 

S

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Your Score: Heavenly Perfection

 

You're 76% Poly =) 81% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 19% just in it for the sex =))

 

Ooooooohhhh Aaaaaaaaahhhhhh

 

You're poly.

 

You're tolerant of poly lifestyle. (Good for you you like yourself!)

 

You're not just here for the sex.

 

And you won't lie to your mate.

 

I *Like* YOU.

 

Congratualtions on being a pretty good person =)

 

I think I'm mostly surprised (in a pleasantly yet weirdly surprised way) that I scored that high on the "in it just for the sex" portion. Makes me feel a bit :hahaha: for some reason. Must be the detached ISTJ in me.

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Your Score: Compassionate

You're 85% Poly =) 92% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 11% just in it for the sex =))

 

********

Kind of a fun quiz.

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      We have been playing with a couple for about five years on and off. We see them at our club, at some resorts and at local house parties. Wherever we are, she always seeks out my husband. We have all been together many times and I enjoy her husband very much, but for my husband and I, it’s literally just sex.
       
      She is very different with my husband lately than with her other partners. I believe she has fallen for him. When I see them together, she is very passionate and attentive to him in ways that I don’t see when she’s with other men. My husband rolls with it and is always a pleaser.
       
      We don’t want to make things uncomfortable or lose their friendship, but we are getting uncomfortable with the notion that she may be interested in a deeper relationship than we have experienced with other partners.
       
      Should we just go with it? I’m not sure I can handle sharing him that way and I don’t think he’s interested in that type of relationship either. Thoughts about when the sex leads to something more?
    • By Bluespruce1
      So we took in a very good friend about six weeks ago following a very ugly split with her ex. We have know both of them for about ten years and started playing together about three years ago. I actually have known her much longer and before we started hanging out as couples.
       
      Anyway, things have evolved to a point where we are sharing our bed 4-5 nights per week. We are playing together and separately. For example, in the morning it’s not unusual for me to come out of the shower and find her and my husband snuggling, touching and even fucking. I actually love seeing them together and have no feelings of jealousy. She and I are doing the same and actually took the day off Wednesday and simply spent the day in bed alone while he was at work. It’s not all about sex, but it’s clear that she really loves him and I think he feels the same about her. I know that I care deeply for her and may actually be in love as well.
       
      We prepare meals together, hang out in the evenings together, play together and still swing separately, but it is definitely decreasing. Everything feels very natural and relaxed and we are all content - have we found ourselves slipping into a true polyamorous relationship? I never really thought about it and we were talking about it last night.
       
      Thoughts? Warnings? This is uncharted territory.
    • By Fla-swing99
      This is the wife half asking this question. Am I correct in the definition of a poly in the fact that it means you believe you can love more than one person at the same time?
       
      If so, I am a little confused on how that can be. I guess I always felt that if you are truly in love your heart and soul is to that one person. How can you love more than one person at once and still feel that it is really love to both or either person?
       
      Please don’t take my question as a negative one, I am just very curious and would love to learn about how it works. I have only recently learned or heard about the lifestyle of polyamores, so I am intrigued and curious to learn a bit more on it. Also how then do you feel that you have met your soulmate, or do you believe there is no such thing or even possibly more than one soulmate for you?
       
      Thank you for any replies that may help me to understand this better.
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