One thing we do that adds to the fun is that she gets a hickey on different parts of her body from the lover or lovers she's had that night. When she gets home I look for the hickeys and then she can tell me who it was or what was happening. We found that by doing this she would remember some of the things that were happening that when she was telling me about it she might have forgotten before. It allows both of us to relive the night and for me it is as if I was there.