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- Birthday 11/08/1968
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sjbluebirds
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Bluebirds in San Jose started following Long pussy lips - like them?, How Did You Come Up With Your User/Screen Name?, Name for non-swingers? and and 2 others
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Non Swingers..... might be called "Muggles". Or not. "Straight" seems to work, though. As far as being 'not-straight'..... We've always said 'Bent'. We've also used 'Kinked'.
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Swinging with siblings or in-laws?
Bluebirds in San Jose replied to rounder's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
Don't just assume that there isn't any attraction.... The thought's passed through the minds of the men involved. They won't admit it, of course, but.... ... they're MEN! for crying out loud! -
Swinging with siblings or in-laws?
Bluebirds in San Jose replied to rounder's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
Same-room sex has happened with siblings... actually, it was same-tent sex on a camping trip. It was dark, so, no, I never *saw* my wife's sister and her husband .... but we certainly heard them, and they heard us. The occasional bumping knee or shoulder was the contact we had, though. We all had one of the best weekends out camping -- EVER. It was more emotionally satisfying than anything else; we all thought it brought the four of us closer than ever before. -
Poll - Where are you from?
Bluebirds in San Jose replied to Perseus's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
Hey, I need to change our vote! Can someone use their awesome superpowers and change our vote from "other" to the WestCoast/California one? We voted "other" when the better choice wasn't available. See what happens when you change the rules in the middle of the game?!!!?? -J -
Poll - Where are you from?
Bluebirds in San Jose replied to Perseus's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
Hmmm. General "United States -- West" doesn't seem to be an option. California doesn't seem to have an option, other than 'Other'. Grumble grumble. Maybe we *should* secede.... -J, of the SJBluebirds -
WHoooooo ARE You?
Bluebirds in San Jose replied to JustAskJulie's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
Well, it's the male half who posts most often for us, since I telecommute, and I can see them during the workday. In the evenings, it's both of us. -
Swinging versus Religion
Bluebirds in San Jose replied to wereinheat's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
This is interesting. Of the limited number of responses in this thread, of the people who have professed a belief one way or the other, those that have named a religion they belong to are generic Christian, or specifically Catholic. Does someone know how to start a poll along the lines of "If (and only if) you belong to an organized religion, which best describes it:" And then list a number of religions. My hunch (and it's only a hunch/gut feeling at this point) that the majority of 'swingers' who claim to be Christian are specifically Catholic. In my own experience, I'd say from 70-80 percent of the couples we've played with have been, or were once, Catholic. I have my own suspicions *why* this may be, and it has nothing to do with repressive sexuality or abusive clergy. (Akin to the easier/more prevalent acceptance of sensuality within prayer than other Christian faiths... Dont' get me started on this.... ) Anyone want to develop (or know how) to post a poll like this? -J of the SJBluebirds:) -
Swinging versus Religion
Bluebirds in San Jose replied to wereinheat's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
I checked out the Liberated Christians a few years ago. They're a little too ... how do I say this without offending them? ... a little too 'mainstream protestant'. We Catholics like to think we're the only 'real' Christians out there -J, of the SJBluebirds -
Swinging versus Religion
Bluebirds in San Jose replied to wereinheat's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
OK; Who here believes for a minute that I am a regular married church-going Christian who both attends weekly church services *and* occasionally plays in the bedroom with friends? Let's see a show of hands! OK, I thought so; no one believes me. Nevertheless, it's true. I'm a practicing Roman Catholic, and I'm active in many parts of my parish, including acting as a former parish council member, Lector, and currently active in the Social Justice group. My kids are enrolled in the CCD classes ('religious education'), there, too. Why do we 'swing'? The answer to that is different for each couple, so I won't go into that, here; it's not the question I'm answering. Why do we *not* have a problem with swinging vis-a-vis 'religion'? Because we feel it's not "Adultery". It's not a matter of being 'unfaithful' to our spouse; it's not 'cheating'. The commitment is to each other in this (or any other valid) marriage. The promise is to work together to build a life for us and our children. We have friendships, true, with other couples, and we can express those friendships through some very intimate means; but we're not building a life with them. We're not part of their families, nor are they part of ours. It's a matter of focus and commitment. Of course, this is just a gloss of our thoughts and reasons. Entire books could be - and probably have been - written about this. We simply don't see a contradiction between playtime and faith. - J, of the SJBluebirds -
How do you meet potential swing partners?
Bluebirds in San Jose replied to Emilie's topic in Finding People to Swing With
Granted, we're coming to this thread kinda late... We're getting throroughly frustrated trying to meet other couples. We've been to on-premise clubs, and find the single-guys turn them into meat-markets. We've posted ads/profiles online. We've been patient and gracious with the people we've contacted. We've hit it off very well with meaningful, appropriate, and all-signs-pointing-to-good-chemistry e-mails. *WE* think we're good looking. But maybe we're not. The weird thing is that the e-mail conversations and plans for meets for coffee or drinks STOP as soon as we send photos of ourselves -- even the G-Rated ones. We're educated, we're parents, we're professionals in our fields, we're clean, respected by the community (but not public figures), we have good communication skills, and we're centered and well-adjusted. We're not fat, but we're between 20-25 lbs overweight -- aka "Average Americans". We're "In-shape". She's taller than most women. I'm thinning on top, and we're both going grey. We're NOT worn-out, and we think we look good. But we come back to the issue of weeks of good conversation coming to a screeching halt as soon as we send pictures. Anyone care to comment on this frustrating situation? Are we doing something wrong? PS: It's the pictures, isn't it?