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samandtammi started following Alcohol and the lifestyle, What initially attracts you to a couple?, Is this a fair statement? and and 5 others
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What initially attracts you to a couple?
samandtammi replied to Fundamental Law's topic in Swingers Talk
One of the most important things for me is the connection the other couple has with each other. If they are not a loving couple, it won't work for me. Although looks certainly do matter, if a man has a good personality and can make me laugh, I'm good to go. -
Yes, it's accurate.
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Thanks for all the help! We will have to think about what works best for the group and the space. The party is not for a few weeks.
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We are throwing a small house party with about 8- 10 couples. We would like to warm up the guests with a fun game to get everyone in the mood. We don't want anything too provocative and intimate in case some guests don't want to be intimate with certain other guests. Any suggestions?
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The issue was not pregnancy but I totally agree that it would be a decision made by my friend. What a mess that would be! The issue for me was the total lack of respect. He put her health in danger and did not say a word. WTF is that?
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I don't think pregnancy is something she was concerned about. I was just pretty shocked that the guy just carried on as if nothing had happened. She was shocked when she found it! UGH! I asked her if she knows the guy and she does. I told her she should say something!
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I haven't seen this topic (I looked)... Have you or your s/o ever played with a man and they lost their condom inside you? Did they tell you?! A friend relayed a story that she played with a guy and 3 (yes 3) days later, the condom appeared when she was peeing. He had never said anything so she was unaware that it went missing. Curious to hear it this is a thing!
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Spotting interested couples.....
samandtammi replied to StartingOver60's topic in Finding People to Swing With
PartnersID.com has been selling swinger jewelry for years. They sell black rings with the swinger logo (someone approached us in France so don't tell me there is no symbol). They sell upside down pineapples and a host of other well known symbols such as poly rings and what not. We have met many couples because we wear this jewelry. We would never approach someone who is wearing any kind of pineapple anything other than their charm. Black rings are all over so having their logo on it makes it very clear to other people what it means. Like the shirt above says: when you know, you know. As fo the furry animal, I can't imagine... -
You are correct. They are super sweet people but neither of us are interested in having sex with either of them. Just not our type. We love them as friends, but that does not translate to interest in having sex with them.
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Friends of ours (who know we are swingers) have told us they would like to swing. We do not want to swing with them (for many reasons). We directed them to this board for some information and advice and suggested trying a local swing club. What advice would you give them?
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I genuinely appreciate your response. I am not an alcoholic and I am never over inebriated at the club or anywhere else. I generally have 2 drinks over the course of many hours that we are there, but again, when it's 3 nights per week, that's more alcohol than I want. I was trying to explain that I realize alcohol is a crutch in the lifestyle to overcome inhibitions and I would like to be comfortable without alcohol. Your response is kind ,helpful and that's what I was looking for. I do love the feeling of not drinking and the power to enjoy the lifestyle without. I will keep plugging away and see how it goes!
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I have been in the lifestyle for many years and with all of these nights out comes a lot of drinking. We go to a swing club at least 3 nights every week, so that adds up to a lot of drinking. I decided recently that I would like to try to stop drinking, Join the One Year No Beer Challenge (but I drink whiskey). It has only been one week so far and the nights at the club were not great. We did not go back to the playroom so that I have not tried to do yet! I can already see and feel the benefits of no alcohol and would like to stick with it. Has anyone tried swinging sober?
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Friend who can't keep his hands to himself
samandtammi replied to samandtammi's topic in Swingers Talk
My husband has spoken with him in the past but I think the best approach is to tell him what you guys have said. That should shake him up and make him realize that it's not all fun and games, it's actually sexual assault!