JamesCurious I have read "Divine Sex" completely and have started to reread it again. I applaud you for opening up to your wife with your thoughts and feelings. Even if nothing else happens, the improved communication with your wife will certainly make the two of you much stronger. While my late wife could not wrap her head around "Sex outside of marriage" we did talk a lot. I have since remarried and my now wife and I communicate very openly. No, we are not active in the Lifestyle but we talk about it almost all of the time. I believe it is all about communication and getting past all of the misinformation that exist about those in the lifestyle. I wish you the best! ifonly1