Well I think we really dont know what the use of the words "surprised me" meant in her case. She obviously felt pressure to meet with them at her husbands request, who wouldnt, I mean hes letting her do another guy while hes there, that is confusing for begining women/wifes. Its only natural that shes gonna want to do something for him. But they got into this at his request that she do another guy, he made the deal that he wasnt interested in doing another woman. Im in the same boat, although she has made it very clear that she wont share me and thats fine with me, my excitment is purley watching her,,,,eventually.. .. .. ..