Hello Everyone,
I just wanted to say how appreciative I am of all I've read tonight on the board. What you write and ask about has far greater depth and feeling and sensitivity that I was aware would be here and I am humbled. Please understand what I mean: when I looked up swinger sites and information, I had a shallow perspective about just the sex, and especially the advertisements for the swinger sites with all the pictures of people going at it, plays into the ideas/fantasies about just sex.
I've read a number of threads tonight about singles and about what both couples and singles are looking for in the LS, and they include, to a great extent, the issues of trust, honesty, openness, respect, and sensitivity. This is SO different than just the images of people having sex. This is humanity and it is more appealing to me than just the sex. It means people can get on the board and share their real feelings and experiences and ideas AND that others actually and honestly respond! I am grateful, and even comforted, to find real human beings here, not just sexual creatures (though we are that, too, just not only that!) I have learned and felt so much just from the reading. Thank you!
There is more to learn and I am open to it in a new way now, feeling that sex is treated here in different ways, to some as a fun way to just enjoy the pleasure, and to others as a way of expressing love and kindness amidst the joy of realizing a fantasy, and making each other happier this way. Reading about how for the single man it is a privilege to be invited into the couples world of making a fantasy come true hits home/heart in a new way, as do many other readings.
Thank you to those who suggested reading the board because it is a deep and honest field of learning and growth, that has me re-evaluating why I came here and why I would want to stay.
It is also so refreshing to be able to talk about sex and relationships in such an open, respectful, and accepting forum, which I wish society at large would be able to do. It would make so many things easier.
I welcome any comments....