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ConnieJim last won the day on September 27 2009
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ConnieJim started following What are your swinging rules?, Couples with trust/control issues?, Are most male swingers bisexual? and and 4 others
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You are correct.You live with others as if you were all married to one another.Many poly people have open arrangements when it comes to sex,so it can be a little like being a swinger.But you live with the same people everyday.Your friends with benefits never go home,cause they are at home.
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We are poly curious,if there is such a thing.In the early days of discussions about the lifestyle,other poly people are who we looked for. what we found is that poly people are sorta clanish,like the Amish for example. Swingers tend to live a day to day life,fit in with so called normal society,work ,and raise families.Most people outside of the lifestyle have no idea that they live the lifestyle. Poly people live in threes,fours,ect.and this daily living style is very hard to keep hidden from main stream America. Can cause all kinds of problems.Work,kids,financess,ect.So the poly folk have to lie,or live in remote regions,or both. We would embrace another female in our life.A three person or more loving,caring relationship would work for us we think. Being able to love more than one person and have a near equal love for all envolved is really all it is about.A two person relationship is a full time job.Adding a third or more makes it two jobs with lots of overtime.But think of the benefits of loving more than one
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Top 10 Stupid Things to Do in Swinging
ConnieJim replied to JustAskJulie's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
Thinking that swinging will put the "Spark" back in your current relationship/marriage and keep it from ending -
How do you approach a single woman "Unicorn" ?
ConnieJim replied to UnicornChasers's topic in Finding People to Swing With
Is she wearing a sign that says "Unicorn looking" or "I am bi" or better still "I eat pussy". If so it would be real easy to walk up and start a conversation. You know you already have something in common. Seriously you approach a single person male or female just like you would at any other time. With the intent to introduce yourself, start a conversation, and maybe a friendship. The lifestyle issues will come up soon enough. If she lives the lifestyle, or is interested,or curious she will be eager to chat about it. If it ain't her thing, she will run like you threw water on her. Shy person or not, most everyone is eager to talk about what is on their mind. In a room full of other swingers, talking, dancing, kissing ,etc. Everyone sorta has the same mindset. Hell the energy in the room alone should help spark any conversation with anyone.- 34 replies
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While a large precentage of the females tend to be Bi. Here in middle TN the precent of bi men is rather low with couples in the lifestyle.
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Well,maybe one golden rule. No person or persons are allowed to put us into a situation where we are uncomfortable in any way. That is pretty broad,but I think it really sums it up for everyone.What we will and will not do changes depending on so many factors. As long as we are both comfortable with whatever may present itself...then OK.
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Couples with trust/control issues?
ConnieJim replied to ConnieJim's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
Sorry for the lack of detail.You do raise a good point based on what info you were given.And we very much appreciate your time and input.Let me give you some more info to chew on. All afternoon on the day after our meet,the female and I were texting back and forth.Just chit chat and BS like you do with friends.My wife was sitting by me for most of it,and put in her two cents worth from time to time.Everything was great,or so we thought.Next day I get a text that reads"my partner has no idea that we chatted all afternoon,and please don't tell him.I erased it all from my phone".Within the hour We get a mail message detailing the acceptable means of contact from (we assume) the male partner.Our first thought is we don't want to get mixed up with this sort of attitude,but maybe we are looking at it in the wrong light.Hence the posting to the community here to get some other opinions. -
Couples with trust/control issues?
ConnieJim replied to ConnieJim's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
You do have a valid point,and if they are new to all this,then yes it takes awhile to get comfortable with the whole thing.But the couple I am refering here has two plus years of experince(or so they state). -
Does anybody else find anal a turn-off?
ConnieJim replied to Tadahiko's topic in Let's Talk About Sex
My Connie is not into it.I don't really get the alure.Years ago I dated a girl who loved it.Gave her sensations that nothing else did.I think the turn on is it is such a taboo.I'm with you.A sensous mouth,womans touch,and that holy place called vagina.All I will ever need. -
So you and yours meet this great couple.You hit it off well.Everything goes as planned and all have a good time.Now days later the other couple comes up with a rule list."She can only contact the other female.No texting,mail or calling to the other male"."He can only contact the other male,no contact with other female". Now you have met,become friends,maybe even had sex as a foursome,but "don't chat with my partner without me present"? Do Connie and I have way to much trust? I mean sure,it is one thing to meet with someone outside the foursome and hookup,but are we not adults here?Without total trust in your relationship should you be trying to drag others into the mix? Unless you only want sex with strangers so to speak,are you not looking for friends with benefits?Trying to build relationships?Don't you chat with your friends?Have dinner?ect.? I would really like some input from the board here.Maybe we have the wrong idea?