Update - we finally got the guy to agree to meet at a McDonald's, he was half hour late even.
Anyways, we told him at the McDonalds that she was not comfortable with his home and said motel only, split cost, and he keeps saying his home. He said he had candles going, flowers, pot of coffee. When she said no, motel only, he got up and left! Not even a "don't think it would work" and the look he gave her, well we are glad it was public because it just wasn't a pretty site.