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First time, only time. Crazy thoughts, worried someone home will find out. Partially undressed myself then it all came off. Don’t know where I looked, most likely penis. I saw the other woman naked, didn’t look at my husband. I don’t think I positively remember. I know he touch my breasts first, I closed my eyes. I try to remember but things are blurred, I do know he kissed between my legs first. I know I wondered what was different about his penis, uncircumcised. First sex feeling, I wanted it.

On vacations without kids to adult play destinations... Kids may not know where you are going and what you are doing, but they sense the outcome. You return happy and smiling, and they notice. A (very) long time ago, our then-pre-teen-daughter was not only testing her boundaries but also our limits. This led to a somewhat heated exchange that concluded with "we love you, but these are non-negotiables...". She responded with, "You two were a lot more fun when you got back from vacation a couple of months ago." Yes, they notice. The kids are responding to a sense of security that comes with happiness. Daughter is now solidly middle-aged and married. Her husband's parents are generally an unhappy pair. She remarks that among her circle of friends and acquaintances, her parents are unique in that they are (a) still married (b) to each other (c) in love and (d) having lots of fun. That makes both of them feel secure about their possible futures. Those leave-the-kids-with-the grandparents-vacations are investments in your future...and in theirs. Take them, have lots of adult fun, make the memories. The kids will notice that you are happy. And that makes their lives much easier.

We started out 26 years ago - before most of the LS websites. Back then if you wanted to dip a toe in you would visit a swing club, and that's what we did. We were looking for a more experienced couple to guide us at that time, and there were plenty to choose from there. If you go the club route, don't be worried that experienced couples will be pushy and want to go too far too fast. Swingers are very sensitive and understanding in that regard! Another good option is an adults/couple clothing optional resort. It's amazing the effect that warm weather, sweet music, cold drinks and naked people will have on your inhibitions!

This just a hint from , just one, grandparent. WE consider our time watching the kids so that they can have some fun a very worthwhile thing. My wife gets a bang out of the fact that our daughter and her husband still spontaneously hold hands at the odd moments. Seeing our children behaving like they are in love after years and many of their own children make us both happy. It might not be all that difficult to get redo's from your folks. By the way we and they are under know illusions as to what causes the goofy grins after a time alone. I think that they now understand our goofy grins also.

Good for you. Welcome This site was not set up with your need in mind, although I am certain it has happened from time to time. The Board is a community that acts as a resource for those with questions. There are sites at the top of the page that sponsor this one and are more likely to meet your needs

You are correct, human relationships, whether they be fleeting sexual encounters, FWB situations, or marriages are difficult to successfully arrange and fraught with disappointment along the way. The tales of woe that I hear from my female friends are many in whatever they are trying to achieve are plentiful. There's even a song about it - "The History of Wrong Guys" from the play Kinky Boots. That's why this forum is here, to discuss the narrow path to nirvana in everything from a committed marriage to casual sex and everything in between. It's not a McDonald's drive-thru.

As far as websites go, the big three are Swinglifestyle.com, Kasidie.com, and SDC.com. The traditional way to go is to check out the website(s) by creating a free profile, searching around your geographic location, then becoming a paid member on the one you choose. Becoming paid is very important - it usually signals to other members that you're serious, and it gives you access to features such as messaging. Plus, it's not that expensive - a one-year membership on SLS is about what you'd expect to spend for a nice night out. Put a lot of thought into the words and pictures you upload to your profile, it's the way of putting your best foot forward and making a great first impression. Unless you block them, you will immediately be invaded by dozens of messages from single males - if you're into that, be very selective. If not, ignore them or block them. It may take a while to find the partners of your dreams, but in my opinion it's worth the work.

Welcome to the forum! First, you are in the right place. This is a great place to get answers to questions you have, both from directly asking and also reading past threads. Before you get into this, you need to make certain your relationship is on rock solid ground. 100% totally open communication is pivotal. The topic of swinging shouldn't be something you can only discuss in the bedroom. It's not something that just affects your bedroom life. This can have serious, negative impacts on your relationship if you are not ready for it. It's hard to judge if you are ready, but having great communication is essential. There's no deadline here, no rush. Go at a pace you are comfortable with, and if one of you wants to go slower than the other, then go at the pace of the slower of the two of you. Finding a couple or a single male is a lot like dating. There's going to be some duds, some flakes, some people you don't quite mesh with. Even though you're just in it for sex (though you might want more than that; not judging), getting the right vibe is sometimes tricky. Finding a relatively new couple isn't a bad idea, but having a more experienced couple has its pluses too. They would have the experience to help answer your questions, put you at ease, make it all seem comfortable and natural. A new couple will have everyone being nervous. That's not top say a new couple isn't workable; there are pluses and minuses either direction you go. As for how to meet couples? There are swinger clubs in California. There's also meet-and-greets where you go to a party that's all swingers, but there's no active playing on site. Sometimes that's combined with a hotel takeover, where the bar is just a standard bar scene, but people are connecting to move things upstairs. That's not necessarily a high pressure environment. In fact, any environment in which you feel pressured isn't the right environment. A meet-and-greet has the advantage of being able to meet real swingers without having expectations of play. You'll find that the average swinger is pretty much like the average person you see in a grocery store. There are of course websites. A common one is swinglifestyle.com. There are others. Kasidie,com is one as well. It's a matter of what works in your area. Pro tip; pay for an account. Anyone who isn't paying for an account is likely just a tourist. So, if you don't have a paid account other couples might not take you seriously. We have tended towards moving to meet up fairly early with couples as this helps to weed out the people who really aren't all that interested in moving forward. Another tip; my wife and I have a silent signal we use to find out if both of us are ok with playing with a single guy or couple. So, we meet up with a prospective, have drinks or dinner. After some time, one of us would gently squeeze the thigh of the other. This says, "I'm game to play if you are". If the other responds with a single squeeze back, the answer is yes. More than one squeeze, no. As for single guys; understand that there is WAY more supply of single guys than there is demand. There are a number of creeps out there. There's ways to filter them out. In your profile on whatever website(s) you choose, include an innocuous line somewhere in your profile, maybe 2/3rds of the way into it. Have it say something like "If you've read this far, let us know in your contact email by telling us your favorite color" (or something equally innocuous). If you receive a contact email from a single male that doesn't include the answer to your question, then you're likely just getting a copy/paste email from a single guy who is throwing spaghetti against the wall hoping something sticks. Block them and move on. They're not worth your time. Look for telltale signs of cheating; only available certain times of the week/day for example. If you get together with a single male, look for telltale signs of a missing wedding ring. My ring finger clearly shows a missing ring if I take it off. We've run into that before, and it's a dead giveaway. It's easy to find a single guy in the lifestyle. Finding a good single guy is a bit harder. But, be discerning in evaluating single men. Don't settle. If your wife doesn't quite click with him, move on. If there's something that sets you off about the guy, move on. A single guy should understand his role. You're not an idiot because you're allowing your wife to have sex with someone else. He should be respectful to your wife AND you. If he shows up looking like hell, with beat up clothes and looking unkempt, don't waste your time. He should be a gentleman to your wife in all respects until things move on to flirting a bit, or dancing (gets Roman hands), etc. Your wife has expressed her fantasies about being in a threesome with you and another guy. Where do you stand? Is this a fantasy of yours too? Where are you on the "Am I ready for this?" spectrum? Please feel free to ask whatever questions you like. We're a helpful bunch, and will be happy to answer. We're also not "yes" people. We WILL tell you if you're being foolish or making a bad decision, etc.

For my wife and I that is workweek activity, catching what we can, usually alone, when we can. As you say, kids and all. Weekends are the larger gatherings.

My entire married life I thought I had a weak bladder. We kept a towel near our bed because at times during sex I would what I thought was urinate. Mostly during oral sex I would forcibly urinate in my excitement. I never discussed this with anyone, not even my doctor though it did bother me. Outside of sex I never wet my pants not even laughing so I figured it was a sexual thing. It got to the point where I stopped my husband from doing that to me. First time swinging I warned them to protect their bed because I sometimes urinate during sex. They laughed at me, the first time I heard the expression Squirting. I’m relieved to know I don’t have bladder issues. I understand my sexual phenomena is a desired trait that others want to have. In the future do I warn partners?

I was happy that another young woman was joining me on the SwingersBoard, then I looked at the date of the post and realized that she's now somewhat older than me. 🙁

We agree. Raising kids has taken up much of our free time, the reason we knew we had to get away specifically at a resort without other kids. We needed extended alone time not just an evening out. We are lucky to have babysitters to allow us nights out to decompress. Swinging never was a thought, we figured the resort would be full of honeymooners so we thought of it as our honeymoon too. I am still in shock, happy shock, in what we did, I was always the prudish good girl. So many posts ask how do I get to do this or that, we never had the idea to ask or discuss. It was spontaneous for us, no talk about feelings or rules, our feelings are intact, no rules means no rules broken. If your daughter is middle aged it makes you seniors, your marriage survived. How long ago and how did you enter swinging? Am I allowed to ask?

Half MT - I recommend you guys consider going to Hedonism 2 in Negril Jamaica. My wife and I have been there 27 times. Jamaica is a beautiful country with great people. Do not be influenced by the U.S. Dept. of State warnings about travel to Jamaica. Yes, there are definitely places that you should not go, the same as dangerous places in many U.S. cities or even in the little town where I live. We generally stay at the resort the entire time, but go can go on excursions arranged by the hotel. At the resort, there are lots of people and 24/7 security. Hedonism is a resort that includes a clothing-optional beach and a nude beach, and it is lifestyle friendly. Many people go there who are nudists but not swingers. Many people who go there are in the lifestyle. We have met so many awesome people there from all over the world and from all walks of life, and have remained friends with lots of them over many years. Hedo is all-inclusive, so while it is expensive, everything is included, food entertainment, water sports, alcohol, etc., and there is no tipping. You only need to spend additional money for spa treatments and massages, something you want to buy from the gift shop, or that special bottle of wine. There is also Hedo Weedo, a dispensary on site. There is lots of info online about it, and a Facebook group "Our favorite Jamaican vacation place" where you can ask questions of the Hedo veterans. There are lots of opportunities to participate in the lifestyle if you want, or if not, just say no thanks. Either way, you will meet incredible people and enjoy a beautiful resort where there is no judgment, and probably have the best vacation of your life. The food is good, with a huge buffet and several restaurants, excellent entertainment, lots of activities. You can sit on the beach and read a book or party like a rock star. Good luck.

My problem is the opposite, it takes me a while to cum. I get hard easily, pump out a good load, but it takes a while for me to orgasm and shoot. Actually, if I concentrate on cumming, I can do it somewhat quickly, but I just enjoy it too much and want to make it last. I've been accused of backing off, and it's true.

After seeing my friend squirt and posting here asking about it I researched who and if then what. There is a skenes gland that could be like a prostate, some of us have it not everyone. I also read it’s mostly pee mixed with a secretion maybe. It’s my friend who squirted the most and damn I can ask her anything. She didn’t add anything to my research saying it just happens sometimes not always. I asked if it’s pee and she had no idea and said it doesn’t feel like she’s peeing. This may sound disgusting, I didn’t taste pee when she squirted. On Sunday I did a a sicko thing, I asked her to pee in a clear cup. Me and my husband tried to get her to squirt again and couldn’t so she used her own hand and got a small squirt into another cup. It looked different. I wanted my husband to see if they tasted the same and he wouldn’t. Nobody wanted to so I said I would. Yuk. Only a small taste, first urine almost vomited, then squirt. Squirt was thicker and different. It wasn’t like sucking a dick not that thick, for sure it want the same as pee. It was just interesting not a necessarily important thing.

This is not new or exceptional. We have met, known and played with a number of solo males and a few solo women over the years that are legitimately in this type of relationship. Usually due to a medical issue and or age related. Most are over 45 and older. Makes for safe and personable experiences even long term without relationship/emotional developments other than a close shared friendship. When the issue is medical the relationship can and usually is there and quite strong, just the physical aspect…sex….is not an option. So some resort….with permission to have that need met/satisfied elsewhere with agreeable others. For us and others we have known or currently know the situation is real/verified and in many cases are social with the spouse that can’t participate including social (vanilla) events. For us we also shared family events/celebrations with both as a couple. So as long as special situational issues/concerns can be met….no worries.

Hey guys and gals, my wife and I been married 12 years and have a awesome marriage. We’ve showed her naked online and so forth. She likes it and all but it’s almost like she is nervous to let me see that side of her? Why~? We have done All kinds of stuff. She is 49 and I’m 35. She likes the attention. What does your wife think of showing them to strange men?

I did from time to time with 4 of my buddies to the street hooker way back when we were teens and I was usually the last so her pussy was full of my buddies cum as well as stretched out that I can barely feel the fiction but the slippery feeling was great.So I have been convincing the wife to try with another guy and she agrees in general as long as I can assure her privacy.

She loves it. And she notices the energy that the guys bring because of how kinky and taboo the situation is.

We live right up the road in the Auburn area! To save you some time, SLS (Swing Lifestyle) seems to be the better choice for the Sacramento area. As already stated, you can set up a free account to verify that there is enough people in your area, but once you find a good site, join. Lots of members won't even respond to free accounts since there are too many fakers/flakes/pretenders/men wanting to get a thrill thinking that they could be swingers...if it wasn't for their wives saying NO. As for clubs, the closest is Pokher Knights in Reno...we've never been so we can't give you much more info. We have been to Laguna Del Sol (clothing optional resort) and have heard that they have a pretty active swinger group on Saturday nights, but while we have been there, we've only stayed after dinner once...we are not part of the party crowd and are not looking for the one-and-done type of meetings. PM use if you have more questions or would like to talk more...we're probably too old for you (60's) but are always happy to help introduce others into the L/S.

We met many couples who were new to the lifestyle with the main focus on the wife exploring a curiosity. Men watching their wife having, primarily with another woman get extremely excited. In most situations full swinging is the result with many men feeling they finished too soon, it happens. In our group now we have one friend who can be quick so he knows that there are solutions to please the women, he is very adept at oral.

I have a special pillow that is often needed to keep the angle right during missionary because my ass is too skinny. 😞

I never knew Squirting was a thing. We are just learning the differences in people’s responses during sex. Never too old to learn about sex. We had met our first couple who guided us to a breakthrough moment, not only swinging, my first lesbian experience. Being about the same age as us I didn’t notice anything strange about her wetness or lubrication. The amount of his ejaculate matched my Rock. We joked and laughed about a Juicy Pussy. Couple 2 was still a learning moment. They were more intent sexually. With Rock watching I had my face planted between her legs and was entered from behind. I noticed immediately how wet she was, I felt a feeling of pride getting her so excited. She left my whole face pretty wet by the time we finished. Rock later told me how hot she was we slid in and she switched to a top she was dripping on him. Couple 3 are our friends. We held off playing with them, now we both had been with others first. Totally different playing. Now me and my girlfriend, both of us still new to this get into a 69 position. I am trying every tongue motion I can do and she is enjoying. Hard for me to hear with her legs around my ears I could tell she was going to cum and cum she did. She pulled away from my mouth and with her hand she she shot out like a man. Squirt squirt. I never saw that not even in sex on the pc. Being we are friends we talked about how she does that a lot when excited. We get home and I asked if he ever saw that before. He said he did a few times when he dated. He explained he thought it was pee so we looked it up. Do that many women do that all the time? I thought I was sexually hot, never did that.

"Warn" isn’t the word I’d use: that implies something negative. For myself and for most men I know — in the lifestyle or close vanilla friends — squirting is a positive. "Inform" is the word I recommend. You might say "hey, before we really get going here, let’s get a towel under my butt because when I cum I will probably squirt." Some small proportion of partners may be turned off when you say that, but they will be less put off than if you spray their face while they are going down on you. 😉😂 (Over the course of our 37-year romantic relationship my wife’s orgasms — which felt were good to start — kept getting stronger and more satisfying. About 15 years ago she started squirting and now does it almost every time she reaches orgasm. It heightens my enjoyment that she squirts. She is also literally a screamer as she cums. Our closest neighbor is 250 feet away, but we have to keep the windows closed when we fuck. If she tries to inhibit either vocalizing or squirting it diminishes the strength of her orgasm.)

Have sent a few messages. If you are on a laptop/desktop, the icon is an envelope at the upper right of the screen. Click to read. If on an iPad, you have to click the "hamburger" three parallel lines at the upper right to see the envelope icon.

If you marry this woman, and I think that you should, the feelings will only get more intense all the way around. Your wife, mother of your children. Please give us her perspective as well. How does she feel about the other men, you, and especially herself?

Somewhere in the 50-60 range, I'd estimate. Only interested in romantic relationships with women and don't generally find men attractive, but definitely enjoy a little bi-oral fun.

I'm curious why you bother posting these angry rants about the swinging lifestyle. We get it, you are a single male who gets little attention and you're very angry about it. Your attitude may be one of the reasons why you aren't as successful as you think you should be. Your endless rants about the lifestyle are getting old.

Wow, you sound very angry, not just at swinging, but at females in general. There are no guarantees in life, or in swinging. You want a guarantee, then go to a hooker. After many years in and out of the lifestyle, I have learned that appearance is a small portion of what attracts women to men. There are so many other levels, and yes, a formal date can bring those out. And a formal date can also show the woman that the person is not right. I would suggest you leave the swinging scene. You do not have the right attitude. There is more to an encounter than just cocks and pussies, but that is where your brain is stuck.

Let her know that you love her and it would make you happy for her to have some fun sex on the side. Let her do whatever, whoever, whenever, wherever she wants with you there or not, all up to her. Once she is comfortable with playing, she'll get you involved on her terms.

I've allowed my current girlfriend of 11 years many times to be the fluffer of plenty of gangbangs in the past. I'm fully aware of her amazing oral inclinations & the pure enjoyment she gets when it comes to taking dicks in her mouth. I truly appreciate how comfortable & aroused she gets at showing off her slutty nature whenever having me around during the entire time. Not to mention I get to act out one of my darkest fantasies by seeing her mouth being used as a cum dumpster while she's getting throat pied by one guy after another all taking turns shooting their loads down her throat & hearing the sweet sounds of gulping every single drop of cum. I'm very happy to say she's has adopted the ANAL ONLY LIFESTYLE for about a year now & has opened up to participating in being involved with ANAL ONLY GANGBANGS including AIRTIGHT sex with me as well. The most she's taken while having ANAL GANGBANGS is 27. I persuaded her to have everyone finish in her ASS & both she & I were surprised at how many different loads her ASS was able to take before being completely filled to the brim with cum. Even though I wasn't her first ANAL experience I'm proud to say I am the one who has been able to resize her BOOTY 🕳️ to a much larger appearance & was the first to make her have ANAL ORGASMS. I'm very satisfied in the way she is in complete control of her ANAL abilities to GAPE on command or tighten up when need be. I was kinda impressed with the way her BOOTY 🕳️ was literally turned inside out after taking 27 guys & how stretched opened her ASS was left for several days afterwards. It did take her over a week to fully recover & be able to walk right & sit down to where she was able to have ANAL again but she said it was definitely worth pain.

I love to see my wife sucking a guys cock and licking balls but my fave iswayching her fuckeddoggy while sucking cock or eating pussy

Either both on my tits with her or his fingers very gently brushing my nipples, or one hand on my tit and the other with a finger going round and in my bum hole.

We're still in negotiations :) My hubby is still a little apprehensive about another man's cum. On our first experience, the other man unloaded on my boobs, and hubby licked it off while f**ng me, but he said it was a heat of the moment thing. He knows how much I enjoyed that, and enjoy the idea of cum play in general, so he'll get there, he's just not sure - go second and enjoy the results of the first, or go first and be less "in the heat of the moment" I do want to make sure of one thing though - making sure the other woman doesn't feel left out

As a teen many guys whacked off before going out thinking it would delay the getting lucky time. For me it didn’t work. Many times the foreplay was the main play then praying the second play would go better.

For us as well, oral is more postplay than foreplay. And an essential part of round two for men.

What we in our family have done, both us women and the men, is steal a little breast milk from lactating new moms. So sweet!

I do agree with that statement, no romatic interest in other males. I have never kissed another mail and unless it happens in the heat of the moment, I have no plans to. I do ❤️ love to suck a nice cock to completion and be fucked good.

I would say somewhere between 70-30 and 60-40. I was completely straight for most of my life, however like others in this group, Sabrina said she would like to watch guys play with each other. My very first M/M experience (it was actually a MMF) was extremely incredible and I was hooked.

The best is watching videos of my GF with other guys. That's our favorite porn. Unlike me she enjoys being recorded. The most exciting is when they film something together while I'm not there and then I get to watch it back with my GF later. Even to this day when it's a video that we haven't seen yet she still gets a little nervous and shy watching it back for the first time. I can watch her for hours on end. All our guy friends in our group agree too!

Yeah,same here to us.My wife got off hornier when I cum on her nipples then suck her nipples off as well as give her a kiss after she sucked my cock.

RocklandCpl, You get a GOLD STAR for following the very highest old school standards in scientific pursuit.

Please spare us from your anal sex research.

Don't obsess on squirting, not every woman does, and if they do it may not be every time. Just like orgasming every woman is different. The most important man in your like has never made it an issue or loves you less because you don’t squirt, you have always enjoyed the sex you two have had. It’s not a contest. I realize you are first starting on your swinging journey, you will find men ejaculate in different quantities, especially as we age. Women’s bodies change too, lubrications change and squirting can change too. I am happy if a woman is enjoying, has an orgasm, not if she squirts. I suggest you Google squirting or female ejaculation, you will find many different statistics and even ways to find your own way.

Don' be sad for me. I used to be embarrassed/ashamed/disappointed with my small breasts, but now I am very happy that I don't have larger "jugs" to carry around. The men and women with whom I have been intimate have found my breasts to be fascinating, different, and fun as well. When I was breast feeding, I produced more milk than I expected, so that was satisfying as well.

Top. In front of his wife.

Mostly bottom here (70% of the time). I really enjoy riding a guy and doggie style too. The anal stimulation feels really good and makes my orgasms unreal. Topping can be fun because of the domination and bending a guy over...especially in front of his wife.

It adds some nice variety. Physically, cumming in a girl feels a lot better than coming on her. But coming on her has visual appeal that coming in her doesn't and she likes some variety in where my cum goes. We find it isn't better or worse; just different. In any case, I don't know that I've ever licked my cum off of her per se, but I like it when she kisses me after I cum in her mouth. She also sat on my face once after I came in her and made me lick it out, which was really, really awesome.

My wife goes bareback with two men and it's a turn-on for me when she's filled. I'm not gay or bi but I love to eat her pussy after she's been with another guy.