Has age changed your play?

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We joined experienced friends when we were entering our 40s a time when we both felt secure in our sexuality. Now that I look back I’m not that secure in my memory or secure in watching my wife having sex with others and me worrying if I could keep up with others. Over time my insecurities faded while we experimented looking for new thrills pushing our own boundaries, I became more comfortable in myself and my fears. Now entering a new age decade,(midlife?) new fears have emerged. My wife entering into changes has scared her. We laugh off the inevitable changes that face us that go way further from greying. We are just like everyone else with changes in age and changes in bodies, how have all of you dealt with the inevitable? 

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,086]

We started young (around 30) and back then we were attractive, insatiably horny and energetic.  Now we're in our 50s.  We try to stay in shape and watch what we eat.  I take Viagra now and I get pretty tired if I'm playing past midnight.  When we play with couples we usually like them mature like us bc we don't want to pale by comparison.  But when we play with single males we like them 10 or so years younger - and we seem to play with a lot of single males these days.

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2 hours ago, hunterdonNJcpl said:

Now we're in our 50s.  We try to stay in shape and watch what we eat.  I take Viagra now and I get pretty tired if I'm playing past midnight.

Our friends are all about the same age, we did search for younger. I only took viagra to see what it does not because I need it. The women in our group are more concerned with hormone changes and hot flashes and lubrication, that’s life. 

[bbarnsworth 2,536]

We're well into our 50s now. Before menopause, my wife's sexual appetite was fairly frequently very high. Swinging was a good fit for us, as it allowed her to have as much sex as she wanted, usually as often as she wanted it. After menopause, my wife's sexual appetite sadly began to fade. She's at a point now where she has no objection to swinging in principle, but it holds no interest for her. It's fine if I play, and she's happy with that. My own appetite hasn't diminished, just Mr. Happy's ability to keep at it through multiple orgasms. I also take a low dose cialis, which serves well. I have a lady (in addition to my wonderful wife) with whom I have sex about a dozen times a year. She's our age, post menopausal, but her sex appetite hasn't diminished at all.

[njbm 2,728]

In our sixties, things don’t work as well as they used to. We take a melange of medications and lotions to keep things elevated and lubricated. Even my voracious appetite for new connections is waning. We may be reduced to a few couples with whom we have a bond. 

[shoesr 17]

We sung and attended dogging etc as we where a younger couple. we have had a few years away fron being active but now we are wanting to share again especially katrin who is still very active. Even with the internet we are finding it hard to find things closer to home but will carry on looking and hopefully be back in enjoying the company of others any tips would be welcome

[let's do it again 379]

I am 63 and single again for 6 months but have 3 single women that don't swing. I found that they like to introduce toys into our play, especially to DP. I take 25 mg of generic viagra and it works well and delays me cumming. I introduced viagra to the women and they love taking it and what it does for them. 

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1 hour ago, let's do it again said:

I introduced viagra to the women and they love taking it and what it does for them. 

What does Viagra do for them?

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58 minutes ago, hunterdonNJcpl said:

What does Viagra do for them?

Makes the blood flow more to the clitoris. If you give a woman a viagra and 30 minutes later, you go down on her, her clitoris will be engorged with blood, swollen and very purple. Basically viagra works on a women's clitoris same as it does for a man's penis. 

[AdamGunn2 187]

Does your style of play change as you age into your fifties, sixties, seventies or even beyond? Yes, of course it does. Your body acts differently, and your mind begins to do funny things with the rest of you. That's inevitable.

 

But . . . that certainly doesn't mean that sex isn't fun anymore. Like everything else, it's all in your attitude.

[ChristianSwinging 51]

I would say that age has changed a lot for me.
I can feel significant changes, especially in terms of potency and the ability to have an orgasm and cum inside her.
I can no longer hold out as long and cum as easily as I used to.
By involving other men, we were able to compensate for this and she can continue to enjoy her naturalness as normal.