New to swinging

[Dreamcatcher14 0]

Hi, me and my wife are looking to start swinging and don’t know where to start really. We ideally would like to attend a well organised event possible something up market, was wondering if anyone could help with how you find these sort of places and how you get invited? 
 

thank you 

[njbm 2,728]

Join SLS or SDC. They list events in your area.  Attend a meet and greet that is purely social and not a sexual event. Phone numbers mean dates. And if you are not vaccinated for HPV, do so. 

[lcmim 1,008]

The meet n greets is a good idea. That is a great way of building a network, which is where the gold lies. 

 

While you are at it start a dedicated g mail account with as little accurate profile as possible and attach a Google Voice  Phone number to it. Use both of these as dedicated points of contact for your LS friends.

This has two advantages. The first is that both you and your wife can access them , which makes it easier to stay in the loop for each of you. The second is that it allows you to give out your contact information  with out the normal newbie fears of being outed. 

We even have cards with this information.

Some people choose to use pseudonyms . We just use our real first names as they are quite common in the wild. 

Remember to play your OWN game plan , nobody else's.

 

Best of luck.

 

[TeamCalgary 161]

Excellent advice presented above, we would strongly advise the same. 

Take your time friends and talk, talk, talk. 

The level of your communication (frequency, candor, honesty) will put grease to the wheels. 

 

Know what you are looking for and don't settle for what you know to be off the mark. 

 

Events take many forms; generally formal or informal.

Formal events are often ones held by clubs, informal are house parties and the like.

 

Some of the formal events are posted on the larger online sites as stated above, but the informal events tend to 

be network based (who you know, etc). 

 

The two of you s/b totally in alignment on this foray, if not, talk it out now, not later. 

 

Good luck to you both.