Midlife Surprise

[MidLifeFun 143]

We occasionally check our profile we have posted to see if we were contacted or if there are any others that we find interesting. I caught Mrs. MLF (midlifefun) scrolling while I was watching sports on TV when she asked what I thought about a profile, I laughed as the profile was of a couple half our age and thought why would they want us. Their profile stated interested in others 25-55. I thought it was weird, why would someone half our age want to meet, something wasn’t right. The Mrs said she would contact them, I said it was a scam. We know there are plenty of posters that are just looking for online sex chats and I said that should be careful, send no other pictures, give no personal info. 
She received a reply about a week later from the wife. Doubting it was a woman answering I suggested a real call to confirm. An hour later they spoke, it was a female. The big question I wanted answered why would they want us, we could be their parents. We were told they liked our pictures and profile, they had been with older before, still younger than us, and enjoyed the experience. She is an RN, the husband is a new attorney, they married two years ago. I’m still skeptical. 

[NC_Seniors 492]

If they’re close enough, meet ‘em for drinks and dinner. If you hit off, you’ll get to play with a younger couple. If you don’t hit it off, you’ll still get drinks and dinner. 😉

[PeterJ 826]

1 hour ago, MidLifeFun said:

We occasionally check our profile we have posted to see if we were contacted or if there are any others that we find interesting. I caught Mrs. MLF (midlifefun) scrolling while I was watching sports on TV when she asked what I thought about a profile, I laughed as the profile was of a couple half our age and thought why would they want us. Their profile stated interested in others 25-55. I thought it was weird, why would someone half our age want to meet, something wasn’t right. The Mrs said she would contact them, I said it was a scam. We know there are plenty of posters that are just looking for online sex chats and I said that should be careful, send no other pictures, give no personal info. 
She received a reply about a week later from the wife. Doubting it was a woman answering I suggested a real call to confirm. An hour later they spoke, it was a female. The big question I wanted answered why would they want us, we could be their parents. We were told they liked our pictures and profile, they had been with older before, still younger than us, and enjoyed the experience. She is an RN, the husband is a new attorney, they married two years ago. I’m still skeptical. 

In general, I think a little caution might be warranted, but not too much. I’m in my mid-70s and in my two decades of being regularly active in the lifestyle It’s been my observation that a majority of couples/singles prefer to play with folks within a decade younger or five years older than themselves. 
 

But there are a lotta people in the lifestyle and you aren’t trying to fuck all of them. Before I took a pandemic break most of the couples and women I played with were 20 years or more younger. There may not be so many of them, but there are a sufficient number who are open to or even actively seeking significantly older partners. Their reasons are their reasons, but I’ve never been asked for remuneration. I have a date for play later this month with a couple 15 years younger I’ve been socializing with for over 18 months. The one partner I’ve played with since becoming active again is 30 years younger and I’ve twice had social dates with an engaged bi couple who are literally both young enough to be my grandchildren. The woman is very beautiful. (So is he!) They play together and separately. I assumed it would become a no-sex lifestyle friendship (I have lots of lifestyle friends I don’t fuck) but she says she’d like to include a sexual dimension. I think they are both at a point in their lives where they want to experience as much as they can. If I’m the beneficiary I won’t complain. (After our first social date I had sufficient information that I could check her out on LinkedIn. She was precisely who she said she was. And I know her industry and her position. It’s a great job and they truly don’t need to be running financial scams on old men…😂)

 

From the other side (and as I’ve posted on this board’s previously) about 10 years ago at a party I played with a couple in their mid-80s, who had been enjoying ENG sex since before it had a name. Why did I join them. It was a spur of the moment decision; I wondered what it would like. It was enjoyable.

[EastInWest 1,508]

Obviously wise to be careful with personal info, etc., but I don't think it's as uncommon as you're envisioning. A lot of people have preferences that shift quite a bit when it's "just sex" and there's little risk of anybody finding out and it impacting their perception in their circle of friends/family.

 

Mrs. E's first husband was 10ish years older. I'm almost 15 years younger. The couples we've played with were similar in age to her, but she gravitates toward grad students in their 20s for random fun.

 

Now I'm around 40 and it's not at all unusual to get a 20-25 year old off Tinder who wants to suck-and-fuck an older man, or a 50-year-old woman on business with a boyfriend who wants a video of her getting a facial from a younger guy.

 

Don't read too much into this. People have their reasons. If you seem to like each other, enjoy.

 

 

[shy_couple 448]

There is something to be said for maturity. 21 year olds might be hot to look at, stay hard, or have almost zero refractory time but if you talk like you text, and your interests are all about caping and TikTok, it’s not going to matter. 
 

Yeah, a broadovergneralized, stereotype but hopefully you get the gist of where I’m headed. If there is a spark, see if it leads anywhere. Seems tough enough to meet people since Covid. Maybe it’s time for everyone to dip their toes outside their comfort zone. 

[MidwestHoneys 334]

Nothing perverse in meeting those of a different generation for sex. We drew the attention of players twice our age, Honey fucking a man more than twice her age many times most likely Viagra assisted. The older friends give a different experience that is interesting and more grateful. I think you should go with an open mind, remember they aren’t judging you on age.  

[NerdsAreFun 224]

Some of the worst swinging sex we had was with a 23 year old.  Some of the best with someone in their 50s.  Younger isn't necessarily better and lots of people like their guests to have more experience.

[GoldCoCouple 4,014]

On 6/12/2023 at 11:29 AM, NC_Seniors said:

If they’re close enough, meet ‘em for drinks and dinner. If you hit off, you’ll get to play with a younger couple. If you don’t hit it off, you’ll still get drinks and dinner. 😉

What have you got to loose? Let us know what you decided to do and the outcome...

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,086]

When we were new to swinging my wife was interested in more mature, experienced couples. The first couple we hooked up with at a club was 10+ years older but that's what my wife wanted. I think some newbie couples feel better with a mature couple bc they think they will go slower, and be more patient teachers than young couples.

[MidLifeFun 143]

Putting our profile on a public forum allows for all types to contact us with a goal not much different from us. The reasons people register can only be answered by the individuals who want similar yet diverse outcomes. Meeting true newbies throws up red flags along with thoughts of thrills of being a first. 
We are being cautious for many reasons including scams. Why would anyone half our age want us, we wouldn’t seek out those twenty years older and we are more than twenty years older. I am flattered that I am desirable and the dirty old man is excited trying to keep perverted thoughts out of it. How would I feel if my children were attracted to those our age. 
My Mrs. turns flush thinking how exciting the possibilities can be while I remind her how things can go terribly wrong. 
I encouraged my wife to get details without coming across as disapproving, find why us, why not someone closer to their own age, how experienced they are. It’s interesting that finding others in the twenties are not easy to find, ones they have contacted according to her were crazies. What was confided was her first experience was her husband’s unmarried friend. They don’t know of any married friends they would approach. They met an older couple who were younger than us that she described as nice time. Her husband has had experience with a literal milf, a friend’s mother when he was in high school. I bet she wasn’t 30 years older like we are. The husband is still athletic, I can imagine that was the attraction in high school as it is to my wife. 
My thought is if they want why would I look away even if I can’t explain the attraction they see in us. I know my wife is still a piece and can give him a good ride if he is attracted to her. Is it sick to think of it as a Father’s Day gift? 

[Anon321 481]

When my GF was in her 20s she fucked some guys in their 50s she called them DILFs.  I don't think it's that weird at all.

[herpob 523]

I cannot wait to hear what happens, this has the making of a great story, Hope it works out for you all.  And btw we have two younger couples in our group by 20 years. They are the ones who approached us. They are a great deal of fun so you never know...

[TricianMike 732]

Young men hardly ever refuse any woman who is willing regardless of age or looks. Younger ladies normally don’t look for older men unless there is an underlying reason such as a boyfriend or husband pushing them. I’m not saying 45-50 year old women with 60 yo men, I find 20-30 yo women with 50-60+ yo men. Older women, call me Cougar, sometimes search out those younger men who are willing. 
It is smart that the wives are talking. Make sure the young lady isn’t being coerced to join you as excited as you are it just wrong if she isn’t 100% willing and wanting. 

[cplnluv1 804]

Don’t let age deter you unless feel that uncomfortable. Our very first meeting was with a younger pair, her in her twenties. It ended up her older boyfriend was an asshole and she is a doll we still call a friend. Our circumstances were different looking for a unicorn and most likely if we were approached by these two today we would have questioned the young lady who was coerced by that asshole she was dating. In retrospect it was creepy and we should have realized the motive of the bf. 
Since that first meeting the majority of our new friends are closer to our age which we find is the normal demographic for lifestylers, we have met mature younger friends. When we meet these younger partners we do question their motives. 
Sex with those younger as you described has an excitement and is ego boosting for both of us. 
I’m going to go along with those who suggest meeting and see how it goes. Have fun. 

[MidLifeFun 143]

Ta Da. We met them last night and my wonderful wife thanked me after. She urged me to call my old friends if they thought it was a good idea, I’m sure she knew the answer I would get. I did my own contact to the husband who is really an attorney and sounded like a young educated man. He assured me that everything is on the up and up and invited us for drinks first, more for sure only if we approved, at their new home. When I agreed my wife was very excited while I was nervously cautious. 
Driving home after our meeting my wife and I were talking about how it was being with a younger swinger when she thanked me. She said she wanted to feel young again and didn’t want to push me to say sex with younger people could be great. She kept saying our sex is great at home and that she forgot how much more energetic we were. 

[MidwestHoneys 334]

4 hours ago, MidLifeFun said:

Driving home after our meeting my wife and I were talking about how it was being with a younger swinger when she thanked me.

You never said how you did fucking a young daughter aged pussy. Did you do viagra to keep it up? 

[ROCKlandCpl 436]

I noticed there are less and less surprises in the lifestyle. Things that surprised us just a short time ago now seem the norm. Just watching TV, commercials, movies we see the normalization of what was once shocking. My advice is take chances as long as you are comfortable, nobody knows your comfort level. Discuss with your partner both of your place of comfort. I found later in life that I had desires that i suppressed that I wish I explored earlier. The younger couple are exploring as you are, go along with your comfort. 

[couplers 4,140]

1 hour ago, ROCKlandCpl said:

I noticed there are less and less surprises in the lifestyle. Things that surprised us just a short time ago now seem the norm. Just watching TV, commercials, movies we see the normalization of what was once shocking.

Yes, and it's a very good thing.  I give a lot of credit to the homosexual community for insisting on coming out and being accepted.  Perhaps someday being in the lifestyle will be as normal as traditional arrangements.  Having multiple partners before marriage is already considered part of the path toward marriage. 

[MidLifeFun 143]

My Mrs has changed the parameters on our search from 25-55 to 25-35 way below our real age. She is still reliving our recent meeting thinking that others that age will want her as well. I’m thinking that we were fortunate that our meeting went well while thinking others that age might have sinister thoughts. 
I am feeling my virility as well. I was able with the aid of pharmaceuticals to keep up, no pun, while I had the anxious feeling that I would be a failure. I can understand why an older woman wants a virile younger man and question the need of a younger woman wants an older man. I don’t think I want a woman twenty years my senior, why would a younger woman want me? 

[GoldCoCouple 4,014]

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why would a younger woman want me? 

 

Not taking a position here, just point out the obvious: daddy (for lack of a better term) issues.

[NerdsAreFun 224]

People don't choose who they are attracted to.

 

That's why when you just put yourself out there in a profile and see who shows interest you get a much more diverse group than you might expect.

[Billygoat 405]

I feel the need to chime in regarding younger women interest in older men in the lifestyle.

 

None of the thought or suggested reasons are absolute and for the most part all and any thought of reasons are wide spread and for some, truthful on a individual to individual basis.

 

we have been on both sides of the spectrum.  We have been with couples and single men and women who were 10-20 years older as well as younger.  All consensual, interesting, fun and in some cases enlightening experiences.

 

From the older than us experience almost all were highly enjoyable adventurous, slow/not rushed experiences with a small handful of one or the other spouse limited capability due to health/physical limits but enjoy limited participation or straight up watching.

 

From the younger than us experiences, 10-20 years it was interest due to attraction/personality, desired/curiosity, a wish to experience something new/different, some had limited sexual experiences and looked to expand activity/experiences and the biggest was safety/assurances.  Most likely will follow their rules, no interest in developing feelings etc.

 

The other is capability, sexual experience….experiencing new activities.  The biggest reason we hear over our years and my personal experiences over the past ten years….safe.  A non rushed experience with a wealth of experiences, longer lasting safe experience.

 

so for us we never experienced a negative situation as we usually were able to recognize what might be an issue or one partner dragging the other along and we would step out of the equation.  
 

now we are not playing with twenty somethings but yes young/mid thirties and up.  One for me was last fall (32-35, 30 years younger) And I have several single lady FWB from late thirties but mostly forties/fifties.  We are highly social buy when interest/mood/need arises……

 

So not to say there are no people in the lifestyle that have an issue…..certainly no large percentage, most are following a desire/interest at that moment based on their expectations.  Just as you might choose based on yours at the time.