Top 5 qualities you're looking for in single males

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,086]

So today we had (yet) another newbie single male contact us online (not through here) and i (husband) found myself again trying to help educate him on what couples are and aren't looking for in single males.  So I started thinking "maybe this should be a public service announcement", and figured a post here would be in order and I strongly encourage other couples here who partake in the fruits of single males to weigh in as well.  I'll keep our list to just 5 items bc nobody wants to read a novel.

1. Have a good online profile with photos, an emphasis on personality and a minimum of dick pics 
2. Be polite never aggressive.  We believe that if your profile is good enough couples who are looking for single males will find you.  Pretty much no couple will ever say "come over right now".  Let it start slow.
3. Be the kind of person who takes pride in your appearance.  Well dressed, in-shape men just get more action.
4. Be masculine.  Couples are generally not looking for feminine or submissive men.
5. Mention that you value discretion.  The majority of swingers have lives outside of swinging and consider it important to keep their two worlds separate.

Every couple is different of course. So let's hear the top 5 things other manhunters are seeking in a quality third!

 

[enhancer 1,542]

1. Pictures on profiles that actually show your body type!  Penis pic as your main profile pic is instant turnoff and ignore.  Also face pic exchange is a must before we even start talking about meeting. Yes attraction matters a lot in this game.  Your chances are probably not going to be high if you don’t take pride in your body and looks.

 

2. When contacting us address both of us and not just her!  We are a couple that only do anything with both of us there and make that very clear in our profiles.  Sending messages pretending the man does not exist gets you blocked.  Can’t speak to both of us and you will not be meeting either of us.

 

3. Do not come across as a primitive caveman!  If you are a self proclaimed Dom, alpha male bull we are not going to be interested at all.  Nothing manly about it. A real man can show he is masculine without pushing his will on a woman and knows the best way to get what he wants is to give her what she wants. Besides that women have all the power in the lifestyle and call all the shots.  
 

4. Don’t assume the husband on the other side is a cuckold with a small penis that has no idea how to please his woman, because most of the time you will be incorrect.  Try to humiliate this guy and you are going to leave feeling rather inadequate.

 

5.Do not over sexualize the conversation when starting the conversation!  Telling her how you want to tongue fuck her asshole or asking if she is a cum slut is not going to get her juices flowing.  Try talking to her like she is a human being to start out with.  You might be surprised at how much further you will get.

[bbarnsworth 2,536]

Agree with all the above. Additional thing; we have a line in our profile about the need to tell us you read that line when messaging us. If we haven't contacted them, they've cold-contacted us, and they don't mention that line? Instant delete/ignore. They didn't read our profile and aren't really interested in who and what we're about, which is a bad recipe for bedroom pleasure.

 

Some understanding of their role, either in their profile or in their initial messaging, is useful. Additional men are in many ways a sex toy. That's not to denigrate them; they are more than that, but it is important for them to understand their role.