Words that stop you

[ROCKlandCpl 436]

We went back to our online account to see who is on and who we would want to meet. I am not a prude or normally wouldn’t be offended by reading or hearing and words or phrases that are sexual. I never thought of myself as foul mouthed even if I could curse with the best of the truckers on the road. I most likely have heard every word that is used in a sexual context, maybe even used them. 
Now I stop and feel some words are used to demean. Pussy and Cunt are the same, pussy is fine for me, cunt bothers me. A man saying he wants to fuck my pussy, an immature statement, I say of course that’s why we are on the site. A man saying he wants to fuck my cunt stops me making me think you are an asshole. 
Are you a Cocksucker stops me and thinks you are jerk, asking about sucking cock I can play along and tell you how I enjoy it and how I would make your toes curl. 
Rocky laughs at me when I’m writing to real people and the posers. He said I get too excited and upset and I should chill. 

[enhancer 1,542]

People that say stupid shit or over sexualize the conversation, before we have even meet them in person stop us from having interest immediately!  If you can’t talk to her like she is a human being first you are not going to be talking to her at all.  So many guys seem to think women are just stupid fuck toys there to serve all their perverted dreams.  Good luck with that.

[shy_couple 448]

No prude here either but I believe abundance of online porn and lack of 1:1 interaction during the pandemic is largely to blame.

 

Isolation really killed lots of social skills for everyone. Very noticeable in our oldest child who spend junior and senior years at home. 
 

while at home lots of those same people were watching porn. No issue with that but if you are isolated and begin to believe that it’s real, that’s how people treat each other, that’s what women (or men) want then you are out of your fucking mind. 

 

it’s not a selling point who when someone approaches online and boasts about being dom and wanting someone to worship him or want to shame hubby as cuckold. 
 

What happened to people enjoying sex and playing with likeminded people? 
 

you don’t have to be a bitch, brat, cunt, whore, cumslut. I enjoy sex and people who treat me with respect. These should be separate and exclusive!

[TricianMike 732]

One word I am never called is prude. I am called every name you can think of when we meet strange men for a one time meet. The men think they are macho and taking advantage of us even if I hold all that is important in my hand. They don’t realize with one squeeze or a use of my powerful jaw I can have them crying. It’s funny if the call me a cocksucker because that is exactly what I want to do. No man calls it a vagina when we meet for sex, mostly pussy. Some will call me a cunt not call my vagina a cunt. Things are different if we are with swingers. We expect a different dialog and different actions in different scenarios. Swingers should never begin with calling names if they expect us to meet and play. 

[couplers 4,140]

21 hours ago, ROCKlandCpl said:

Pussy and Cunt are the same, pussy is fine for me, cunt bothers me.

I don't mind being called a cunt; I think it's because it makes me feel tough, smart. I don't like pussy though; it's someone, woman or man, who's not up to the task.

 

The etymology of the word "cunt" is that it has Norse/Germanic origins (that's why it sounds hard and strong) and is actually old. From Wikipedia: "The word in its modern meaning is attested in Middle English. Proverbs of Hendyng, a manuscript from some time before 1325, includes the advice:

"Ȝeue þi cunte to cunnig and craue affetir wedding.

(Give your cunt wisely and make [your] demands after the wedding.)"

 

The use of the word for me is situational. If someone at work calls me a dumb cunt, I'd be offended, but if they called me a ambitious cunt or a smart cunt, it would be a compliment - not only am I "ambitious" or "smart," but I'm strong as well. There is a story I posted here years ago about the time I was given more responsibility at work, including some purchasing decisions handled by a fellow that was retiring. The retiring fellow never sought other bids or negotiated better terms with a particular vendor, in exchange the vendor guy (also older) covering for his mistakes. With the three of us at dinner, the vendor (who treated me like a grandchild and called me "sweetie" sometimes) said it would be the same for me. I chose my words carefully and said, "Not this cunt." (I considered saying pussy or bitch.) It set the tone for the relationship, I got better prices, etc.

[TeamCalgary 161]

Our every thought, our every word, our every deed, tells the world who we are.

 

People will, and should judge us based upon this, as we form conclusions of them based upon the same. 

 

Some are surprised when that happens; they shouldn't be. 

 

Per the OP; disrespectful language seems to flow from disrespectful mouths in our experience.

We are in agreement with you - their words tell the world who they are. 

[cplnluv1 804]

The words we use say more about the person, less about what the words say. Alan and I can tell the gender of the person contacting us by the words and phrases they use. If we were offended by words I would insist that we quit the site we are on. Some men get it and some men don’t when it comes to meeting others for what they hope is sex. We are all on a swinger site and if you are offended by sexual terms I am wondering how you expect to overcome what will follow. I agree about disrespect, I don’t want to be disrespected while some thrive on it. A true cuckold enjoys be disrespected by others having sex with a wife. 
When we are contacted or contact others we can easily cut the conversation if we don’t care for what is said. We also know some men talk in a way they thinking is impressing by being worldly or macho. Women are less bragging more sincere. We are very open that we are looking for a wife who has none of little experience being with another women. Many times it’s a husband pushing, we look for a true curious woman. We always meet before committing to anything. I have plenty of stories where women can’t say face to face what they want. More than one woman couldn’t say vagina or any of the euphemisms for a vagina. Down there is a big word for women, pussy and less so cunt is used by husbands. A husband once told us his wife want her cunt eaten and the blushing wife just nodded. Another husband asked me if I’m a carpet muncher, I answered no, playing stupid I said we threw out all the carpeting. 
 

I think the OP was playing with the man who contacted them. Alan laughed at the post because it is so true that there are men on sites just looking to get aroused as the message. We all will get fakers if we answer all the messages. 
 

Happy Thanksgiving to all. 

[PJ&Lin 181]

For us it’s not the words it is the way the words are used. If the words are used to in a demeaning disrespectful way it will stop us. The same words can be used in a playful way in the same way we use them when alone and we will just laugh. 
I wonder why cunt is bad and pussy isn’t, why fuck is used by everyone and fuck you is horrible. I call Linda my little cocksucker and she isn’t offended and she will refer to her vagina in many ways including cunt. Those same words take on other meanings when used when calling a woman a cunt or a man a prick. 
 

On 11/24/2022 at 9:54 PM, cplnluv1 said:

I think the OP was playing with the man who contacted them. Alan laughed at the post because it is so true that there are men on sites just looking to get aroused as the message. We all will get fakers if we answer all the messages. 

I agree, the poster wasn’t offended, she was just playing with a sense of humor. 

 

On 11/23/2022 at 3:33 PM, ROCKlandCpl said:

Are you a Cocksucker stops me and thinks you are jerk, asking about sucking cock I can play along and tell you how I enjoy it and how I would make your toes curl. 
Rocky laughs at me when I’m writing to real people and the posers. He said I get too excited and upset and I should chill. 

This is a woman who would be fun to have a drink with. 

[herpob 523]

I agree that what is said, how you say them, and the timing of when they are said equally important. Tact.

 

Oh my word. There is so much to be said here but I will not go over board, or at least I hope I don't. My curiosity is kicking in big time. There are times when I do not even like to type sex words. It feels to sexually charged. Then there are times, I embarrass myself later rereading what I typed. Anyone else?  I understand we reach that point of arousal at differing intervals so tolerance is required once the sex begins but  but in the beginning, crude is crude and also rude. 

 

On 11/23/2022 at 3:33 PM, ROCKlandCpl said:

Are you a Cocksucker stops me and thinks you are jerk,   YEP!

 

asking about sucking cock I can play along and tell you how I enjoy it and how I would make your toes curl.    Oh YEAH!!!