How many people have you had intercourse with?

[GPHTallCouple 69]

Something to remember is that many people on this site are not swingers or are very new to the lifestyle as you are so it tends to keep these numbers low.

 

Whew, thanks for explaining that. It would be nice to see some numbers on the higher end, so I'll throw mine out there. Mine is a guess, I'd say about 170 prior to swinging and around 200 now I guess.

 

Yes, I'm a Samantha and I love to fuck. I think Samantha's numbers are much higher though. I was active duty military and I moved around a lot, plus the guys I met where often moving around a lot too. It was hard to find someone to have a relationship with that was going to be around long enough to get serious with. I also had a lot of opportunities living in areas where the ratio of men to women was very much in my favor. Many of my former military partners had some higher numbers too. The highest I ever heard was a former FB whose number was about 345. He was in his early 30s at the time.

 

MrGPH says he doesn't keep track of how many, but I think his numbers are slightly higher than mine.

[Learning 160]

Impressive to all I can count mine on one hand.

[revicamc 15]

eight over a thirty year period.

[cocpl2007 170]

Impressive to all I can count mine on one hand.

 

So can I, but I have to use those little pinkies more that once, each!

[Tina and Bob 236]

Five years ago I could count them on one hand; now I do not have enough fingers or toes, but it's north of 60 for me and 40 or less for Bob, at least that's his story and he's sticking to it.

[Numex 2,175]

In totals, I had 12, my ex-wife had 22 by the time we split (not counting whatever she was doing with women in college), and my current wife says somewhere around 60.

[dr_pepper 25]

Being a very late bloomer, and terminally shy, I have only had the pleasure of being with 11 women, but other than my first wife, my other ex's have been with many more guys. I really appreciate their experiences and never minded hearing about them too, if they shared.

 

I just regret not "getting in the game" much earlier.

 

As one of my ex's had on a T-Shirt: "So Many Men, So Little Time!"

[essexcouple 15]

Never counted, think I'd probably fall off my chair if I did! It would blow my quiet suburban family mother image right away! oops!

[JsWife 49]

Well, we haven't engaged sex with anyone else yet so my hubby is only the 3rd person that I have had intercourse with we've been married for almost 11 years. I guess I'm probably known as a "virgin" in the swinging world LOL.

[raylew66 15]

A while back a lady asked me how many partners I had had over the years. I told her that I did not have any idea and was not a bed post notcher. She said that she thought that she had had over 200 partners and then asked me how many partners I had been with. After thinking for a bit I came up with the rough figure of 125.

 

Now the question for you. How many partners have you been with?

[angelkin 1,326]

I am a complete slut, I had been with well over 100 partners by the time I stopped counting about 20 years ago.

[sunbuckus 3,565]

How in the world do you guys keep track into the three digits? I'm having problems with my measly two digit number!

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

Not me, I kept a journal.

 

Well, that's beautifully organized. I don't and I'm not sure if it's because I don't want to leave any evidence behind or it's related to my reluctance to take photographs on vacation (I'd rather have memories than reminders).

 

I can only estimate, because I lost track long ago, but something over 100 women and about half again that many men.

[exploringRM 305]

Too early in the morning to go through the mental list but 30 some. Many of those though have been numerous repeats over the years. I've been dealing some serious medical issues the past 2.5 years which has kept me playing with existing partners but not always actively seeking out new ones.

[DigginIt 1,132]

Two - we only track month by month

 

Somewhere in the thirties for me, MD may be in the fifties. She says it's not a race...but if it was I would be the loser! I'm like it depends on who we ask - our trampy friends or our family.

[ref2018 29]

What makes it "count" ?

 

I have had thirty-something penises enter my vagina over the course of my entire sex life; but if you count oral sex and other forms of body-fluid-exchange-culminating-at-or-approaching-orgasm-for-one-or-more-participants, the number is easily twice that, at least.

[junglecouple 127]

Lord Lord.. between the groupies back in the touring days, and the non countable ladies from my swing club, then there was two topless clubs I had.... it's gotta be way higher than I'd believe. No doubt it's over 1000. there was 100 or more in just the last two years.

[willywonka75024 15]

I'm pretty sure I'm over 200. I don't keep score but when I go through my yahoo list, I run up close to 200...

[David Lovell 142]

I'm very low on the list of number of women I have had sex with. Thousands of times with my wife. About 10 with our swinger friends, twice with another friend. All bareback. Then about three with ladies at swinger parties, all with condoms. Not a very exciting list.

 

My wife has less to report. Bareback encounters with our swinger friend, just a few more than me. Once with a friend years ago. I cum inside his wife but he used a condom. About one year ago we reunited and she let him enjoy bareback and he cum inside her.

 

Sounds like we have a lot of catching up to do.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,019]

David Lovell said:

...Sounds like we have a lot of catching up to do.

You should not think of this as a contest. Think of it as quality more than quantity.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,019]

I am certain that my number is more than a hundred. I did the horizontal mambo last week at a New Year's Eve party. I mentioned to my female partner that I relish any opportunity to enjoy sex with someone for the first time. She got a quizzical look on her face and said, "what are you talking about? You and I did this last year." Maybe I've done a few too many.

[cplnuswing 4,711]

She got a quizzical look on her face and said, "what are you talking about? You and I did this last year." Maybe I've done a few too many.

 

There's one for the "things you don't want to hear" category

[couplers 4,140]

... I mentioned to my female partner that I relish any opportunity to enjoy sex with someone for the first time. She got a quizzical look on her face and said, "what are you talking about? You and I did this last year." Maybe I've done a few too many.

A few too many years; your memory is going.

[EastInWest 1,508]

When we started, we figured I'd had intercourse with 19 women and she'd had intercourse with 7 men - counting each other. If you count oral, 24 and 10.

 

Now we're at maybe 23/13 and 30/20.

 

I feel like maybe I'm adding something up wrong but it's close. It's slow-going but she's gaining on me.

[adamgunn 1,456]

David Lovell, it's not the count, it's how much you enjoyed yourself!

[padoc 1,696]

Nobody told us there was going to be a test! When we met in 2002, I was way ahead, having been a single young cop in eastern Pa in the late 70's( "Oh what a night" and "love the one you're with" happened a lot then). I was Mrs Doc's 4th. Im not sure that she's caught up yet but when you consider the built in limitations of erections, refraction periods and the number of available penises at swinger clubs and house parties she may well be getting close. We tried one night to put a number to both of us but we kept reminding each other of different events and additional people and finally just gave up. It was an amusing and erotic exercise. Our only conclusion was that we could easily be described as sluts, both of us!

[kittyswinger 254]

I had more partners when I was single as serial monogamist than when I started swinging as a couple or now in a V.

[njbm 2,728]

My wife and I thought it was funny that we had more sexual partners while we were married in our fifties than we did when we were single in our twenties. If you told us that would be the case when we were in our twenties, we would not have understood it.

[BigRobbie10 16]

172

[mrandmrsbusty 1]

since we started playing, she has met 12  guys for us to have mmf, and we have ,met 3 cpls

[couplers 4,140]

On 10/15/2007 at 2:51 PM, couplers said:

I have only been with three men my entire life, but with two of them now (my lover for seven years, my husband for 5). Hubby has had seven women, me plus three others since we've been an item.

Since this post has been bumped, there is a need for me to update my number in the last 14 years: it has gone from three to FIVE!  The three men that I have going now plus my Lesbian relationships with Clair and Lora are enough.

[Thegreyarea 99]

I don’t count because it doesn’t matter. I never asked my wife how many people she had sex with when we met 24 years ago, nor did she ask me because it didn’t matter.  The only real answer I can give is more than before we got married. 

Edited August 19, 2021 by Thegreyarea

[hotwife70 574]

My first one was with a prostitute that we picked up in the park and 5 of us team up to take turn on her bareback,creampie her cunt and I was the last to get my first time 2nd sloppy,I was grossed out cause of my buddies sperm smell but felt fantastic once my cock went in that full of cum pussy gave cum instantly.The next was my Ex,we met in high school and due to pregnancy concern she chooses to gave me bareback oral sex for 4 years until she graduated.Lastly my current wife who I still married until now.

[NerdsAreFun 224]

Have to stop and really think about it, but think it's the 10-15 bucket.  And probably being bumped into 15-20 by end of year.

[openmindedhubby83 3]

I have had sex with 12 different people. My wife on the other hand though the last time we tried to figure out how many guys she has had vaginal or anal sex with is well over 200. We aren’t aware of a exact number because in college and the first couple years after and before we were married she was known for getting drunk and fucking whatever guy was at the bar that night and obviously she can’t remember them all. We worked together before we were married, and I would always hear stories about her fucking some guy in the bathroom of the bar from other females she was out with. So if I had to guess I would say it’s prolly over 300. 
 

Edited October 19, 2022 by openmindedhubby83

[hotwife70 574]

Only 3 to me,first with a hooker in gangbang with 5 of other friends when we was young.2nd with the Ex then currently wife until now.

[couplers 4,140]

On 6/20/2004 at 8:14 AM, DuncanDoughnut said:

the question is, how many different couples/singles have you had sex with?

What I find interesting is the curiosity about how many different people someone, especially a woman, has had sex with.

 

Explain to me what difference it would make in how you would approach these three women, all the same age now and all started fucking at the same age.  Woman 1: got married as a virgin and has had sex every which way only with her husband 10,000 times. Woman 2: serially monogamous and has had sex a total of 1,000 times, but with 50 different men.  Woman 3: had sex with only two men and a total of only 1,000 times, but many times it was MFM with both of them.

 

Does having Lesbian partners add to anything? 

 

There are different ways that a woman can earn her slut badge, not just by the number of different partners.

Edited December 4, 2022 by couplers

[PJ&Lin 181]

On 12/4/2022 at 8:11 AM, couplers said:

What I find interesting is the curiosity about how many different people someone, especially a woman, has had sex with.

Think the question was to be answered by a swinger not someone who only has sex with her family. 

[couplers 4,140]

27 minutes ago, PJ&Lin said:

Think the question was to be answered by a swinger not someone who only has sex with her family. 

Currently we women do have an outside boyfriend who we share because there are three of us and only two guys in our family.  Does that count?  We are open to us playing with others and have in the past, but we are cautious (and busy).

[PJ&Lin 181]

1 hour ago, couplers said:

Currently we women do have an outside boyfriend who we share because there are three of us and only two guys in our family.  Does that count?  We are open to us playing with others and have in the past, but we are cautious (and busy).

Haven’t you posted you only play with those in your poly family. Believe you said you have only been with three men yet you post on every topic as you are the queen of swinging. When do you find the time to be an expert on swinging? 

[couplers 4,140]

On 12/6/2022 at 9:44 AM, PJ&Lin said:

Haven’t you posted you only play with those in your poly family. Believe you said you have only been with three men yet you post on every topic as you are the queen of swinging.

I’ve had sex with five different men in my life, three currently, but I’ve had those three men ejaculate bareback in me this week, and I’ve licked and been licked by two different women to orgasm as well.

There are people here who are only wannabees, and even many “real" swingers only play several times a month.  I at least get some sexual variety pretty much daily.

 

On 12/6/2022 at 9:44 AM, PJ&Lin said:

When do you find the time to be an expert on swinging?

Even for things outside my experience I do have an opinion.  If you don't like it, don't read it.

[PJ&Lin 181]

2 hours ago, couplers said:

Even for things outside my experience I do have an opinion.  If you don't like it, don't read it.

You know what they say about opinions

 

2 hours ago, couplers said:

but I’ve had those three men ejaculate bareback in me this week, and I’ve licked and been licked by two different women to orgasm as well.

What woman writes that? And you forgot to say how you like those sperm swimming up you 😛

[lcmim 1,008]

Swinging , like Polyamory is a term that has been diluted in meaning almost to the point of irrelevance.

 

 Couplers, is a best fit with the historical meaning of Polyamory, which at a minimum implied a stable relationship with more than two persons involved. ( Now it CAN be as little as a life revolving around one night stands, in the eyes of some)

 

Swinging likewise WAS a lifestyle originally  involving couple/couple exchanges or threesomes with two of the people in a married relationship. Everything else was just single people hooking up or cheating.

 

This forum accepts more current views on each f these under the term Nonmonogamy or LS . (Remember co-opting that from our gay brothers and sisters?)

These more encompassing applications are a classic example of a larger umbrella making for less precision.

 

We sometimes toss terms around without bothering to pay attention to what they mean.

For instance "soft swap". While there seems to be a consensus that it does not allow for intercourse, there is less clarity on just what it does encompass.

There is a pretty broad spectrum. It extends from just watching another couple pet, to orgasms, for all, by all, involving whips and ropes. Just no intercourse.

 

In this light, worrying about whether or not couplers is a "REAL" swinger is irrelevant.

 

Her observations regarding jealousy, possessiveness, transparency, honesty  along with the complexities and possibilities of multiple adult pairings, does add some color and dimension to this discussion.

[lovely_gal_ 3]

Not sure, but at-least in triple digits, counting BJs it might also go into four digits 😅 /jk.

[David Lovell 142]

A couple of years back I reported very few encounters. We've been swinging for almost 6 years so we've added a few to the list. I now have seven girls on my list.  I just added anew girl last Friday and I'm looking forward to more sex with her. The most satisfying swinging sex I have had was on a Hall Pass, 4 times with the same girl. My low number of partners is possibly due to having played with one girls over 50 times.

My wife has played over 50 times with the same guy and can count about five in total.  

 

[couplers 4,140]

17 hours ago, David Lovell said:

My low number of partners is possibly due to having played with one girls over 50 times.

My wife has played over 50 times with the same guy and can count about five in total. 

Thanks for sharing.  It's reassuring for me to have others with a low-number approach to the non-monogamous lifestyle posting.

[ConfusedHubby 106]

40+ females as best I can reconstruct

4 male

 

Wife at least doubles the numbers having played with the female half of almost all of the couples with been with.

[Baconheads 397]

On 12/4/2022 at 6:11 AM, couplers said:

What I find interesting is the curiosity about how many different people someone, especially a woman, has had sex with.

 

Explain to me what difference it would make in how you would approach these three women, all the same age now and all started fucking at the same age.  Woman 1: got married as a virgin and has had sex every which way only with her husband 10,000 times. Woman 2: serially monogamous and has had sex a total of 1,000 times, but with 50 different men.  Woman 3: had sex with only two men and a total of only 1,000 times, but many times it was MFM with both of them.

 

Does having Lesbian partners add to anything? 

 

There are different ways that a woman can earn her slut badge, not just by the number of different partners.

I'll take the monogamous wife that fucks me 10,000 times!

[Sophy 551]

Initially, we used to keep count not only of couples or singles with that we had sex but of specifics, for example, how many cocks I had sucked, how many loads I swallowed, how many cocks I fucked, and how many girl-girl encounters, etc.; later on, we started going to parties and clubs, and after more than ten years we have no idea what is "our body count", we estimate it to be easily over hundred, me being BI and therefore leading for a significant margin.

As of today, the only two specific counts we have a clear recollection of are the number of guys (not including my husband) that I have had condomless sex with and that have ejaculated inside me: 2, and the number of guys that I have had anal sex with 8.

[kittyswinger 254]

On 12/4/2022 at 7:11 AM, couplers said:

What I find interesting is the curiosity about how many different people someone, especially a woman, has had sex with.

 

Explain to me what difference it would make in how you would approach these three women, all the same age now and all started fucking at the same age.  Woman 1: got married as a virgin and has had sex every which way only with her husband 10,000 times. Woman 2: serially monogamous and has had sex a total of 1,000 times, but with 50 different men.  Woman 3: had sex with only two men and a total of only 1,000 times, but many times it was MFM with both of them.

 

Does having Lesbian partners add to anything? 

 

There are different ways that a woman can earn her slut badge, not just by the number of different partners.

I think no. 3 with mfm has more weight to compute for one's slut GPA 🙂