Our first house party! Games? Too cliche?

[KuriousKhajit 15]

Hey, all!

 

Our first house party is this weekend! Ahhh! So excited.

 

However.

 

We are a bit lost. With one exception, every couple we have invited will know at least one couple besides us. Several couples are shy around new people, but for the vast majority, everyone else invited are swinging veterans who have known each other for ages. (We stumbled into their network via mutual friends, and our friends said they were totally chill with us inviting the gang to our place this time to give them a break).

 

We have noticed that everyone tends to congregate in the kitchen and talk, and actually getting things going takes a while.

 

I had the idea of a sexy questionnaire (favorite place to be touched, something on your fantasy bucket list, etc) and the three people with the most completed questionnaires get prizes. (Plus we have naked twister and naughty board games).

 

Is the questionnaire idea trying too hard for guests who already know each other? Is it okay as long as none of the questions are standard/boring? If you think we should avoid it, what sort of game would you suggest to heat things up and get people out of the kitchen?

 

Fingers crossed for success!

 

- Excited Wife

[Fundamental Law 2,817]

First, congratulations on your first hosting event! Here are some thoughts from our experiences...

 

1. How things go depends on who shows up, and how well they know each other. You have been wise to ensure that people know at least one other couple planning to be there.

2. Invitations notwithstanding, who shows up is what matters. There is the possibility that, owing to no-shows, there may be some people where who know no one other than you (having invited them). Plan accordingly.

3. You already have done a great deal of the planning. You will find that unless you enlist one or more of the guests to help, you may well be torn between keeping things going socially and keeping the kitchen etc orderly to have a good time. It can be helpful to invite one other couple to arrive early, show them where things are, ask for some set-up help and so on. There may be a last minute run for more ice or mixers or lube or whatever.

4. You are entirely correct that there are three phases to most parties: arrival, playtime, wind-down and departure. Catalyzing the transitions ought to be planned, but may not be needed depending on how well folks know each other.

5. The purpose of an icebreaker is to get people interacting with someone who is ***not*** their usual partner. Your questionnaire thing works fine provided you as hosts are reading the answers anonymously. Most people are reluctant to do public speaking, especially about their fantasies, even in the private setting of a house party. Depending on how many couples show up, and how much time you have, some version of speed dating where the men have 2 min to introduce themselves and get to know every lady at the party works, especially if paired with "tell me something about yourself that I wouldn't expect to know" and reading those lists at the end. (Ten couples==20 min, with another 10 min for reading the lists and laughing). Then there is the different nuts-and-bolts approach (each of the men is given a bolt, the women get to pick a nut from a bowl and find who they will be speaking with for 5 min. Or whatever. The raunchier icebreakers (blindfold the men and have them try to identify their wives by feeling their breasts) rarely get 100% participation.

6.Regardless, kitchen congregation is a staple at parties. People like to take breaks. The challenge is to make sure that no one is isolated and feeling left out for an extended period of time. Figure out how you will keep track of same and what you will do to mitigate the isolation.

 

Have fun!

[padoc 1,696]

Getting playtime started is the hard part. What has worked on at least 2 occasions where we've been in attendance, was that a pre arranged female guest left the kitchen and went to the rest room. When she came out, she was wearing only her heel heels and a thong. She walked up to her husband, kissed him and turned to another guy and said,' "lets get the party started". In neither case it wasn't my wife but she quickly followed suit.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,019]

A get-to-know-you-conversation-starter game that we learned of at an Ohio house party: the party hosts went ahead-of-time shopping at a hardware store and purchased nuts and bolts such that only one nut would properly engage the thread of a particular bolt. A 1/4-inch diameter, 20-treads-per-inch nut will not properly engage a 1/4-28 bolt and a metric-size bolt will not engage a US standard nut. At the party, each female guest reaches into a sack and randomly draws out a nut. Each male guest reaches into a sack and draws out a bolt. Guests are then invited to circulate and see who has matching nuts and bolts. After every finds the person with matching nuts and bolts, the nuts and bolts are returned to their sacks and the game is played over again. Each round is played with a variation such as nuts or bolts are hidden in pockets and the person you approach must search for the hidden object before checking for a match.

[MrandMrsA 76]

An easy variation on the '70's key lock parties I've heard so much about.

[Alura 2,766]

About half a century ago, in Europe, I happened to be in a game of Spin The Bottle. Guests sat in a circle (In couples.) and drained wine bottles. Whoever drained the last swig had to remove an item of clothing, spin the bottle and kiss the person it pointed toward until the bottle was spun again by the person seated next to the kisser, usually that person's spouse. Does that make sense?

 

One found himself in longer and longer kisses with more scantily clad competitors. People started lying down to kiss. You can imagine where the game went from there.