Lookie Loos!

[enhancer 1,542]

What’s the deal with all the lookie loos online? You know the people that view your profile multiple times on a daily basis, but never message you, like or comment on your photos or initiate any sort of contact!

 

We get that the old pervy cock pic dudes are probably just using the pictures and videos for a wack off session, but we just block them anyways. It is all the couples that do it we just don’t really get. If your interested then send a message saying so. If you think by constantly viewing us that we are going to make the first move so you can ignore us and not respond your dreaming. Or maybe they are hoping we are just suddenly going to change into something they want? We just don’t get it. If someone has a profile that we feel like going back to over and over we are going to message them. You can’t expect everyone else to always make the first move in this lifestyle. If you do you will find yourself on the outside looking in.

[lcmim 1,008]

"On the outside looking in".... Might be just the case,

If the profile is on SLS you might be showing up on their random matches. They just might be newbies trying to figure out what to do, or to screw to up their courage.

When we first started we did just what you describe.

We have nothing on the profile open gallery that they couldn't put up in our parish bulletin without embarrassment. If someone might be interested they will find out by first reading our profile.

[Guest]

Sometimes we look at pics just to see who else is in a particular room or discussion. We might even look at the pics of some who have certified them.

[enhancer 1,542]

Just to be clear we are not talking about random glances here and there! We are talking about the people that view your profile multiple times a day everyday.

[1hotminute 72]

I check your profile. You guys are hot. Sorry I haven’t said something sooner

[kellimc 214]

What’s the deal with all the lookie loos online? You know the people that view your profile multiple times on a daily basis, but never message you, like or comment on your photos or initiate any sort of contact!

 

It is all the couples that do it we just don’t really get.

 

What makes you think they are really couples? I'm convinced that single men sometimes make couples profiles so actual couples will respond to their messages or contact them first.

[Thegreyarea 99]

What makes you think they are really couples? I'm convinced that single men sometimes make couples profiles so actual couples will respond to their messages or contact them first.

We’ve got those messages. From a couples profile but she isn’t interested in the lifestyle anymore but doesn’t care if he is. Lol or some variation of that story.

[shy_couple 448]

Sometimes we look at pics just to see who else is in a particular room or discussion. We might even look at the pics of some who have certified them.

 

Same here. We look at certain to see if they are into people like us.

 

Another thing is pics. We have plenty of PG and R rated pics in our public view but NOT our faces. If we send first message, we would be expected to open face pics first. So we may peek but rarely initiate first contact.

[Ozzie+Harriet 84]

Maybe those people who look at your profile numerous times are not as outgoing as you or they don't really know what to say for lack of experience. Personally, I would consider multiple views of a profile an opportunity for almost a sure thing to meet someone or a couple if we found them attractive, so, yeah, we wouldn't complain about it. If we found them attractive, we'd just send a message. If they didn't appeal to us, we'd be flattered and also happy that they didn't contact us and place us in the position of having to decline. I really don't get why you think being the ones to intiate contact is at all a negative, ever. Initiating contact means you are in charge of selecting who you want to play with. By expecting someone else to do it, you only get the chance to accept or decline someone who selected you. If other people just want to look at our profile over and never contact us, then they are just telling us "We'll probably say yes if you send a message," without ever having to talk to them. I only see this as an issue for people who don't take rejection well.

[cplnluv1 804]

Maybe they didn’t remember that you were not what they were looking for. Your intro might be overselling, or you might be physically attractive but they are looking for more than a great looking couple.

[padoc 1,696]

People looking at our profile is a compliment. People looking repeatedly have seen something they obviously like. Where's the problem? We put pictures in our profile to generate interest. Thats what views are, interest. Unless the lookers are a couple who clearly do not meet our criteria or an obviously creepy single guy, we're happy they're looking, we think its validation that we're still attractive. If we return the initial view and think, "yuk" we will block if they make a habit of clicking on us.

[TeamCalgary 161]

May we please offer a variation of this very interesting thread initiated by enhancer.

 

Would love to hear your take on those couples (or those at least appearing to be couples) who are looking

at your profile on a consistent basis, who we then reach out to and are ghosted (receive no response).

 

This seems to a fairly frequent phenomenon for us,with us making the following assumptions:

1. given that most folks within the online sites are the male half of the couples doing the perusing 

2. if we accept #1 then, our only conclusion is that either they are not couples at all or that

if they are couples, the male half likes what he sees (repeatedly) but the female half has taken a pass. 

 

We welcome your thoughts/comments please. 

[enhancer 1,542]

45 minutes ago, TeamCalgary said:

May we please offer a variation of this very interesting thread initiated by enhancer.

 

Would love to hear your take on those couples (or those at least appearing to be couples) who are looking

at your profile on a consistent basis, who we then reach out to and are ghosted (receive no response).

 

This seems to a fairly frequent phenomenon for us,with us making the following assumptions:

1. given that most folks within the online sites are the male half of the couples doing the perusing 

2. if we accept #1 then, our only conclusion is that either they are not couples at all or that

if they are couples, the male half likes what he sees (repeatedly) but the female half has taken a pass. 

 

We welcome your thoughts/comments please. 

You are probably correct when you say most folks online are the male half!  You are probably also correct that they are either not a couple at all or the male half likes what he sees, but the female half has taken a pass.

 

I also think a lot of males in a couple  jump the gun and make an account without the females knowledge thinking it is okay to start the search when things have not got to that point for the female.  Hoping they are going to find that sexy porn star couple that is going to change the wife’s mind and bring her on board.  My experience is that they are not going to find that.

 

Also although most of the time it is the male online doing the search it is almost always going to be the female that is going to make the decision in the end.  Women tend to have the power and control when it comes to the lifestyle and they have every right to be as picky as they want.  I personally wouldn’t have it any other way.

 

As for reaching out to these lookie loos and being ghosted it can be very frustrating!  It is something we would do in the beginning of our search years ago and no longer will do at all, because of the reasons stated above.  It is not worth our time and we are pretty sure for the most part we are not missing out on anything by not doing so.

 

 If people have profiles we feel inclined to check out often we will reach out to them.  If they ghost us that was their one chance and there won’t be another.  If they feel inclined to check out our profile often and are interested they can contact us first.

[TeamCalgary 161]

Many thanks for your insight enhancer, best regards.