Should I let my wife have a boyfriend?

[Himand+Another? 24]

My wife and I were having a convo the other day about a 3sum we had. She was telling me how much she enjoyed herself and how much fun she had. It (the 3sum) started out a little different than I expected. We were at a friend's house playing cards and drinking,he goes to use the restroom and my wife tells me that she wanted a 3sum with the two of us and how horny she was. I encouraged her to be the one to start things and she agreed. When my wife went up to use the restroom I asked my friend if he would be interested in sharing my wife with me and he was very into it.

 

After a few more hands of cards my wife, him, and I go sit in the couch to watch a movie (friend turned on porn lol). We are about 2 minutes into the show and I feel my wife’s legs spread open and he is fingering her and at some point she got his cock out of his shorts and is playing with it.

 

To sum it up, we (my friend and I) had our way with my wife and she loved it so much that she has asked me to take her back there 3 times, and the 3rd time I watched them for a bit before joining.

 

She has since asked if I would send her over there alone and she would tape it for me! Is this something that is ok? We are happily married and in love and I do enjoy watching her with another guy. She has mentioned before about her having a boyfriend and I think she found him.

[ViSexual 1,006]

I wouldn't have a problem with it. Especially, if she's going to tape it for you. And something you might consider is her calling you and letting you hear and even talk to them during. Hey, maybe even SKYPE.

 

If he's going to be her boyfriend, they probably want some time alone.

[Guest]

I don't have a formal boyfriend, but if I wanted, it would be okay. We swing, and step out separate on occasion. So, I don't know, maybe our situation is different. If you're happy with it and your relationship is enlightened...why not. I agree with ViSexual, recording it or maybe getting a few photos, will allow you to share the adventure and eroticism as a couple.

[Himand+Another? 24]

Ok so after talking more with the Mrs,I guess I miss understood. She doesn’t exactly want a BF just a guy that I’m ok with her seeing when she’s feeling horney and I’m not home. She is home alone a lot because of my work schedule. I did mention to her about video and the phone call/FaceTime stuff and that seemed to turn her on a lot! Tbh the thought of her inviting a guy over while I’m at work and in her words(letting him have his way with her) is very hot and arrosuing. She did tell me before that it would be hot if I let her have a boyfriend I guess our definition on that is different as I thought she would be having a personal relationship with him. Turns out her def of BF while married is a guy she can call frequently to come over and let him have his way with her and F her like a little slut. Thanks for the feedback all. I guess now I should talk her into doing ya both at the same time? Or find a GF?

[eruditesdw 29]

My wife and I were having a convo the other day about a 3sum we had.she was telling me how much she enjoyed herself and how much fun she had. It (the 3sum) started out a little different than I exspected. We were at a friends house playing cards and drinking,he goes to use the restroom and my wife tells me that she wanted a 3sum with The two of us and how hornet she was. I encouraged her to be the one to start things and she agreed. When my wife went up to use the restroom I asked my friend if he would be interested in sharing my wife with me and he was very into it. After a few more hands if card my wife him and I go sit in the couch to watch a movie(friend turned in porn lol) we are about 2 mins into the show and I feel my wife’s legs spread open and he is fingering her and at some point she got his cock out of his shorts and is playing with it. To sum it up we(my friend and I) had our way with my wife and she loved it so much that she has asked me to take her back there 3 times after and the 3rd time I watched them for a bit before joining. She has since asked if I would send her over there alone and she would tape it for me! Is this something that is ok? We are happily married and in love and I do enjoy watching her with another guy. She has mentioned before about her having a boyfriend and I think she found him.

.........It has worked out with my wife and I but one of the reasons is I got older and can't be very good at sex anymore. Wife is still Horney but I have to admit I enjoy the pictures she takes. Life is good!!! I wish you well.

[rozy161 16]

i think its fine..if you try to hold tight it will break.

[Numex 2,175]

"Should I let my wife have a boyfriend?"

My concern originally was that if my wife was having sex with someone else, it would diminish the amount of sex she would want with me. The opposite happened. We screw as much as I can perform (usually twice a day) AND she steps out. Women have a capacity for sex that men don't - they don't have to get an erection to get going, and can have orgasms one after another. In swap situations I've seen her finish and appear completely satisfied/spent. Several minutes later, she's at it again.

 

OTOH, when my wife is working or needs to concentrate, she isn't distracted by thoughts of sex like I am.

[Sunday 119]

Swinging means different things to different people but to me, it's a journey of sexual exploration and it's done together. Once we're not together and sex with another happens, it's ain't swinging, it's cheating.

 

I don't get the whole "cuck" thing but this sounds more like that.

 

[Numex 2,175]

.. Once we're not together and sex with another happens, it's ain't swinging, it's cheating...

We and the couples we play with have threesomes and play alone often for one reason - kids. No one is hiding anything and we don't consider it cheating. Babysitters are sometimes arranged on weekends for couples play.

[lovefest04 685]

Numex: "OTOH, when my wife is working or needs to concentrate, she isn't distracted by thoughts of sex like I am."

 

I am so glad I'm not the only one. My lady can turn off all erotic thoughts when busy, worried or otherwise preoccupied. Me? They just keep coming at a rate of about 17 per second NO MATTER WHAT I'M*DOING. This is why I can be deep in a work project one minute and wacking off the next or at the same time!. My lady just shakes her head. One more difference between men and women, at least the two of us.

[PSULioness 754]

My husband didn’t “let” me, I never asked him if I could have sex when he is out of town. He suggested it. We had played with his best friend and my husband wanted me to have fun when he travels for work. I was surprised that he was so insistent. He explained that he knew it would be safe and there was no reason for me to be lonely. I think you need to feel safe if you go along with her want. If you feel threatened you will not be happy

[Numex 2,175]

... He explained that he knew it would be safe and there was no reason for me to be lonely. I think you need to feel safe if you go along with her want. If you feel threatened you will not be happy

Very well put. Safety is why play only within our group (we are all also comfortable watching each other's children for play and nonplay activities).

 

For us it's not only "not being lonely," but also being totally satisfied. There are no rules for us playing with anyone within our group.