Kink in swinging

[TheSwingerSet 205]

The just plain sex thread had me wondering, How much does Kink play in your swinging life? and what do you consider kinky?

[funcoupledayton 2,707]

It's pretty funny. We were at a NYE hotel takeover. One of the specialty rooms was a hospitality suite called The Darker Side. It was for bdsm. They had a cot with restraints and a spanking bench. I heard a lot of people saying, "oh, no, not for me..." or more judgmental remarks. But when they opened up the room it was packed! There were quite a few people getting spanked and a lot of people watching.

 

I think the newness of it was part of the excitement. The room was decorated in a cool way with red xmas lights, kind of spooky/sexy and of course lots of smacking sounds, which you don't typically hear. Our local club doesn't have a dungeon area.

 

We've done bondage and light flogging with a friend in private, but I wouldn't be up for doing a scene at a swing club in an open area. I do sometimes slap my husband on the face, legs or butt while playing in the open. It is all in fun and he likes it. I love to be held down by him or swing partners and don't mind being spanked a little. Hair-pulling is great. I also like being with a take-charge partner who tells me what to do. I would consider all these things very light kink, possibly even standard.

[SJCPL1 65]

We prefer to have some bondage involved when possible. I am always amazed however about the judgmental comments made by people. If it isn't for you, so be it.

[angelkin 1,326]

We're pretty vanilla except the swinging part. We dabble in some light kink such as spanking, restraints, hair pulling - but that's mostly alone.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,019]

I'm as straight as an arrow. I become upset even when the garden hose develops a kink.

 

There is one new female friend, however, who tells me I have something deep down that she wants to awaken. In her words, she wants to "peel away my layers." I'm not really sure what she is trying to say to me.

[funcoupledayton 2,707]

I'm as straight as an arrow. I become upset even when the garden hose develops a kink.

 

There is one new female friend, however, who tells me I have something deep down that she wants to awaken. In her words, she wants to "peel away my layers." I'm not really sure what she is trying to say to me.

 

You are an onion?!

[km34 672]

I won't do anything kinky/fetish-related with anyone but hubby (or other people I am dating on occasion, but definitely not casual playmates) - that includes spanking (light taps on the ass during doggy or something are fine, but in general I don't enjoy receiving anyway), bondage of any sort (including being held down), role play, degradation, Dom/sub undercurrents, or anything else.

 

I have to have an incredible amount of trust in the person/people before I am comfortable approaching anything beyond the norm. In general I find myself only thinking that intense of a relationship is only worth developing with people that I am romantically interested in. And yes, I am considering group sex and partner swapping as part of the norm.

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

As a rule, nothing but light bondage for playmates, but we'll both slap an ass or pull hair if requested, but I don't actually consider any of those things kinky. Our palette is wider together and I suppose we'd allow in a trusted couple, if that's something that interested them too.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,019]

You are an onion?!

 

Maybe yes. But a sweet one. If a girl peels a layer, never a cause for tears

[TheSwingerSet 205]

I have a female playmate that Has continued to lactate by choice and when we are together there is always some time set aside for a little nursing, more her kink than mine, we also have included some bondage and spanking in our play from time to time.

 

K

[two4youinswva 3,067]

There's not a lot of kink in our swinging. Mrs two4you had a partner that would indulge her very light BDSM kink, but there was a lot of trust there, it was something I'm not into, so it worked for them. His partner and I had our own regular fun while they scratched this itch.

 

Other than that, not a lot of kink in our swing.

 

There is one new female friend, however, who tells me I have something deep down that she wants to awaken. In her words, she wants to "peel away my layers." I'm not really sure what she is trying to say to me.

 

You are an onion?!

 

Maybe he's a parfait. Parfaits have layers.

[FredAndWilma 15]

 

Maybe he's a parfait. Parfaits have layers.

 

Nice Shrek reference!

[Brian and Jo 344]

We both enjoy light bondage and spanking, also blindfolding, when we play with another couple or our group. But that is as far as we go on the kinky side.

[junglecouple 127]

Depends on your definition of "KINK". We enjoy MFM and are hoping to expand to MMF, MMMMF this year.. seems kinky to us.. LOL

[funcoupledayton 2,707]

I define kink as bdsm and fetish. So bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism, masochism, plus things like foot worship, age play, leather or latex, etc. I don't consider multiple partners or group sex in itself to be kink.

[TheSwingerSet 205]

I define kink as bdsm and fetish. So bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism, masochism, plus things like foot worship, age play, leather or latex, etc. I don't consider multiple partners or group sex in itself to be kink.

 

 

I would add watersports, exibititionism, fisting etc....

[sparkstar 128]

I like having my hands restrained and having a man do anything he wants me with which does not involve much pain, bleeding, suffocation, permanent scarring. Im not into bondage.

I find it very kinky playing with much older men such as age 50-70, im 26.

MFM threesome, its so kinky? having 2 men inside.

 

As for him? has to be me dressed in stockings and some stripper platform 6" heels, and watching me with other men.

[D&D 362]

Both my wife and I like being tied down, or up for that matter. Restraining her on the bed so that she can't move, being able to explore in the way I want, not giving her any choice, gets us both going like bunny rabbits. Mix in a blind fold, a flog, ice and some hot wax and I'm in heaven! The other night Mrs D and Playmate tied me blindfolded to the bed and "punished" me for three hours with a selection of ice, flogs, and candles. The build up of pain and pleasure was intense! Lately I've begun learning Shibari(Japanese rope bondage/art). Tieing someone up is such turn on. Last Friday on a date I tied up Mrs D and the wife. Both of the other couple are photographers so they took pictures of the entire process. Incredible! I posted a few of the pictures on our SLS and Kasidie profiles. I attached a PG pic of one of our playmates.

[Tia Vampire 167]

Being a mistress, I have to seperate swinging from BDSM. When i'm with a swing partner, it's just casual sex. I'll do some hair pulling and a slap on the ass. Because the club I attend offers both BDSM and swinging on the same night, I have to find out what the person is into. If they came to the club because of the BDSM, then it's a all out kink fest. Plus I know who the kinksters are. I usually only get with kinksters on BDSM, but once in a while i'll come across someone that wants to explore their kinky side.

[Just Passing By 140]

Imagine a swinger, a BDSM'er , and an exhibitionist all in the same room. Each one will be pointing at the other two , and calling them vanilla.

 

To an extent , anything other than missionary in the dark , with the blinds closed , hurry up and get it over with is a degree of kink.

 

Participants in one *advanced* area may be somewhat more likely than baseline general public to try other *advanced* activities , but that is often not the same as mixing them. They would be more likely to aproach each in it's own context and mental space.

[CollegeCouple24 232]

Neither of us can tie a knot to save our lives, so we've never described ourselves as a bdsm couple. ~8 years ago, kink meant bdsm and not to get off topic, but we've felt that the type of mainstream porn plays a huge role in what becomes generally acceptable. Even now I see posts like "do you have a hall pass?" where neither of us had heard the phrase before a recent movie came out or discussions about the content of 50 shades...the definition of it changes now and again. For us, and most recently, kink has been cattiness between the other female and myself (have seen couples advertise "ultimate surrender" type swaps), verbal humiliation and things like double penetration and double vaginal penetration come up whereas prior to 2 years ago, I had never been asked to do double vaginal penetration.

 

The only constant kink for us has been being uncomfortable in a swap and/or competition between couples. The former being too varied to name and competition being more exciting than kink

[lotsoffun201 175]

As for him? has to be me dressed in stockings and some stripper platform 6" heels, and watching me with other men.

 

Sounds like a man after my own heart!

[DaggersNRoses 271]

The just plain sex thread had me wondering, How much does Kink play in your swinging life? and what do you consider kinky?

 

K

 

My husband and I enjoy a little rougher sex and some light BDSM play between us. This is one of those things that we aren't sure about with others though. People can cover a wide range when it comes to "rougher play" or BDSM. What is one person's thrill is another's turn off. We are still trying to figure out the range of basics like will kissing be ok without pushing farther into areas that get even more complex.

[DaggersNRoses 271]

I won't do anything kinky/fetish-related with anyone but hubby (or other people I am dating on occasion, but definitely not casual playmates) - that includes spanking (light taps on the ass during doggy or something are fine, but in general I don't enjoy receiving anyway), bondage of any sort (including being held down), role play, degradation, Dom/sub undercurrents, or anything else.

 

I have to have an incredible amount of trust in the person/people before I am comfortable approaching anything beyond the norm. In general I find myself only thinking that intense of a relationship is only worth developing with people that I am romantically interested in. And yes, I am considering group sex and partner swapping as part of the norm.

 

I agree, some of these things do take trust. I trust that my husband won't really hurt me, everything we do is for mutual pleasure and he knows exactly how far to go to be good and when to stop. I am not and probably will never be ok with some of these things with another man. Maybe that's my line for what I only share with my husband.

 

Light swats and being a little rougher, that's different and might eb enjoyable with others.

[Coupleerotic22 1,417]

In her words, she wants to "peel away my layers." I'm not really sure what she is trying to say to me.

 

For some reason fava beans and a nice Chianti come to mind.

[Guest newplaytoys]

i the female half somtimes enjoy being restrained , tied down and used , shared and played with by a small group of men .

[let's do it again 380]

All the time for me. Exhibitionism,  anal licking, and piss play. If it's ok with my partner then it's game on! My partner's have been into BDSM, strap on, and role playing. 

[J&Wu 373]

Kink!! One person's norm might be kink to us? Actually Wu thinks some things that I find pleasant like urethral stim and anal and cross dressing kind of weird and kinky and I sure was aghast early in our marriage when she wanted to have sex where we could be watched, but today I don't think that's so kinky at all!  Perception changes with experiences and time?