Are there sex positions you just can't do?

[LFM2 1,481]

I absolutely can't do a 69. I have the hardest time concentrating on what I'm doing if someone else is working on me. My brain just can't process the two sensations I'm feeling. I can go down on someone but I can't have someone going down on me at the same time -- unless they want me to stop what I'm doing.

 

Does anyone else have a brain that can't process this way?

 

Holly

[twoforone100 45]

love the idea of 69 but, in practice it is tooo hard (no pun) to do.

[TravlParty 87]

As of this year, I can't have my head upside down (female), like when my head is hanging off a bed or upside down in a sex swing. Inner ear thing makes me very dizzy.

[NotSorry 155]

I thought I was alone in the 'not being able to concentrate during 69' camp.

 

It's not that I can't or won't do it. I just don't find it quite as pleasurable simultaneously. I like to be able to focus whether I am getting or giving. That makes it more fun for me.

 

Mrs. NotSorry

[Guest screaminggood]

My husband is too tall for us to do doggiestyle....his legs are just too tall! Of course there are other behind my back things that work just fine!

[JustAskJulie 2,588]

I'm with you on the 69 as well. It's not that I can't do it, but I'd definately prefer to take turns. There is NO way for me to get off in a 69 and still give you the attention you deserve for getting me off. When it starts feeling good, I will stop giving.

 

I can't think of any positions I really can't do, although I am finding that many are much more difficult (or easy) lately. It's funny how my favorite positions seem to change over the years and of course with different partners.

[fun4Ds 1,097]

I can do a 69 with ease. Two separate brains, working independently... Not a problem

 

The wheelbarrow is impossible, as we found out trying it....

 

It was like, uhhhhh what the hell are we doing, this doesn't even remotely resemble sex.

 

Don't know who cam up with that position, I think they just threw it in as a possibility It's not too fun

[cplnuswing 4,711]

I like 69 for when things are just playfully warming up, but when it gets serious, just too much to have to concentrate on to keep everything comfortable for both. At that point, we prefer to start taking turns focusing on the other.

 

That's not really changed over the years - do it occasionally, but just not a favorite thing for either of us.

[two4youinswva 3,067]

I absolutely can't do a 69. I have the hardest time concentrating on what I'm doing if someone else is working on me.

 

That's actually not a bad thing. When I'm involved in a 69 and she loses focus on her end, I figure that I just might be doing something right.

 

I'll agree on the wheelbarrow, and there's plenty of positions in the position books that we couldn't manage in a million years.

[funcpl4life 51]

I'm often too tall for 69, but doggie-style works well so far.

[jdavisauto 73]

My lady half was in a car accident so time back and broke her neck and back. Over 40% of her back and neck is now metal rods and pins. She is not able to work the dancer pole, lay on her back with her ass over her head (I love that one), she is not even able to bend over a table or chair any more. In fact now we have to be very careful on what we are doing so she don’t injure her back again.

[LFM2 1,481]

As of this year, I can't have my head upside down (female), like when my head is hanging off a bed or upside down in a sex swing. Inner ear thing makes me very dizzy.

 

I never even thought about that one. It makes my sinuses burn. Luckily, I've not been in that position often.

[LFM2 1,481]

I thought I was alone in the 'not being able to concentrate during 69' camp.

 

It's not that I can't or won't do it. I just don't find it quite as pleasurable simultaneously. I like to be able to focus whether I am getting or giving. That makes it more fun for me.

 

Mrs. NotSorry

 

Oh Girl, I so understand what you're saying! I wish my brain would accommodate those feelings, but, it just won't.

[LFM2 1,481]

My lady half was in a car accident so time back and broke her neck and back. Over 40% of her back and neck is now metal rods and pins. She is not able to work the dancer pole, lay on her back with her ass over her head (I love that one), she is not even able to bend over a table or chair any more. In fact now we have to be very careful on what we are doing so she don’t injure her back again.

 

So, you're having to be very inventive. You might be on to some new positions that we don't know about?

[NCfuncouple98 367]

Mr NC here, this is an outstanding postion! I love when she is into it and she stops and just twists her head and tightens up and enjoys what is going on. Nothing is better then to know that I am doing something that is giving her the plesure she deserves. As far as I am concerned, that is what it is all about for me. Yes I do enjoy the return but it is good when I know I am doing that to her.

[dodgechevy 149]

Her legs are a little too long for us to do doggy so we always had a hard time doing it. We did accidentally find a super easy way to do it in. Whatever that thing is that holds up the box spring broke. So they next time we tried to do doggy we were just able to do it as long as I was standing next to the bed and she was on the bed. So now we have our bed on the floor.

[ncmd_couple 597]

Can someone recommend a good ceiling fan repair technician?

 

But seriously, I can't think of any position that hasn't worked for us yet, but then, we haven't gone through the book and said, "honey, want to try this one?" I accept that the action on me is going to stop when I get her humming in a 69, we just pick up the play after she has had a good "O"

[K&JIntimates 66]

Have to agree with 69 thing. I prefer concentrating on what I'm doing or receiving. We can do it but we don't do it often because it's hard for me to climax in the more traditional 69 positions.

 

I can't do 'legs on his shoulders up over my head' position. Not only am I not flexible enough to accommodate this without a distracting discomfort in my legs, it hurts when K is thrusting.

[Thrax 384]

Since I'm of average length in the erection department there are some seated positions -- her facing away and depending on the angle of the chair -- that just don't work.

 

But, in that case, we find a different chair, or move to a different position.

 

There is one position though, that could cause me pain if not injury. I don't know if there is a name for it, but think of intercourse in the cowgirl position (guy flat on his back, she's sitting on top facing him). Now, still straddling him, she decides to lay back, resting her back on his legs.

 

For me, when my admittedly average unit is fully erect, having a woman do that is PAINFUL (as I stated in another thread). Any potential boneration below that 90 degree angle from belly to perpendicular gets into dangerous ligament-stretching territory for me.

 

Several couples and years ago I was in the cowgirl position with a new play partner and she unexpectedly said, "Trust me!," and lay back like that. Luckily I had my wits about me and sat up fast. Phew! I figured out later that her hubby's unit, which is comparable to some livestock appendages, definitely gets bigger but does not get nearly as solid as my boner. So his full erection is definitely much bigger than mine, but I might have the upper hand, so to speak, with regard to stiffness. So that was most likely my problem in that case.

 

In pornos, I've seen that guys with a larger-than-average units, or average and not fully-erect penises, apparently comfortably assume that position. However, unless a visit to the ER (and a LOT of embarrassing questions) is your turn-on, then, with me, that position is a no-no.

 

Let's try something else, shall we? Just let me know in advance if you're going to do something suddenly. Please. Thanks.

[J&D 15]

When we were first married we did 69 as part of foreplay not really trying to make either cum. I (male) found that I had a problem being comfortable on the bottom. Found out that I was clasphrobic (SP) which made it hard to concentrate.

 

Found doggy style was a little hard to do until I stand on exercise steps and it works great.

 

When we were younger cowgirl was our favorite because we could also do it in the car.

[SecretAsianMan 348]

About two thirds of the positions in the Kama Sutra book are just not designed for me to comfortably get into... sometimes it's simply a lack of endowment on my part ('cuz lets face it - some of those positions REALLY require a fella to be hung like a donkey to accomplish) ... and some of them are due to my own / my partners lack of bendy-ness

[Tia Vampire 167]

Having my partner jump from across the room and into my pussy would be hard for us to do. By the way, I love NCfuncouple98's avatar. Anything in a standing position is hard for us to do because i'm so short.

[NCfuncouple98 367]

By the way, I love NCfuncouple98's avatar. Anything in a standing position is hard for us to do because i'm so short.

 

Thank you! We too have the same issue. Mr. NC is 6'3", Mrs. is 5'1"(and a 1/2"). LOL. Standing positions would never work for us!

[rpu3 630]

I've yet to been able to pull off a standing position with anyone. I'm 5'7" (agghhh! I'm shrinking in my old age!), and everyone I've been with is at least my height or taller (up to 6'7") and it's just never worked out. The last thing left to try is leaving a tall pair of heels on with a 5'11"-6' partner, I guess. Maybe I'm supposed to try it with men shorter than I am?

[Cpl2share 147]

We love 69! Of course, Mrs Cpl loves the tongue, and that is really the only way for her to get off. I do not need to get off that way, so I enjoy giving it to her and she keeps me interested. I always know when I hear and feel it pop out of her mouth that the squirming is about to begin and I have done my job well. Doggy and any of the "deep penetration" positions are pretty much out for us as I am on the longer side and she is definately on the "shallow" side. Bottom line is that as long as we are both getting wet it is not just good it is greeeaaaat.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,019]

One of the delightful discoveries of having multiple sex partners is what does not work with one woman works just fine with another. I experience the difficulty that Thrax described but recently had a woman sit on top of me whose vaginal opening was located more anterior than usual. Worked just fine. Another woman of my acquaintance has her hole so far forward that I was able to enter her while we were both standing. I had absolutely despaired of this ever being possible.

 

The 69 position and the act are no trouble for me but I have yet to meet a woman who will allow it to go to "completion". Reading the posts in this thread have been enlightening.

 

All of this has reminded me of something a sex-education teacher told me (state-mandated sex education in a private religious-based high school is something frightening). He said that a man and woman had to reach a "climax" at exactly the same time or a baby would not happen. How about that for difficult? Too bad this is not true. It would certainly solve any problem of overpopulation.

[LFM2 1,481]

SW_PA_Couple said:

One of the delightful discoveries of having multiple sex partners is what does not work with one woman works just fine with another.

 

This is exactly a great thing to bring up. One of Dave's partners loves 69, her brain isn't wired so weird that she could enjoy both the act of giving and receiving. This is what we love about variety. It allows us something different to try with a partner that our own partner really can't do.

 

SW_PA_Couple said:

All of this has reminded me of something a sex-education teacher told me (state-mandated sex education in a private religious-based high school is something frightening). He said that a man and woman had to reach a "climax" at exactly the same time or a baby would not happen. How about that for difficult? Too bad this is not true. It would certainly solve any problem of overpopulation.

 

Just the thought of a religious based teaching is frightening. (8 years of parochial school here) Whoda thunk that they would teach something that ridiculous. Or else, maybe he truly believed it. That would mean all those poor women who can't climax would be barren.

[vanillaknot 99]

For me, 69 is one of those "really comfortable, very settled into it, could stay there for hours" kinds of things. It's arguably the most relaxing position as there's not a lot of movement needed. When the other person gets too stimulated to keep attention on what they're doing, I figure that's a good thing, it means I'm doing something right, sometimes really really right.

 

Maybe best of all, the fact that someone cums doesn't necessarily mean that anything has to stop or move or change, which is a big reason for the "could stay there for hours" perspective.

[celtic239 297]

The male standing up and holding the wife upside down doing 69 is a bit daunting. However I'm intruiged with the posts by some of the females stating that they don't like simultaneous 69, as it breaks the concentration of the orgasm. Does the same brain block occur during threesomes/group sex?

[LFM2 1,481]

The male standing up and holding the wife upside down doing 69 is a bit daunting. However I'm intruiged with the posts by some of the females stating that they don't like simultaneous 69, as it breaks the concentration of the orgasm. Does the same brain block occur during threesomes/group sex?

 

Not for me it doesn't. Weird, huh? I love our threesomes and moresomes. I can fully function without problems, but that damn 69 position with just one other person -- gets me every time!!

[willyoats 324]

My wife had a guy a couple of times who was so heavy that he could not do missionary position. They did it lying on their sides with him coming in from behind. At least I think that's what she said. I was always with his wife in another room when it happened, so I never saw it.

[cplnuswing 4,711]

We used to do one where it was like missionary, but with the male turned 180.  Her legs had to be way back and her hips held up, and then the guy had to be basically holding himself up like doing a pushup while still thrusting.  Since there was usually some digital anal play going on at the same time, make that a one armed pushup  Makes me hurt just thinking of it now 😂  Nowadays, if we didn't pull or strain something trying to do it, we would probably collapse into a pile and fall off the bed and hurt ourselves that way 😅

[PeterJ 826]

When I was 15 and my girlfriend and I were just discovering sex, we experimented with positions described in a book she had. (It was not the Kama Sutra and this was before “The Joy of Sex" was published.) I was an athlete and she was short, slim and lithe. On her 16th birthday we went to the movies. Neither of us had a drivers license, so afterwards we went to the ally behind the theater. She took off her panties and hiked her skirt up to her waist. I dropped my trousers and underpants, and lifted her up. I slid my cock into her pussy and she wrapped her legs around my waist. My recollection is that she was kinda thrusting but mostly I was lifting and settling her body on my cock. When we were finished we got our clothes back in order and went to where we were supposed to meet her dad with his car.

 

More than a half-century later that night is still an enjoyable memory for me (I sometimes wonder if it is for her) but the reality of geriatric sex is that, whole it’s still immensely enjoyable, with nerve injuries in both arms, my partners and I are more concerned with finding positions that are comfortable for both of us and still ensure the critical pleasure bits get sufficient stimulation. 😉😂😊

 

(My other related observation is that perhaps a keen interest in exotic positions is an aspect of the "pornification" of sex. Beyond the factor of partners doing something new to them for the novel effect, I wonder if some people’s inclination to go through a series of positions during an encounter is a result of watching porn, where erotic stimulation channels are limited to visual and auditory, and the tactile and olfactory ones are missing.)

[shy_couple 448]

Really want to try the Amazon position. Besides being less flexible and carrying extra weight, not sure my penis will Bend that way without breaking.