Why so many bi or bi-curious females?

[MateMike 15]

In trying to locate a compatible couple it seems most of the female half are bi or bi-curious which makes compatibly an issue. Why is this?

[jstlkng 15]

In trying to locate a compatible couple it seems most of the female half are bi or bi-curious which makes compatibly an issue. Why is this?

 

Being a male I can't even venture a guess as to why this is true so I asked my wife (who is straight, would not even consider a peck on the cheek from another female straight). She didn't know either. So I asked a few friends and I got a few answers:

 

1 - anonimity - swingers tend to keep things in the "club" and so women who like to play with women don't have to explain anything to anyone outside the lifestyle.

 

2 - my husband likes it...it turns him on.

 

3 - its the only way we can get couples who want to play.

 

4 - only women know how to please a woman.

 

5 - and the one I thought was the most honest...I like to eat pussy. This was from my cousin. She and her husband are both bi.

[MateMike 15]

I just don't get it!

[Chicup 41]

In trying to locate a compatible couple it seems most of the female half are bi or bi-curious which makes compatibly an issue. Why is this?

 

Because god is good

 

Before you worry to much about compatibility (I assume your wife is straight) a lot of 'bi' women don't mind if they don't do GG play, just be up front when you contact them. My wife is bi but she likes men better and doesn't mind if its just normal play. Also a LOT of bi-curious are just that, curious, it doesn't mean they will do anything or will attack your wife.

[mikeandbrie 15]

A few years ago I  had a threesome involving another woman, though I really didn't enjoy it much it was a very sensual experience.

 

Women are extremely sensual creatures. We smell wonderful, some sweet like candy or vanilla that makes you feel like you just can't resist melting into them others spice, you want to just dive right in and feel their heat surround you. We are as soft as satin and velvet. Our natural movements put you in awe, by the way we turn our faces toward you like every word you say is pure wisdom to the way we toss our hair or twirl a piece while in thought.

 

Every woman is sensual and erotic whether or not she knows it, other women notice it and are attracted to it. Maybe we want to be like her or just taste her but we feel that sensuality and we want a part of it.

 

Just picture a woman's curves, her walk, small hand gestures, her laughter, just as you find these attractive so do we women.

 

brie

[starlinn 17]

Brie,

I have never seen it put that way, but you hit the nail on the head!

[WildMiCouple 325]

In trying to locate a compatible couple it seems most of the female half are bi or bi-curious which makes compatibly an issue. Why is this?

Reminds me of an old quote:

Willie Sutton, an infamous bank robber was supposedly asked "Why do you rob banks?" To which he replied "Because that is where the money is."

 

Brett (and Tammy)

[CuriousInOregon 16]

Well First off Mate Welcome to the board Second off What is the Issue? Unless of course your SO isnt bi or even remotly interested in the option. You can try looking on SLS they have some good profiles and you can look in your areas for specifics like Stright or Bi...... Just a little Advice If you come off as Open your more likely to get a response rather than being pushy or Closed minded. try the Getting Started page it may help you on your journey. Until then Happy swinging

[GerdOEvert 51]

In our swinging experience, and in searching for couples, the bi women are more open to experimentation and more aware of their own needs and desires. It was the consenses at our club and group that bi women were the predominant group of women who advertised or participated.

 

Why do men like bi women? Because they enjoy the sensuality. And they enjoy it more when there is more than one woman enjoying the sensuality. I fantasize, and many men fantasize, of tasting more than one woman in an evening.

 

As someone said above, we also enjoy the sight, curves, the hair, the moves, the taste, and the smell of a sexy woman. And women enjoy that as well. Heavy women, not round and pleasingly plump have a harder time.

 

Bi is a very big part of the swinging scene in our experience. Even straight women are encouraged to experiment in the bi arena.

 

Now one thing I have not seen -- lesbian women do not seem to gravitate to the swinging scene. I don't know why, but they go elsewhere. Also, gay men don't seem to appear very often. Bi men, but even that not very often

[My77038 15]

WildMiCouple said:

Reminds me of an old quote:

Willie Sutton, an infamous bank robber was supposedly asked "Why do you rob banks?" To which he replied "Because that is where the money is."

 

Brett (and Tammy)

 

I sure did love that quote. When I read I Hollered out loud in laughter. Good observation. I can see that you are very funny. Thanks for the early morning laugh.

[shivers68 15]

loved and agreed completely. Can't get sexy with someone you don't feel a pull toward.

[EmpyreanPleasur 18]

mikeandbrie said:

A few years ago I  had a threesome involving another woman, though I really didn't enjoy it much it was a very sensual experience.

 

Women are extremely sensual creatures. We smell wonderful, some sweet like candy or vanilla that makes you feel like you just can't resist melting into them others spice, you want to just dive right in and feel their heat surround you. We are as soft as satin and velvet. Our natural movements put you in awe, by the way we turn our faces toward you like every word you say is pure wisdom to the way we toss our hair or twirl a piece while in thought.

 

Every woman is sensual and erotic whether or not she knows it, other women notice it and are attracted to it. Maybe we want to be like her or just taste her but we feel that sensuality and we want a part of it.

 

Just picture a woman's curves, her walk, small hand gestures, her laughter, just as you find these attractive so do we women.

 

If I wasn't already bi I would be after reading this!

[curiouscouple4f 17]

Chicup said:

Because god is good

 

Before you worry to much about compatibility (I assume your wife is straight) a lot of 'bi' women don't mind if they don't do GG play, just be up front when you contact them. My wife is bi but she likes men better and doesn't mind if its just normal play. Also a LOT of bi-curious are just that, curious, it doesn't mean they will do anything or will attack your wife.

 

I'm bi-curious myself, however, just because I'm bi-curious it doesn't mean that I'd have to have GG play. I'd be just as happy for strictly MF MF MFM action. My husband is strictly straight and it wouldn't bother him at all either.

 

"The Mrs."

[Tempest419 15]

Thanks for the post, Brie--couldn't have put it better myself! I like to think every woman is a goddess.

 

As for my two cents... I love breasts--could stay for an hour--and those soft, slick wet folds? Mmmm.... what's not to want? Vaginas remind me of blossoming flowers, of honeypots and the sweet, slow running sap of a tree (can you tell I'm a pagan?).

 

I also wanted to say that when someone doth protest too much, it usually means the curiosity (and desire) is there, underneath all the social/religious conditioning that keeps us tied up in shame and guilt. I also think, from a spiritual perspective, it gives you appreciation for what your husband or sig-other loves about you. All hail the Goddess!

[Carol_Danny 17]

In trying to locate a compatible couple it seems most of the female half are bi or bi-curious which makes compatibly an issue. Why is this?

 

I don't understand why you are incompatible due to the woman being Bi. What difference does that make in a MFM threesome? My wife is fully Bisexual, and we have MFM threesomes all the time. Just because a woman is Bi doesn't mean all she is looking for is another women. Being Bi gives them 2 ways to go

 

-- Danny

[intuition897 2,179]

I don't think you need to worry much about compatibility, as was suggested already. As long as your wife isn't phobic about everyone in the room appreciating her. I'm probably 90% straight. I'm very attracted to the no-nonsense solidity of men. However, during playtime, I appreciate the fluid beauty of the female form, their gestures, their scent, taste, sound... I can keep my hands to myself, though. No biggie.

 

Why so much female bisexuality?

Because for new couples getting into swinging, it is a natural first step.

Many women have bisexual fantasies. Maybe even most. Typically, it is the man who initiates swinging, and the woman is more often than not reluctant (to say the least). F/F sex isn't really "real" sex, so it seems less threatening or appears safer. And it may be true for some that jealousy is much less likely to crop up in this situation (it's not foolproof however). And one of the best ways to persuade a partner to try swinging is by focusing on their fantasies, not yours.

 

Perhaps the reason it's so prevalent (and I'm theorizing here) is a 'survival of the fittest' so to speak. It's difficult for a couple to ease into swinging without the risk of jealousy; when you see your partner with another rival for the first time (or someone whom you perceive to be a potential rival), jealous feelings will almost surely surface. Due to their volatile nature, these feelings can really run away with you, screwing up the whole experience for everyone. Thus, the couple says, "NOPE! Swinging is NOT our thing." But if the couple can lessen the chance of overblown emotional reactions, a first encounter has a better chance for success. It's a way to take a small bite without being overwhelmed. Good experiences = positive feelings about swinging = more swinging. Bad experiences = no more swinging. I dunno, maybe a little far-fetched... Just a theory.

[shandale05 15]

MateMike said:

In trying to locate a compatible couple it seems most of the female half are bi or bi-curious which makes compatibly an issue. Why is this?

 

We've met dozens of couples with straight females and even though it's not my personal preference, we have never had compatibility issues. I'm not sure what you mean by that???

 

If the other female is straight, we opt for straight swapping only when we play with another couple. It seems simple. I don't have hangups about "must have's" so maybe that's why there's no issue in it for us!

 

Shannon

[Carol_Danny 17]

Why am I Bisexual? I cannot answer that as even I do not know why I am attracted to women. I just always have been, and I know that I am equally attracted to both men and women.

 

I can ask you, Why are you straight?

 

Carol xoxoxo

[Tempest419 15]

Good question Carol... sometimes I wonder why so many lesbians seem so... unfeminine. For me, the hair, the lips, the curves are so yummy! I am not sure I can explain it either, I just remember having fantasies about women when I was 13. Of course I grew up in a very religious household and would NEVER have admitted it to anyone... even myself for many years.

 

A girl friend of mine a few years back said she understood bisexuals less than homosexuals. I'm thinking... huh? To me, both shapes are attractive in their own way, and as another bi acquaintance said to me almost 16 years ago, "I think people should just fall in love with people."

 

I also ponder how many hetero (but curious) women have been brainwashed by society's "dirty" religious view and treatment of women and their bodies. Since I have effectively re-programmed my way of thinking that menstruation is powerful and yes, even sexy (I know several women who enjoy sex the most just pre-menstrual or during!) through education, I have come to realize that our sweet little pots of gold are just delicious. Having a sweet tooth, I much prefer the taste and smell of vaginal fluids to salty sperm (though I happily have both )

 

All that conditioning is something to think about anyway...

[txduo2000 18]

MateMike said:

In trying to locate a compatible couple it seems most of the female half are bi or bi-curious which makes compatibly an issue. Why is this?

 

This is a long-going question of mine as well. As the female half of this couple - a ram-rod STRAIGHT female - compatibility has often been an issue with us as far as finding couples to play with. We have actually been turned down by those we found attractive because I am not bi ... their responses have generally been along the lines of "well, yes, we would be interested IF the female of your couple was bi ..."

 

I am just NOT into women. I have tried as I know it is a common fantasy of men, my husband included, but, alas, it's not me. I have no interest in fondling, kissing, touching, tasting or smelling women. I have had a couple of experimentations that only solidified my preferences for men. Not that they were bad by any means, just not my bag, baby!

 

We are not into soft-swap either. My biggest turn on is seeing my husband with another woman, so full-swap is definitely our preference. I have discovered that my not being bi is probably the main reason we aren't very active (successful???) swingers.

[BodyScape02 21]

=txduo2000. I have discovered that my not being bi is probably the main reason we aren't very active (successful???) swingers.

 

I wouldn't you say that... if you are having fun and meeting even one or two couples you click with...then you are successful. It is not the quantity...it's the quality.

 

I prefer men in general but my girlfriends and I dance up a storm and it really helps set my mood...without them I would be back in jr high waiting for some guy to ask me to dance and then rock back and forth and step on my feet...

So for me... I am bi ... because women really know how to kiss. That and it gets the men watching rock hard...those two things in and of themselves are reason enough for me.

 

We are beautiful creatures but push comes to shove... I would rather perform fellatio than cunnilingus. I am not sure what shade of bi that makes me...lol

[txduo2000 18]

I wouldn't you say that... if you are having fun and meeting even one or two couples you click with...then you are successful. It is not the quantity...it's the quality.

 

That's just it .... after four years, we haven't really found even one compatible couple, yet. I mean, we play around at on-premise clubs but it's more of a "we meet, we play, then our schedules never mesh again." lol

[Carol_Danny 17]

I would rather perform fellatio than cunnilingus. I am not sure what shade of bi that makes me...lol

 

It makes you a typical Lifestyles Bisexual woman Most Bi women have a slight preference toward men, and that is just our own human nature. At times, I feel like the odd one as I feel I am truly Bisexual and love men and women equally. When it comes to oral sex, sometimes I am more in the mood for fellatio and other times, all I feel like is cunnilingus Visually, I am much more attracted to women, and find that is who I watch. I rarely pay attention to the men around me

 

We play with straight couples as well as Bi couples. We really have no preference as the sex is so secondary in most cases. It's the fun we have in sharing that is so enjoyable.

 

I don't know if Danny mentioned this already but although we have been in the Lifestyle for over 20 years, and are considered VERY experienced, we only consider ourselves to be occasional swingers. We lost interest in the club scene a while ago, and meet almost all our friends on line these days. We prefer the smaller groups than the large club scene. But, we have always gone through stages in this Lifestyle, and may start clubbing again

 

Carol xoxoxo

[EmpyreanPleasur 18]

It makes you a typical Lifestyles Bisexual woman Most Bi women have a slight preference toward men, and that is just our own human nature. At times, I feel like the odd one as I feel I am truly Bisexual and love men and women equally. When it comes to oral sex, sometimes I am more in the mood for fellatio and other times, all I feel like is cunnilingus Visually, I am much more attracted to women, and find that is who I watch. I rarely pay attention to the men around me

 

 

Carol xoxoxo

 

This sounds JUST like myself!

 

I KNOW that I need a man as my soulmate. I don't THINK a woman could compliment me the way a man does as a partner, but I seem to be equally if not more visually attracted to women. Though there are times where I enjoy all aspects of making love to women, I tend to prefer kissing and petting over oral, but sometimes that is what I'm in the mood for also.