Can sex still be good if only one person orgasms?

[couplewanting50 65]

?? Very satisfying -- for who? K, now gather your balls from the closet and be a man!!Cumming is good, and cumming is much better when both do so...Like I said, once in while, its ok not to cum. The whole reason there are people on this earth is because guys like to come!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That's why your writing a reply on this post. No cum no you!!!

 

Consider that this is an opinion forum. Try to hang on to that, as you struggle with the problem you have of thinking that everyone has to think like you do.

 

I am a man, and don't have to orgasm just to prove that to me or anyone else. You would seem to imply that you do.

[Tom4Fun 15]

Consider that this is an opinion forum. Try to hang on to that, as you struggle with the problem you have of thinking that everyone has to think like you do.

 

I am a man, and don't have to orgasm just to prove that to me or anyone else. You would seem to imply that you do.

 

 

There is no need to try and prove that you are a man!! Really...Try this. Cum quickly and not have any regard for your partner for several months.. Just be into your pleasure and not your partner's, see how that works.............

[couplewanting50 65]

Cum quickly and not have any regard for your partner for several months.. Just be into your pleasure and not your partner's, see how that works.............

 

What would be the point of that?

[Tom4Fun 15]

What would be the point of that?

 

 

The Point? The point is it should be mutual and not one sided or selfish! If one were to do what I suggested, they would not go too far with the selfish need to please only themselves without regard for their mate.

 

And in consideration that this is an opinion forum, as you suggest, that is my opinion...I do respect your opinion by the way, but am offering a different perspective...

[couplewanting50 65]

 

The Point? The point is it should be mutual and not one sided or selfish! If one were to do what I suggested, they would not go too far with the selfish need to please only themselves without regard for their mate.

 

And in consideration that this is an opinion forum, as you suggest, that is my opinion...I do respect your opinion by the way, but am offering a different perspective...

 

If the man chooses not to have an orgasm, that is selfish?

[Tom4Fun 15]

If the man chooses not to have an orgasm, that is selfish?

 

No, it is not selfish if that is your choice.. But what is the motivation for not having one? And why would your mate not want you to have one?

[Spoomonkey 418]

If the man chooses not to have an orgasm, that is selfish?

 

Sometimes a guy just can't help it. Alcohol, condoms, late nights after long days... It happens...

 

Nothing wrong with choosing not to - or simply not being able to. I can have a great time with a playmate and not finish. I'm not quite sure why this might require me to "gather my balls". I take them every where and have had no complaints

 

That said - swinging isn't about populating the earth. Not last time I checked. It is about fun, intimate times with like-minded people. Sure - my goal (personally) is to have an orgasm - because they are way cool. But I'm not going to consider it a bust if I don't.

 

I've had bad swinging experiences with orgasms and great ones without. But then again, I play enough that I don't feel like every situation is "do or die." Maybe that's why I can relax a little and simply be in the moment.

 

Spoomonkey

[Tom4Fun 15]

Sometimes a guy just can't help it. Alcohol, condoms, late nights after long days... It happens...

 

Nothing wrong with choosing not to - or simply not being able to. I can have a great time with a playmate and not finish. I'm not quite sure why this might require me to "gather my balls". I take them every where and have had no complaints

 

That said - swinging isn't about populating the earth. Not last time I checked. It is about fun, intimate times with like-minded people. Sure - my goal (personally) is to have an orgasm - because they are way cool. But I'm not going to consider it a bust if I don't.

 

I've had bad swinging experiences with orgasms and great ones without. But then again, I play enough that I don't feel like every situation is "do or die." Maybe that's why I can relax a little and simply be in the moment.

 

Spoomonkey

 

I understand that "swinging isn't about populating the earth." But orgasms are a primordial biological urge that is the cause of us all being here.. So, with respect to that, the urge to orgasm is very strong. My point really was that, setting aside all the other reasons why we can't have an orgasm sometimes (e.g., alcohol, condoms etc.), that orgasm is something that both people should enjoy - mutually...

[couplewanting50 65]

No, it is not selfish if that is your choice.. But what is the motivation for not having one? And why would your mate not want you to have one?

 

When I was young I was highly motivated to orgasm. That was my goal, and I am not proud about that, as it caused me to be a bad lover. Selfish.

 

I learned that giving to a woman, pleasuring her, causes all of that giving to come back to you, in her response and in her subsequent attention to you.

 

There was an old advertising line. What is more fun, making tacos or eating them? Bad analogy, perhaps, but....the male orgasm is of such short duration. Riding the edge, staying back from orgasm, is intensely pleasurable. If you don't come, you want to. It fuels desire. That is another gift to her; you want her even more.

 

What pleasure is of greater duration.... wanting an orgasm or having one?

 

Those are my reasons. I might come every two or three weeks. Women first resist, as they think they have failed, but when they see how much more pleasure is realized by both parties, they love it.

 

That is my opinion and my experience. I have not found a woman who felt i was selfish in these ideas. I get enormous pleasure from it. Enormous.

[Tom4Fun 15]

When I was young I was highly motivated to orgasm. That was my goal, and I am not proud about that, as it caused me to be a bad lover. Selfish.

 

I learned that giving to a woman, pleasuring her, causes all of that giving to come back to you, in her response and in her subsequent attention to you.

 

There was an old advertising line. What is more fun, making tacos or eating them? Bad analogy, perhaps, but....the male orgasm is of such short duration. Riding the edge, staying back from orgasm, is intensely pleasurable. If you don't come, you want to. It fuels desire. That is another gift to her; you want her even more.

 

What pleasure is of greater duration.... wanting an orgasm or having one?

 

Those are my reasons. I might come every two or three weeks. Women first resist, as they think they have failed, but when they see how much more pleasure is realized by both parties, they love it.

 

That is my opinion and my experience. I have not found a woman who felt i was selfish in these ideas. I get enormous pleasure from it. Enormous.

 

Ok, I understand your point.

[Rackir 159]

I am not ashamed to admit that if she spent more than an hour riding me and I didn't orgasm, I would finally truly consider myself "master of my domain".

TESTIFY!!!!!!

 

I voted a firm yes. Though the big O is always great, great sex can be had without it as well.

 

One of my all time favorite experiences was with a girl whom I had slept with a few times (an off and on buddy). One night we kind of unexpectedly wound up in bed together and for some reason (I can guess, but I'd rather not) she didn’t want to have sex that evening. She was however feeling very sexual. So we were in bed, her in a lace bra and damn sexy panties, and me in a pair of boxers, decidedly NOT bringing each other to orgasm. All night long we were touching, kissing, petting, stroking, licking, etc. Everything but direct vaginal stimulation, and the penile stimulation was just enough to ensure that I was hard virtually all the time.

 

All night it went on like that. We would each drift off to sleep for some undetermined length of time, only to wake up to feel the other stroking, rubbing or kissing. She would wake to me kissing the back of her neck, running my fingers across her nipples, then I would drift off only to wake to her gently massaging my balls and kissing my throat. back and forth it went like that, each of us waking the other to the most erotic feelings. Often I am sure we were actually asleep as we started to stimulate the other, and we would wake up together. It was one of the single most erotic experiences I've ever had, to be kept in a state of perpetual excitement through a fully exhausted fugue state for something like 8 hours. No orgasm, but still an earthshaking experience.

 

Of course that’s not say that I didn’t then go home and rub out an orgasm that could have been used to extinguish a medium sized forest fire. But that’s really neither here nor there.

 

So for this poll, a resounding YES!

 

 

Edit- okay, just realized that my story doesnt relate a one sided orgasim expierence, but I think the same applies. Just showing that the orgasam is a typical, but required ingredient for a great sexual expierence.