I agree, not a good arrangement for the wife or her play partner. Even for her husband, wouldn't it be more exciting to see his wife getting what she wants? What she really, really wants? Yes and yes. I along with Clair and Lora have played outside our poly family, both with David and Red (the men in our family) being there and alone. We are in control of what we do; it's for our pleasure.

When my wife has had solo dates with a new partner or long term partner, it's usually her that makes the arrangements. I've helped out with finding partners, but it's her that gets and keeps the ball rolling. I've never described myself as a "cuckold". I very much enjoy my wife having sex with other men. I leave it at that. I don't need a label :)

I could have worded this one better but let me try to explain. To me, the conversations before the play date is a part of the foreplay. I find it very sexy when a women can articulate exactly what she wants from me. However, it seems that most of the time when the husband does all of the preplanning there is not an opportunity for this verbal foreplay with the wife. I was trying to ask if any of the women make their own play arrangements? Do any of them have casual relationships with men other than their husband?

It's not a judgment, but to me a slut is a woman who has indiscriminate sex with people who she hardly knows. That's fine, but for me I don't want to fuck unless there is a connection on another level. None of us have ever used the term. It's ambiguous in my mind, anything from a guy in the lifestyle whose wife fucks other men, to a guy who is monogamous while his wife surreptitiously has a lover. The lifestyle has room for everyone.

I don't understand what you mean. Different people label me as different things, which I am: mom, wife, girlfriend (or whatever a male/female partner in a poly family is), lover/sex partner for those outside the family with whom I occasionally have sex. I have plenty of straight and Lesbian sex, but don't consider myself a slut. But working in a male dominated profession, I did once refer to myself as a "Cunt" to make a point.

The popularity of cuckoldry is something that still amazes me. Especially the evolution of the cuckold's role. The use of the term cuckold evolved from being an insult, in earlier times, to being a badge of honor, in today's society. Another thing that really stands out to me is the number of women labeled as being oversexed and sluts but they rarely ever get a chance to speak for themselves. I think the reason that this stands out to me is Im big on open communication. When I am going to be playing with someone, I need them to be able to communicate what is and what is not ok. Also, I like to think of these preliminary conversations as part of the foreplay before we get down to it. Anyone else have any thoughts or comments about this?

Damn, I wish we could still see how many members when in each group.

Hello good people of SwingersBoard, I just wanted to check in with everyone before the summer heats up. A bunch of my friends just returned from a camping event and everyone was complaining about how hot it was. People go camping in June...you would think the one thing that they would be prepared for would be the heat. Not passing judgement..IJS. Be careful out there in these streets. I know Im early but I would like to wish all of you a Happy 4th of July!

This is what we did on Boxing Day. We met up with a dear friend and he pampered her tenderly and lovingly and he fucked her in the spoon position and I cuddled with her. Then she turned around and smooched with him and I enjoyed her sweet sperm-filled paradise from behind and gave her also my sperm. It was such a wonderful Christmas experience 😘

My wife and I had very good communication from the start. We usually always make our choice together. As a Christian couple we both have a natural love for the special beauty and naturalness of bareback sex as it is intended. Her choice of partners is always exzellent and a gift to our relationship that strengthens and promotes it and that is why, of course, she always has the green light from me. Your wife's consideration in the choice is great and very respectful towards you. This is how your relationship can thrive and grow.

Am I to assume from this statement that if you disapproved she would proceed anyway? OR That, in the particular, she makes the choice because she is already assured that you are okay with what she chooses? My wife has an permanent and plenary Green Light from me. She still checks if something, or someone new enters the picture. She is considerate that way, but it is unnecessary and she knows it.

She usually has sex in a club with a condom. But sometimes it happens that it is simply forgotten or is the most beautiful in the situation without it. I remember a very soft loving situation where we met a nice man who was about 20 years older than my wife. He had recently lost his wife and was looking for some distraction. She was very sorry. We drank some champagne together and went into a private room with him. At her request, he Made love to her bareback with a big lust for her and they kissed and fucked each other lovingly until he cummed nicely inside her. This was the sweet moment for a big smile on her face because she always enjoys a nice insemination very much. She alone decides how she likes it, whether with or without.

Is this a safe site to visit? I have never seen a link to a site that ended in ".land"

No Jan B and Mary O are real people. Both of them specialized in making cuckold videos. All of the videos look like they were recorded on person camcorders and there was really no script to any of the clips that I have seen.

I'm not a guy and I don't watch porn, but the thought (and reality) of anyone in my poly family having sex with someone else really fascinates me and turns me on. This is rooted in my original jealousy, but now it is a swirl of emotions and sexual interest. Separately, I would like to know, but don't want to do my own research - are Jan B and Mary O real people, or is it a reference to something that I have become to old to get?

I prefer home videos of real people. Swingers or not. Shared wives. Mature. More real situational or cockold. Sex play that mimics real life situations rather than staged/acted.

I'm delighted to hear that Jan B and Mary O are two of your favorite amateur content creators!

My experience was somewhat similar along that progression. Moved in as roommate. Then became playmates. Then in a poly relationship.

Women are amazing that way. After my wife has been with another man, she is as good if not better than ever.

I love to reclaim K after swinging, the feel of sloppy seconds and she needs a little more fucking before being spent.

For the guys, it was never cuckoldry, just two men who loved me and enjoyed sex with me so much that they were monogamous. I tried really hard to keep them both satisfied. (Hubby sometimes liked to watch me with Red, Red didn't like to watch me with someone else.) I was the one who enjoyed being a female cuckold, wanting to reclaim my husband after he had sex with another woman. But as much as I wanted sex with him, reclaiming was eating his cum out of her and giving her as good an orgasm as he did.

Our poly family formed by the slow accretion of partners. I broke up with my fiancé, but was still seeing him, then met a man who became my second lover and husband. He didn’t live with us at first, but nearby. Then I wanted hubby to play and arranged for female friends and acquaintances to do so. It brought out my Lesbian side and eventually one, then another of those women moved in. Now we're a family of five plus a bunch of children. We have also done some regular swinging along the way.

Has anyone moved in a person that started out as a playmate? Did it change the dynamics of the relationship? At what point, does it change from being cuckoldry to being a polyamorous relationship?

I am just wondering, how people go about finding others that are into the cuckold lifestyle? My go to has always been SLS but there has been alot of changes to that site and it seems like the activity has slowed down. Fetlife is a great alternative as it seems to have more members and it's more accepting of peoples differences.

Some of my most exciting memories of potential sexual play were out-of-town short vacations where we would bring along a female friend or acquaintance of mine. I would try to seduce her into having sex with hubby and possibly me. We would pay for everything, get her a separate room; there would be no pressure, but I would create opportunities. Let them go off to do something alone, I would change clothes in front of both of them. Regardless of whether it happened or not, it was fun. And none of them ever had regrets either way.