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Don't lock the door, don't lock the door...

Last night we had friends over for dinner and playtime. After dinner we were all in the hot tub for a bit and my playmate and I got out to head inside for more play, leaving wife and her playmate in the hot tub. Mindlessly I locked the sliding door when we went in. Later after we were done playing we were commenting that my and wife and her husband had not come in yet. Then we heard a noise downstairs. At first I though it was them opening the door, but it was them banging on the glass, he
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Swingers at the Strip Club

We helped celebrate a l/s friend's birthday last nite and the festivities started at a strip club. It was quite an interesting evening. Eventually the dancers knew were were a group of swingers.   We were there last January with a small group, and at that time the women (in our group) were not allowed to dance or grind on their husband or playmates lap. So last nite we were on our good behavior, but the manager let the "genie" out of the bottle by telling us we can do what we want (within
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A little bummed...

We are heading to a large swing event this weekend sponsored by one of the web sites we are on. Just a little bummed that no one contacted us with an interest in meeting.   We know a few couples there and will undoubtably make some new friends, but just feel a little unwanted, lol!   But on the bright side we received a really nice email yesterday from a couple we have met several times at a local meet and greet. They called us fun, interesting and sexy!
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Ceo?

This blog is written somewhat in jest, but is not really far from reality.   Lately I've been a bit overwhelmed by our swinging activities. In the past 3 weeks we attended 3 meet & greets; attended a dinner/house party; and have been preparing for a trip to a house on the Chesapeake Bay with a number of other l/s couples. It does take a lot of time and energy (and $$$!).   As I was sitting here doing a few things for work, the thought struck me that swinging is almost like a business. P
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Hotel Party a year later.

A few weeks ago we attended a Mardi Gras event put on by a swing website of which we are members. In 2009 we attended the same event, and then it was our first party of that type, a hotel takeover with a big M&G. Now a year later I was thinking of the differences on our drive over.   Last year we were soooo nervous. We knew a few people from just some brief meetings here and there and were meeting a couple for dinner the night before the event. Though we had some experience with other c
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Jealousy

I've been reading a number of posts lately on the green monster, jealousy. We've also have been on the receiving end of jealousy as well! I recently posted a situation where the wife of one of our swap partner does not like her husband to have more fun that her. We encountered that in our last encounter and it was not a comfortable situation. We also somehow got in the middle of jealousy where my wife played with a guy (half of a couple who we are friends with) and another swing friend (woma
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Hypothetical Party Confusion

Wife and I were headed to a vanilla wine tasting party this evening..I was teasing her on the way asking if she has condoms.   It made me wonder how embarrassing it would be if one got their party plans mixed up and dressed for a swing party when heading to a vanilla event
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Online Chat Rooms

I've done online chat on and off since the mid-90s. I jump into the various chat rooms of the swing sites we belong too, looking to just talk about swinging in general and perhaps have a chance to talk to people that are not far away, see if there is any interest in meeting. But it's more of a social thing for me, not looking to cam (will scare people!), do cyber-sex (enjoy real sex with real people)   Most of the people online are friendly, polite..but geez there are some that are a real pai
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Been a year and also back in gear...

I had previously blogged than an injury had sidelines us. We seem to be moving past that, wife is recovering well. Still not quite ready to play with others, but we have been hanging at a few M&Gs this past week. I can tell she is feeling better as she asked what are doing this weekend (nothing) and she wants to go to the swing club..wohoo!   It's also been a year since we ventured into the lifestyle. We were looking a back at our first month last November and actually realized we were
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Does it all seem so complicated some times?

We don't meet tons of people online, it's not often that I contact people. But I do check out profiles, new people, people close by in chat, etc.   Sometimes though it makes my head spin trying to understand all that the couple is into, before making contact, to make sure we're compatible.   Age Range No Swap/Soft Swap/Full Swap preferences Women Only Play My man can touch your women but your man can't touch me. Women Play is the required appetizer for a full swap main course. Looking
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Screeching halt...

We've been swinging for close to a year and have had a lot of fun. This month we had some travel plans for swinging as well as a few play dates set...   Unfortunately my wife was injured recently so we had to put all of that on hold And I realize this is not a unique situation, it happens all of the time, but she's really bummed out.   She requires surgery in the coming weeks (nothing life threatening) which will prolong our break from the lifestyle for a number of months. Of course her
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Bedpost notching/One Night Stands

I started posting this as a forum post, but decided it got waaaaayy long and figured a blog would be better.   There's numerous forum discussions about one night stands, sex as much and as fast as you can, or stating you are not a bedpost notcher in your online profile.   I don't consider my wife and I looking to play with every couple in sight, accumulating those notches. But then again, if opportunities present themselves to us, we are more than happy to grab the bull by the horns so to spe
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Clubs...

In a recent blog I posted how we have really come to like house parties. This past weekend a party we had planned to attend was canceled so we decided to head out to a swing club.   We've not been to a club, since May I think and then we met friends for fun and frolic. This weekend we went without any meeting with another couple setup. It just reinforced my opinion on how much fun house parties are.   It's so much easier to talk to people..you are sort of thrown together and have to tal
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Parties...

We've just come off about two months where we went to a number of house parties, 5 I think. That a big increase in party attendance for us. Things have been a bit quiet for the past week or two and this weekend is questionable. Our play partners for Saturday had to cancel. So the Mrs and I were talking last night, what to do. Perhaps contact one of a number of couples that have expressed an interest in meeting.   It made me realize just how fun and easy house parties are, assuming there a
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Opportunities

A recent forum post regarding successfully meeting people at parties reminded me of a conversation the wife and I recently had.   When we started swinging last fall, we really weren't meeting people like we thought we would. We tried the clubs, but hard to break into the groups of people; tried a few meets at drinks/dinner but found them awkward when things did not click.   Since then, we have met a lot of people and it all goes back to one party that we attended that opened us up to meeting
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Ahh the sometimes frustrations of swinging...

This past weekend the wife and I went to a very nice house party. At parties we'll split up if need be, finding people we like. I met this really nice (and hot!) woman and we talked for awhile, just general life stuff. As the conversation moved into more of the play at hand, I came to find out her and her husband are VERY new to the lifestyle. After talking a bit more, learned that they are probably not even at the level of soft-swap, and many never even go there. I was so bummed, she was s
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Funny at grocery store

During a recent grocery store trip, I picked up a box of condoms to be prepared for our recent house party & weekend overnight guests.   The cashier placed the condoms in with the bag containing the eggs. I looked at my wife and she was trying not to laugh, but I tossed out.."I guess those eggs are protected now". The cashier said she was afraid to say anything, but was able to laugh after my statement.
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Weekend of firsts...

This past weekend was quite a weekend of firsts for us:   -First time we hosted at our house -First time we had play partners spend the night (in the guest room) -First house party we hosted   We had met an out of state couple a few months ago, through mutual friends, and really clicked well. They live 5-6 hours away so we were discussing a time we could get together again. Since our daughter (who lives at home) was away this past weekend, we invited the couple down to spend the weekend (F
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Small World

We were at a huge house party last night and a couple struck up a conversation with us. We had met they very very briefly before months ago but never really talked. We were chatting about where we went to school and the guy half was talking about some pranks in the engineering department (yes nerdy stuff, but I like nerdy stuff, lol). He mentioned a school mates name that snapped me back about 30 years ago. I thought for a bit assembling fuzzy memories. So we found out that we both (my wif
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Fitting Swinging into one's life

Now, this is in now way a complaint, just a commentary on where we happen to be in this swinging adventure.   Over the past decade I (the guy) half was pretty busy: played in a band a few times a month; worked on a masters degree; dealing with kids activities through middle and high school. Well, the band is in semi-retirement; school is done; kids are older. Through this time, we really didn't do a lot on weekends as far as going out, parties, etc.   Now we are on the other end of the spec
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Scheduling, Scheduling...

Sitting here conflicted. Last week we accepted an invitation to a vanilla party for the weekend, from a woman I know from being involved in various group fitness activities (running, biking, etc). Then last night received an invitation to a house party from a couple we've meet a few times. (They are attending the house party, not hosting). If we were free on Saturday we would eagerly accept the house party invite.   So now I'm conflicted, do I beg off the vanilla party and head for the house
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Kids asking where we are going...

Our 20 year old daughter lives at home and since we been swinging (last fall) we've been going out quite a bit, which she finds odd! We never really went out like this before. She's always asking where are we going, etc.   Last night I sent her a text message that dinner was in the fridge (she was at work) and that we were going out. We were going to a M&G at swing takeover at a local Gay & Lesbian club. She replied, where are ya going? I just send a quick Going drinkin' back.   S
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The emotional side of swinging.

No I don't mean getting attached to a swing partner or dealing with marital issues. I mean the emotional outlay one needs to maintain and/or go through in this lifestyle. There is the euphoria of meeting a couple, having social fun and if things go well, playtime fun. There is the fun of being in a sex charged atmosphere at a local club or M&G. But there is also, the exhaustion from staying out all might; I can't come up with a better word, but the let down when you realize your fun week
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Sick for a planned event

Ugh, we're going to a big Mardi Gras hotel take over party this weekend and I think I'm coming down with a cold. Plus wife is worried it will be her time of the month. This is our first event of this type, and I'm really bummed. We'll still have fun and meet the people we've talked to online, but being sick and potential for wife to be broken is just the pits. Swinging vacations takes things to a different level from that aspect. Makes we wonder how couples plan for big lifestyle vacations
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Age & Performance

I was going to post in the forum, but there are so many postings regarding sexual performance/issues and it's not really a question any.   We're a bit new to the lifestyle (3 months) and have played with 6 couples. About 1/2 of the couples we have meet several times, and enjoy their company and all except for 1 of the 6 have been in our age range (late 40s/early 50s). Some of our experiences have resulted in the male half of the other couple not being able to perform to the point of penetrati
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