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Thanks Swingers Board!!

Today I was watching a rerun of Numbers, The case they were working on had nothing to do with where I’m going here, in the episode they were talking about starting their own “Think Tank”.   For me this is my swinger’s think tank, we have so many great people here who are willing to share their knowledge and experience. Many of the posts and replies cause me to stop and think “what would I do in that situation”. There are many times that I don’t have a ready answer, and have to think about how
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Bumps and Hills

Just thought that I would post this up to help some of the newer people to see where some of us experienced swingers are coming from and where we have been.   If anyone tells you that they have never had an issue in their relationship while swinging they are full of shit, I’m not saying that everyone has had a big issue but all of us who are in this as a couple have had bumps in the road. We have had several minor bumps and 2 major hills to overcome. The bumps are just that, bumps, nothing tha
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Parties

I really don't know if ny of our locals read this or not but I'm kind of pissed off, we invited 7 couples and 2 singles to meet with us tonight and noone came to meet with us. we had asked them to come talk to us about what they wanted in the way of events.   We hear about how everyone in our area want us or someone to host bigger events than the house parties that are happening a few times a year, and no one wants to help or even give advice on how they wantthese events to happen, what kind of
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21 years of swinging

L and I have decided that we are going to write about all our adventues in 21 years of swinging. So far we have made it through the first 9 months. We are writing it from mostly my perspective, but she will have her say about some of her solo adventures as well. I thought it was going to be easier when I started a few days ago. I have a whole new respect for professional writers. Who knows it might be the next best seller on amazon ebooks. I will be posting some of it here as I get further along
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The right time?

I was at work yesterday, when a young nurse walked by. Just so you know I'm a power limited contractor doing mostly comercial work.   As she passed she looked at me, then she turned and looked again, she continued down the hall and around the corner. Not that unusual as we were blocking half the hall with our ladder. I have never been the kind to turn female heads so I didn't think anything of it and went back to work.   About an hour latter the same nurse walked by again and did the look a
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Rant

Just have to rant a bit, We are involved in approving pics and profiles on a swinger’s site. I just spent 2 hours going over many profiles and 100’s of pics.   I have no idea what some people are thinking! On the profile side, How many miss spellings can one person make, and some of the comments are so far out there to not be believable, Or there is so little info at all that you could do from it and pass.   The pictures are even worse! First of all good god open your eyes, unless of course
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You got sand where?

L just read my retelling of our disney adventure and asked me to relate another episode from our younger days.   It was a beautiful summer day in 1991, must have been late August because our son had just turned one, L's mom had come to town for a week for his B-day party and to visit. It was early Saturday morning when she said to us " why don't you take the day to yourselves I'll watch the little one." Now as most of you know when you have a little one and the mil offers to take him for the d
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Disney, It's not just for the young

Reading some of the other blog posts reminded me of this.   Wow 17 years ago we took a family trip to Disney with my parents and my sister and our then 5 year old son. We were staying in one of the wilderness cabins, all 6 of us, needless to say things were a little tight and there was no way L and I were going to get any alone time, not that we didn't try. We used every ruse we could think of from sending the parents and sister to the pool with the boy to feigning a headache so we could head b
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Making moves?

Reading another blog I had an inspiration!   How and when do you make that first move? Sometimes it can be real difficult to decide when and how to make it known that you want to get things moving towards the naked fun. A lot depends on where you are and what has transpired already.   Say you are out on a "date" with a couple or single, everyone seems to be clicking and you know that you are ready to take it to the next level. Now is when preplanning comes in, (assuming that you are not tied
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Well once again....

We were kind of stood up for a date. But this time we knew in advance that they might not be able to make it, one of their kids was coming down with something so they had let us know in advance that it might not work.   So when they e-mailed on Friday night and let us know that they wouldn't be able to meet up with us it wasn't a surprise or that much of a disappointment.   Since we had planned on going out we figured that we would see if we could find someone else to go out to dinner with (pr
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Great time out of town, bad reason for being out of town

So this week we were able to take some time away from the kids and work, the reason was not a good one, but we also were in the mood to have some fun while we were out of town.   On Monday we had a possible play date with some friends in a town about half way between where we live and our final destination. The date fell through early in the day, before we even left home. So we decided to throw up a “booty call” on a few of the sites we use, listing the town we were going to be spending the nig
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Act one , scene two

A few years ago we made plans to meet a couple from out of town, it was about a 3 hour drive to their location. We had met them at a party and we all knew the attraction was there, since the party we had all chatted online and via phone quite a bit. We all had discussed rules and what we like. We got to their town and checked into our hotel and freshened up to meet them for dinner. We had picked a very upscale restaurant to meet them at, as dinner progressed we were all playing under the table
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How we can help, maybe?

Today I did a lot of reading spurred on by the story of the Peoria IL mayor and council going after club 307 and trying to shut it down. I don’t know anything about this club other than what’s in the articles that I found online, but it got me thinking about our lifestyle. (all swingers, and other alt lifestyle people) We have NASCA which seems to be on the decline, this is the only political org. that I know of for swingers. If there are any others I would love to know about them.   I have rea
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Interesting day,

The e-mails just didn’t stop today, we had several people write us and ask to be invited to our next event which is really cool. But 3 e-mails stood out above all the rest. Here are some excerpts and my thoughts after reading them.   Talk about and ego boost, after reading this I was sky high (as if my ego needs any boosting). This is just the way we are, we like to meet new people and if we have to “break” into a group to meet them we will. Both of us hate to see “clicks” form at any type o
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why we host events!

We have talked to a lot of people since the last party, and we have to say thank you to everyone who IM’d and or sent an e-mail thanking us for hosting.   One question we got from quite a few people was “Why do you host events, they seem like so much work?”   L and I have spent many hours discussing this, as we were working out if we were going to start hosting again.   First off yes they are a lot of work! But we do have our fun as well, so the “work” is worth it to us.   As to the “why” W
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How to approach people

Here is something that came up today, I was asked how to approach people both on line and at events. While not everyone uses the same approach with success there are a few things that you can do that will make first contacts more successful.   When e-mailing a person for the first time, make sure that you have read their entire profile a few times. We know from experience that when spending a few hours reading profiles that they tend to run together. Once you have found someone you wish to con
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Wow What a night

So we hosted our first event in two years last night. I turned out wonderfully, we couldn't have been happier with the turnout.   There were a few issues that we will have to deal with in the future, mostly we need to do a better job picking our DJ. The one we used last night was provided by the bar we took over, he is mostly a karaoke DJ and only has country music, so we supplied all the music for th event. The real issue was in his ability to read the crowd and play the music that would keep
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Jumping in the pool

We have been contacted by many newer couples in the past so I thought we would post up a few things to get you started on the right foot.   Everyone has their own ideas on what is right, and there is no right or wrong. We all swing in different ways. Some people are just fine starting out with full swap, some like to play apart and some are just not into that kind of play. What is right for you is for you and you alone (with your partner) to figure out. One thing that we can’t stress enough is
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How we run events

A friend wrote and asked that we explain how we run our events at least the bar meets and bar takeovers (the hotel parties are run just like a bar takeover)   The first thing we want to say is that we don’t make any money from hosting these events. We put them on for all our friends to have a good time, anything we may charge is to cover our costs. We do have our own web site we pay for and memberships on many sites that we use to promote these events.   Bar meets- we ask that you e-mail us an
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What we like about the lifestyle

What we like about this LifeStyle: The people, after a long week at work, there is nothing better and more relaxing than to get cleaned up and go out to a bar, or restaurant and meet some new and old friends, have a cocktail or two and be able to be yourself, knowing that you can flirt with a hot woman or man, and not have to worry about what their spouse or significant other is going to think. You can talk and dance and dress sexy. You get to share looks that no one else around you understands
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Questions we get asked....

We have had so many questions from new couples and singles in the last month I am going to try and answer them here.   Q: We are very new how do we get started? A: The first thing you should do is figure out exactly what it is that you are looking for, and what you are comfortable with. If you are looking for friends first, then the best thing to do is contact people who have similar interests, are in your age group, and are attractive to you. Express that you are looking for friends first th
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Swinging, Swapping, the Lifestyle and Drama Pg 2

Make some business cards with your info on them. Example: Kent and Leah E-mail xxxxxx@xxxxx Web sites we use LL---swingerset Swing Lifestyle---swingerset AFF---swingerset (Some people add a phone number and a picture)   Contact phone- you can buy a cheap $20.00 dollar throw away cell phone and give out that number to people.   To us singles are not swingers, swingers are couples who choose to share themselves with others. Singles do have a place in the lifestyle. We classify singles bo
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Swinging, Swapping, the Lifestyle and Drama Pg 1

Mrs.Swingerset and I have been talking, I know strange, we are married and we talk, Anyhow we wanted to express some thoughts we have about Swinging, Swapping, the Lifestyle, Singles and Drama.   First off, we want to tell everyone that we have had issues at points in our journey in life and swinging. Not everything has always been a bed of roses, those damn things can have thorns. So for all you newer couples, expect that there will be bumps and potholes in the road. Our best advice is to not
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