I have a question about your motivation to swing, DKent.
You say you're tired of the duplicity and want to enjoy the lifestyle with your wife. That's understandable. I can assure you that the satisfaction of swinging together is so powerful that most vanilla folks probably have no idea.
But how much of your motivation has to do with aging? You're over fifty now and probably having more difficulty enticing the young babes into bed. Older women who are willing to fuck a stranger met in a bar are rare.
Perhaps you're just looking for an easier way to find that variety you enjoyed when you were younger?