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TheSwingerSet

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TheSwingerSet last won the day on January 13 2014

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About TheSwingerSet

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  • Birthday 05/10/1968

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Duluth
  • Swinging Experience
    20+ years
  • Anniversary
    3/31

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  • SLS Name
    swingerset
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    theswingerset

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  1. Something that I have been telling people for years is to be comfortable in who you are, what you are wearing and have self confidence. If you are missing any of these three things people tend to notice. I can't tell you how many times I have been talking to a very sexy women and she seems to not be into the conversation or me and it turns out that I wasn't me or the conversation but the fact that she is wearing a dress that is much shorter then she is comfortable in or the new sexy shoes with 6 inch heels that she is more worried in falling off of than anything else. Once the shoes or dress come off things go much better. So find a look that you like, a hairstyle that works for you and get comfortable in your skin, then you can go out and meet people on your ground and they will respond to the "new" you. K
  2. I tend to look over some mistakes but not the text speak in profiles and posts, the main reason for this is that spelling and writing are far from my best subjects even though I'm a voracious reader. I do use spell check but at times even that can not find the word I want to use.
  3. We have taken several "breaks", If either one of us wanted to stop we would. Swinging is just foreplay for us so there is no real "need" for it in our lives. Now if L were to ask me to stop having sex or just have sex in the missionary postion that might be a deal breaker.
  4. Back to the OP, I wouldn't be too concerned about if a future mate was interested and open to non-monogamy, But I would open the discussion on the topic of sex, I know that I would never be able to have a long term relationship with anyone who was not open to trying new things sexually, I enjoy so many different things that I would refuse to live with out! Sex is a buffet that you should feel free to sample.
  5. Cuddling is one of those activities that has many different aspects, with casual play partners we usually will just get up and get ready to go, with friends we may lay there and cuddle while we talk, usually just a breather between rounds. There is one woman that I cuddle with but that is more a needed thing do to our style of play which involves some bdsm and very intense play. She needs the connection that cuddling allows after we are done, we found this out when we first started to play several years ago. I agree with Julie on the pet names, not only do pet names drive me nuts but I also think if you are at a point where you are using a pet name for someone you are to close to them.
  6. to both the posts above. I would also recommend hat you practice with the condoms at home, they can be a real mood killer when not used to them.
  7. The only thing that we use certs for is fresh breath. Ok no really we use altoids. We tend to look at certs only to see if that single or couple has actually met people, we really don't care who or how many.
  8. Make sure and tell them that Mrs.Playmate is only the 2nd woman that you have ever been with. We were with a couple and he came off as a big macho guy who had messed around a lot, but the truth was that Mrs TSS was only the 3rd woman that he had ever been with and he was having issues that Mrs. TSS would have known how to help him with if he had been honest from the start. Turns out he was a great lover once he came clean and was able to relax. I suggest dancing for a warm up to play, find a good club with a mixture of fast and slow music, once you are comfortable holding her in your arms then the rest will come naturally. Good luck!! Oh if you are a condom couple, then practice with them at home a few times 30 or 40 should get you used to the feeling.
  9. Hmmm, I usually bring something when meeting my female friend, if at her home then I bring wine, If we are meeting at my hotel then I usually meet her in the bar and we eat and have a drink or two before heading to my room. I always bring her a toy for us to play with and give them to her when we head our separate ways. When meeting couples we will bring a bottle of wine and or other beverages and usually a snack for all to share during down time.
  10. The only real boundaries we still have are trying to not take one for the team, she doesn't do anal with others, we always use condoms and the standard no kids, poo, pee, animals etc..... Other than that we are open to whatever those we are playing with are up for.
  11. Some friends of ours use sls to find single guys all the time. They search the profiles and look for ones that they like with certs from other couples. Then they contact those men.
  12. The real question is How often are first encounters mind blowing? There are many reasons why this man could have been less than stellar. If they are newer to the lifestyle it may be that his nerves were affecting his performance, or it may be that he was tired or stressed. If there is attraction there and it's just a performance issue we would give them another try. In fact we might suggest separate rooms, just to see if things heat up without the pressure/distraction of others.
  13. Here's a little update. They are still looking for their first full swap.
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