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  1. We just returned from another trip to SMI. We had a great time as always. Let me first say the women who work the resort (the "Goddesses" as they are called) were down right wonderful and friendly. On this last trip, it seemed to us there was a dearth of lifestyle couples. Most couples seemed to desire to be left alone as a couple (and there is nothing wrong with that). We did however chat with a few lifestyle couples; we even got hit on but passed for reasons I will not detail here. It really can be a roll of the dice on the guest makeup but hey we still had fun. PDA was still there with the usual "fun sites" (we even saw a MFM on the lifestyle front; only lifestyle action we observed). All told, another fun trip and we plan to go again. MrMarvin
  2. No worries here. I did not start the thread and your comments were related to rules of the establishment. Fair question in my view.
  3. Turning back to the topic at hand (and not to comment jump and noting I did add my two cents), my wife and I are hoping to set up our fifth trip this summer. Would enjoy also reading what all of you think when and if you go. MrMarvin
  4. I can't speak for everyone or every experience but there are always those single men who, right or wrong, ruin for the rest of them. Regardless, this resort works. If it helps, both my wife and I were both nervous our first time. However, we quickly were put at ease and, again, found both the guests and staff to be great. No one said we had to do anything or that matter, even interact with anyone. In fact our first visit was mainly spent enjoying each other and really not interacting. That however changed on subsequent visits. You can always try a day pass for a minimal investment (I want to say it is like 99 bucks on certain days for couples). If it doesn't work for either or both of you, you can cut bait and say you've tried it. MrMarvin
  5. Just now saw this. I think a good portion of your questions are hopefully addressed in my lengthy response. Adding to that-- 1. Most definitely newbie friendly. We had zero exposure to the lifestyle the first time we went. No one pressured us and we did not feel "scuzzy." It was just a very nice vibe and environment that opened our eyes. Even if you are shy, you can still go and enjoy. You can "mingle until you tingle" or just enjoy alone time. All has been welcomed from our experience. 2. The staff is friendly and nice. They are all female with most appearing to be in their 20s or 30s. We have no complaints with the staff. Hopefully this helps! MrMarvin
  6. Glad you got something out of the review. Yes, if you and your wife enjoy the freedom to express yourselves any time and pretty much anywhere on the property, SMI is the right place. It does kind of crack me up though with some reviews I have read in the past (especially on Tripadvisor) about how shocking this is to some. While I respect those who would not find that to their liking, it still makes me laugh just imaging the horrified look on their faces. In any event, if anyone is squeamish or not comfortable with big time "PDA" in graphic display, seriously you should avoid SMI. MrMarvin
  7. We became interested a few years back after visiting for the first time Sea Mountain resort near Palm Springs. Despite that, we are still at the level one stage but at a minimum enjoy meeting new people. MrMarvin
  8. We've actually really not met pushy people. Our experience in fact has been the opposite-- indecisive "tire kickers" or those who simply disappear. Us looking like trolls probably does not help... MrMarvin
  9. Alright. Decided to give my detailed review another shot after I lost the last one (this time, based on the suggestion above, I typed it in first in a word processing program). In any event…. My wife and I love SMI. We’ve been four times in about the last five or six years. We would love to go more if it were closer to where we live and if we had more time. While we do not consider ourselves experts about the resort, we’ve hopefully been enough times over the last few years to offer a somewhat detailed and honest review. As an initial matter, SMI is located in Desert Hot Springs. Desert Hot Springs is literally a small satellite town about seven miles from Palm Springs. It is a dry and desert area. Interestingly, SMI is located in a residential neighborhood. When you first pull up to SMI, you see a fortress of cement and shrubbery (which is good as there are no “free peaks” inside). You have to be buzzed in to get in the door. Once you enter, calling it a resort is perhaps somewhat a misnomer. To be clear and up front on that, remove from your mind any thought that this will be a five star exotic resort. It is not that but, as will be shared, it has a very nice charm and feel (but we still call it a resort). With the above out of the way, the actual property is quite small. The outer perimeter of the resort consists of the front wall, office and guest rooms. There are, however, only about 14 or 15 guest rooms. In the center of the resort you will find an admittedly small swimming pool, a small play room/dance room, a hot tub and countless lounge chairs. Shrubbery and statuary fill out the resort. In a word, it is a quaint with a Zen type feel. Even though there are only 14 or 15 guest rooms, the resort can fill up based upon those who purchase day passes. We actually prefer to stay on site for convenience and find the rooms comfortable (the beds sleep very well). Note however onsite accommodations are rather expensive. If you are going for the first time, and have some trepidation as to whether or not SMI is right for you, we would suggest staying in Palm Springs at a “traditional” hotel or resort and purchasing a day pass to SMI. You can always book a room for a later stay. Speaking of the rooms, do not expect to be treated to the Four Seasons. While the beds are again very comfortable, you may find the rooms otherwise rather basic and merely functional depending upon your expectations. However, when you consider what you are paying for at SMI (lifestyle friendly and openly sexual environment) you will probably find the rooms more than acceptable. The owners are Dewey and his wife (whose name I believe is Julie). They employ an all female staff. We have only ever seen Dewey on Friday and Saturdays; his wife from our visits did not seemed to be physically present even less. Dewey is a very nice gentleman who tries to make everyone feel warm and welcome. We’ve found the female staff to be very pleasant and accommodating as well. As a resort visitor, one is required to be nude. However, unless you are running around in a bathing suit, no one notices if some women wear a modest sarong or an open robe (though generally too hot for the latter when we have been there). As many have stated before, the first time completely nude amongst others can be somewhat uncomfortable. But that is quickly forgotten and feels quite natural rather quickly. The resort is extremely lifestyle friendly and caters to the lifestyle. While one is not required to be in the lifestyle to visit, we would estimate it seems 70 to 80 percent of the guests on any given day are in the lifestyle. With respect to the physical makeup of the guests, we’ve seen all shapes, colors, ages and sizes in our four trips. If we had to generalize about the “typical” guests, we would say the age range is generally about 35 to 50 and predominately white or Hispanic. Within that generalization body shapes and sizes vary, just like out in the vanilla world. However, once again, we’ve seen and mingled with all kinds of great people including couples who fall outside of the foregoing generalization. As such, we would encourage anyone, regardless of age, race or physical characteristics to visit the resort and note that you will be welcome. Obviously if you are reading this and looking at a swinger site, you presumably have an open mind on sexuality. However, be prepared to see, out in the open, life and graphic sex acts take place. It can get extreme and I’d even call it a real world Caligula (and that is meant in a good way). Consequently, if you enjoy the lifestyle in the privacy behind closed doors, and get squeamish at watching, in essence, “live porn,” the resort is not for you. If on the other hand you enjoy watching, maybe “performing” in public, and enjoy the openness of doing whatever tickles your fancy sexually anywhere on the resort premises when the mood strikes, you are in luck. With the above in mind, we however do not want to give the impression that it is an unchecked grope fest where boundaries are not accepted. We have never seen, nor have we been a part of, any unwanted physical contact at the resort. The rule of consent in our experience has been followed to the letter and boundaries are honored. This is undoubtedly helped by the fact the resort does not allow single men and, again, the resort guests are predominately in the lifestyle who already presumably understand and follow lifestyle etiquette. You will, however, encounter your fair share of overly drunken individuals who can at times be generally loud and obnoxious. That is not unique to SMI but something you can encounter at just about any vacation site that allows the drinking of alcohol. Regardless, it has never been so bad that it has been a distraction. What you will see, and can possibly due, will depend upon the crowd and the day of the week. Based on our experience, and generally speaking, Mondays through Wednesdays are generally quiet with no more than a small handful of couples at the resort. Intermingling with other couples during this time frame is generally pretty limited. However, the resort is quite calm and peaceful. It is nice to relax out in the open with the cool desert breeze with your significant other. By Thursday, the party atmosphere begins to kick in. It is not “full on” party mode on this day but there are more couples present with more mingling. Friday and Saturday are the most packed days and the most apt time for you to observe “action” about everywhere you look. Sundays are actually are favorite as there is still generally a nice variety of couples present during the evening yet it is not so packed that you cannot visit and get to know a couple or two. If you are looking to meet couples, feel free to strike up conversation anywhere on the resort. However, we have found most meetings take place in and around the hot tub. It is however a rather small hot tub and generally extremely packed (literally like sardines) on a Saturday night. Friday can be crowded but again our favorite evening, Sunday, presents in our experience the best opportunity to meet people. As for food on the property, again do not expect world class treatment. A continental type breakfast is served with typically fried chicken and picnic type sides for lunch. No dinner is served but, for an extra fee, you can have dinner delivered. A variety of snacks and drinks are offered at all hours. Some limited alcohol is also provided (including Dewey roaming the premises when he is there giving shots) but we really cannot comment on that as we do not drink. We have however observed that many couples bring in coolers with adult beverages of their liking. While you are obviously free to remain at and tethered to the resort during your entire stay, we personally elect to leave the resort for day excursions. It is generally not fun or us to sit out in the heat during the day (and possibly burn). We would much prefer to go shopping or catch a movie. We have also found a number of great restaurants we love to eat at every trip (including a great Mexican restaurant that is about a three or four minute drive from the resort). For us, it presents a nice and relaxing balance especially since we much prefer to enjoy the resort in the coolness of the evening. We personally enjoy booking at least a five day stay that includes the weekend. That way we get a variety of atmospheres—from raging full on party mode to quiet alone time. Such in our view adds to the uniqueness of the experience. With all of the above said, we find SMI fantastic and, truth be told, it really was the kickstarter that got us interested in the lifestyle. It is our go to vacation retreat every summer since we discovered it and we are planning a trip this summer (we did not go last year due to personal reasons). We cannot recommend it enough. Is the resort for everyone? Certainly not but if you answer “yes” to these questions, odds are you will enjoy it: 1. Do you enjoy the lifestyle? 2. Are you comfortable being completely nude around others and seeing others nude? 3. Do you enjoy watching “public performances” and yourself enjoy maybe even putting on a “public show”? Hopefully this review helps. If there are any specific questions, feel free to ask away. I do not mind giving the resort more business—it is loads of fun especially for those of us who are sexually open and adventurous! MrMarvin
  10. Shux! I just tried to post a very lengthy and detailed response that did not take. Dooope! As I am now tired, I will just say for now my wife and I have been four times and really enjoy the resort. I am happy to answer any further specific questions! (Again can't believe what took me an hour to type!) MrMarvin
  11. We do require a simple G rated photo or two in order to pick the couple out at a meeting and see if there is at least some basic attraction. Outside of that, we really have no initial interest to get wrapped up in lengthy email exchanges or texts. We've tried that and just don't like it as we prefer to organically meet the couple without the use of today's gadgets. Also to us it seems many couples who want to engage in excessive electronic communuctions are either tire kickers or the man without the woman involved. Just our approach and not necessarily the right or only way. MrMarvin
  12. Agreed. It is extremely difficult. We approach it with a quality over quantity mentality (which in and of itself makes it more difficult). Meeting more people obviously helps as well but in our case we've had time and personal obstacles. Eh, it's a journey! MrMarvin
  13. It will vary from couple to couple and there is no right or wrong answer. In the end I firmly believe you simply do what is comfortable for you and your significant other regardless of what others might do. Personally as well I don't get too hung up on what is and what is not taboo. If consenting adults are involved, game on!
  14. Hey all-- We recently got back into the "swing" of things and, for us, hit it with a fury. While we didn't go to any clubs or parties we had a ton of one on one dates with other couples. We really hit it off with one couple and it appears an actual play date is in the works. As my wife and I discussed, just going through a numbers game really helped and in the end, stacked the odds in our favor. So assuming this second date actually pans out, this long winded thread may finally be coming to a close. It will have only taken us a couple of years but hey, the journey can oftentimes be as fun as the destination! MrMarvin
  15. We hope to be! I guess you could say in a way we are not in the lifestyle as we have yet to "join" so to speak. Also, even without the time out we are not overly active. We don't go to many events (inherent shyness but realize the benefits of mingling) and our individual couple "dates" occur maybe once every couple of months. For a more aggressive couple, the entirety of our activity would probably only equate to a few months in time. Back to the time out corner! MrMarvin
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