I brought it up to my Husband. We are still chatting - haven't gone to a club or done anything yet. I am 39 hubby is 40 we have been married for 14 years and have a great relationship - my see drive is through the roof now that we are done having kids. Brought up swinging to him - would love to watch other people have set or be watched while playing with my hubby. Not sure we are ready (if ever) to play with others...