Hammocksex

Marriage issue first and swinger issue second. You said you were happily married but your wife "isn't open to the LS". There is your answer! If you want to stay happily married, you do not worry about any of the rest of your posting. All that is meaningless pie-in-the-sky fantasy; the other couple, the attractions and so forth. Means nothing if your wife is not cool with it. Your focus should be to change the way your wife views the LS. That is your only choice if you want to stay happily married. You change her view, then finding out about this couple or any other will be easy. I don't think too many above were saying don't cheat for preachy reasons, I think they mean what I mean. Cheating ruins marriages and that is just a reality I think all are referring to. Get your sex life right within your marriage first, meaning change her view on this if it is important to you, and then go have the fun you are wanting. Explore this site and my guess is that you'll find lots of discussions on how one might do that very thing.

Sounds like you guys are not active in the Lifestyle, and perhaps that is all you need. Just get active as a couple and what you will almost always find is people not looking for relationships and a few that will fit your sexual needs. Thanks to your thoughtful handling of this, you guys do not have a problem here, just another part of your sexual evolution and my guess is you guys will enjoy. Your back might change your sex life, but it does not have to cause it to end! Good, thoughful play friends, which most in the LS are, make sure all enjoy the play one way or another. Don't worry about toys, you guys just get active.

All very good discussion and would just add that perhaps you need to look at your own thinking and behavior here. From your description, it sounded as if you were the most passive in the group. You of course did that because of your desire to play respectfully and so forth. However, I think there is an area between being too passive and breaking the rules. Perhaps you should explore that area in your own mind and find ways to better connect with the other lady. Women are as different as they are the same, which means they all have buttons to push but the bottons are often different. It might not be oral sex, no matter how much she enjoys it, that really engages or stimulates her and it is your job to still do that you know. You know your wife's buttons. They might be kissing a particular spot on the inside of her thigh or the small of her back, perhaps a place you touch or something you say. Who knows, there are so many! And you also know how much better your wife enjoys oral sex or how responsive she becomes to you after you push a few of those buttons. Same with your new sex partners too. Same but different! Perhaps you need to try to pay more attention to how you engage the other lady and not wait for her to engage you.

Bruised pelvis, which in case one wonders, takes about 6 weeks to heal! Our name is Hammock Sex but it has little to do with this story. We live at the Mexican Caribbean where hammocks are the norm. Not the little banana type with the wood spreaders like you find in the US but ours our like giant woven baskets that two people can easily move around in. Sex in one of these is like sex floating in air, really amazing and if you have not tried it, you really must. Our balcony has hammock hooks built into the concrete walls that we suspend the hammocks from on each end. One night we had two hammocks side by side, both suspended at one end from the same anchor. Daisy and I were in one hammock and two of our B&B guests were in the other and I suppose it was just too much weight for that single support. When it gave, the guys were on the bottom of each hammock and we both hit ass first on the very hard tile. We pulled the steel anchor completely out of the concrete! The hammocks were bouncing up and down and it was the weight, along with the force, that did it. We laughed, rinsed the concrete chips off and finished in the patio furniture. It was the next morning my backside was hurting and it took 6 weeks to finally heal. Yes, we re-anchored the hook, it had not been installed properly, and we have tested it many times since. Those same guests returned a few months later and yes, they tested it again as well. They told us they decided not to sue us, the testimony would have been too embarrassing, so they just came back for more hammock sex instead.

All very good info and insight. Just to add to the part about taking it slow, one might include patience in that as well. Keep it "muy tranquilo" as we say here in Mexico and don't let the excitement overtake the real reason you are there, which is to meet someone that really turns you on sexually. The moment and the ambiance will be sexy but don't let that cause you to settle for "sexy enough". You know that feeling when everything is right and someone really turns you on, so make sure you tell yourself to wait until you feel that fire. Con fuego! Be patient. Then have fun! Oh, and it might not be a rule, but perhaps should be. Don't get drunk on your first visit. Do it on your second! Saludos!

Don't get drunk! People tend to make bad decisions when they are drunk. Get drunk the second time!