Hi fun, I just got finished reading your thread. Me and Mr Mass are having the same problem but I felt funny writing about it because we thought we were the only ones.
We have been soft swinging with one couple for a year now and it has been fun but we want to meet new couples. It has been very hard and yes we are on SLS also but have had no luck with it. We are in the chat room alot and have made great friends in there but with our luck they all live to far away. I hope you have better luck with it than me and Mr Mass.