Thanks to all for the advice. My wife is picky either they are to old or way out of shape for her. We live in a small upstate NY city and there is not much to choose from, even at clubs, those singles are mostly guys who can't get laid. One time we even saw one who did get laid and high five-d his friends after, very poor taste to us.
The old ones are out of shape and the young ones, don't care to say more than five words or most want to meet "right now"! Yes my wife is horny but not stupid.
We tried SLS most people on there seem to know each other or a rude, more so on that site than any other.
I guess we will just be patient.