2good4better

How about just continuing on as if nothing had happened and ignore the request from your friends? If you can't go to future parties because of practical reasons, then don't go. If you want to go to a party, and can make it, then go. Pretend your friends said nothing and let them deal with that in whatever way makes them happy. Another way to look at it, if your friends met a couple and that couple did not want to play with them, would your friends be offended?

How can you go as a single to a couples-only resort?

Our profile pictures are a mirror of what we (roughly) expect from others. We only have one picture that is viewable by everyone. It shows us clothed and most of our bodies with blurred faces. In the vetted section of our profile we have face pics of the two of us but no nudes. If we have a connection you will see us naked soon enough. Nude photos on profiles are fine but we don't care either way. Much more important is pictures showing both partners together. So many profiles will have pages and pages of her in a bikini with nothing showing him. How does that communicate a trusting and committed couple?

The poll question assumes both people use Facebook to the same extent which makes it difficult for us to answer correctly. Mr2good4better does not have a Facebook account as his social graces mimic the cave dwelling hermit. Mrs2good4better has friended a bunch of people we know from the lifestyle. Both ones that we have played with and ones we haven't. We are fortunate to have met so many great people through swinging and many of the conversations we have with them deal with vanilla things. Connecting with them through Facebook just seems like a natural way of continuing the friendship. Especially since most of them live in different parts of the country.

Could the original situation(s) be interpreted as a very sexually-outward couple intruding on another that is not as open? Some couples are very comfortable with their sexuality. Combine that with close friends and liberal amounts of alcohol and you may get a situation that is interpreted as being more than it really is.

Actual spitting from a distance is degrading and quite a turn-off. That being said, I once got a blow job from a woman who worked up a lot of saliva in her mouth and let it flow down the shaft of my penis. It seemed a little weird watching her do this but the feeling of her lips sliding up and down over all that extra lubricant was incredible. One of the best blow jobs I ever had.

We have been to Desire both by ourselves as well as with a group. Our best experiences have been as part of a group so that would be our recommendation. Being able to "meet" others before going is very helpful. The trip feels more relaxed and we can arrive already knowing some familiar faces. Going as part of a group is also appropriate for newbies as well as experienced couples depending on the group. You also have the option of not participating in group social activities if you don't feel comfortable. We have been going to Desire with the Swingercast group each year and have had a great time. If you do find a group we hope it is as welcoming as that one.

Would anyone else agree that swinging and cheating are actually contradictory? During our time in the lifestyle we have followed the path that our swinging was based on a committed relationship with plenty of communication. Any cheating would go against that and therefore we wouldn't consider ourselves to be swingers anymore. It seems just as false to say a swinger is a cheater as saying that someone cheating is actually swinging.

There are a lot of things to consider before you ask someone to marry you. I wouldn't consider the possibility of swinging to be high on that list. Of greater consideration is that you will potentially spend the rest of your life with this person. Focus on compatibility and communication.

It seems like you're not sure of your wife's intentions. Ask her. A simple question asked within the privacy of your own marriage will clear things up. Better to do that than to assume anything. Communication is key.