Dumuzi 18 Posted October 1, 2016 We've decided that we want to move our exploration out of the hyper intensity of the club and find a small, intimate house party to attend. Do any of you have suggestions on how to find one and, even more importantly, determine if it is the right environment for us? We're looking for intimate, classy, and sexy. Quote Share this post Link to post
funcoupledayton 2,707 Posted October 1, 2016 In my experience, those type of parties are by invite only. People meet people they connect with at clubs or meet and greets. Then when they have a party they invite people they like and think will get along. Openly advertised house parties are more like being at a club, but without security or amenities. If you don't already have friends in the lifestyle I don't see any way to get invited. If you go to clubs make sure when you play, if it was good, get their contact info. In a couple days make contact to say you enjoyed meeting/playing and would like to see them again. That way, if they host a party or have friends hosting, hopefully they will invite you. It's hard to know how a party will be. You can ask the hosts who attends and what it's like, but until you are there you won't know. We've probably hosted about 10 house parties. Every one has been different based on who shows up, the mood and vibe. Another option would be to host yourselves. Invite people you like to play with. Usually less than half the number you invite will be able to attend. If you want a small party, 8-10 couples is nice (so probably invite 15-20 couples). You can ask people to bring their own alcohol and a snack if you like. I don't think you should charge anyone to attend a house party. Quote Share this post Link to post
SW_PA_Couple 4,019 Posted October 2, 2016 Continue meeting and talking to people at the club. You will eventually receive an invitation to a private party. Quote Share this post Link to post
GuyInMD79 1,500 Posted October 3, 2016 As others have related, scoring an invitation to a house party is all about knowing people. The larger your circle of friends, the more people there are who might know about a good house party, and might help you to be invited. You might want to let all your lifestyle friends know that you're open to an invitation to any house parties they like. You might have to attend a few parties before you find one that meets your criteria. It should be easy enough to tell if a party is going to be too crowded for your taste, but the other two criteria, classy and sexy, are somewhat more subjective. I'm most worried about the classy part! In any case, good luck in your search! Quote Share this post Link to post