What is Bi Curious Really?

I always find it funny when I see a woman say that they are Bi-curious. If you have had at least 1-2 experiences with a woman, you aren't curious any more I believe. Plus, you know whether you like it or you don't. I find that some women want to receive 'pillow princess' but not give....that is fine, but that should be known ahead of time. One woman said that she has been with a woman, receiving, but that's it....but she has never tried to give ...she's not bi-curious. Thoughts?

I remember from a few years ago a lively debate in the SLS forum as to whether or not there should be a wider range of choices that would represents shades and colors of bisexuality. There were hundreds of proposed labels. I can remember only a few: situationally bi, actively bi, passively bi, and bi furious. I believe the SLS people eventually came to regret that they had opened this can of worms. In the end they said, in effect, fuck it, we're not going to change anything,

My wife and I have talked about her being with a woman for a few years. I would say that is bi curious. We had plenty of fun talking about it. She would ask me about what is it like to go down. It was just fun talk. Finding a unicorn wasn’t easy tho it was fun to search and even more fun talking about what would happen when we found one. My wife was very curious while we were searching. When we found someone the curiosity mixed with anxiety. Her first or our first brought more anxiety for her. You mentioned pillow princess, I had to look that up, my wife was more of a receiver than a giver. It still made her curious to go further. We have met our unicorn again and the curiousity was has led to more exploration. Don’t want to say she is now bi. She is now less frightened to play with another woman.

Maybe bi-curiuos feels safer, less committed. It opens communication. An experienced woman may not be very turned on with most women, just certain types. So listing oneself as bisexual may increase expectations.

Ms. Gold has, for years, insisted that she is bi-curious (even though she has a girl that is called 'her girlfriend'...and not as just in a girl friend). It was only very reciently that she was able to say that she is bisexual. That was a big hurdle for her. It's tough for most women to cross that line and admit that they are bisexual. Bi-curious is just a safer word for something that they don't want to admit to themselves.

I was never curious. I never thought of playing with another female, it just happened. When a girlfriend started playing with me and I didn’t push her away. She changed my life for the better. When I questioned myself it was something I could do I answered that why shouldn’t I do something I enjoyed as long as it was legal and not hurt anybody else. My husband is still my favorite partner and I prefer him over any woman, I would say I am Bi.

I have not yet had the right opportunity, so I consider myself bi-curious. It sounds like fun, but I won't know until I experienced it.

I was never curious. I never thought of playing with another female, it just happened. When a girlfriend started playing with me and I didn’t push her away. She changed my life for the better. .

Pretty much the same as me except my desire started with me allowing my husband to have sex with other women after I had a boyfriend for two years and he was monogamous. We loved dating women together, whether it led to sex or not.

 

Now in our poly family, I am as much in love with Lora and Clair as I am with the guys.

 

I say that I am bi, which means that I have a Lesbian side. I don't minimize it by referring to it as a "bi" side. Being bisexual means I am Lesbian and heterosexual.

 

The most important part of my Lesbian relationships is the emotional connection that I have with Clair and Lora. The second is going down on them and licking their pussies. They reciprocate, but strictly from the physical standpoint, I can get oral on me from the guys; they're good at it. But only another woman has a pussy that I can lick, and breasts I can feel.

My finance labels herself as being attracted to women. She never defines herself as being bi. Me, on the other hand, I define myself as being curious- just a safer proposition from negative reactions I guess. But I have no problems admitting that another guy is handsome etc. It is just human nature.

I used to think of myself as bi-curious, but I've had enough experiences in the past and I'm still turned on by the fantasy of male contact.  Therefore I'm bisexual, even though it's been years since I've had any MM interaction.

 

I still list as bi-curious in my SLS profile, mainly to indicate the extent of my bisexual experience.  I think it's funny that a guy will list as straight on their online profile but say they're open to meeting men.

Late the party on this, but the Mrs. has finally settled on the label of bedroom lesbian.  She totally turns into the aggressor with other women in our group play.  Good times.

If you are attracted to both males and females you are Bi sexual.  All the other terms like bi curious and bi situational just come across as silly to us.  Don’t know how many times in the past we would be talking to a couple with a woman listed as bi curious or bi situational to find out she really was not all that interested in playing with other women.  Either listed that way, because of wishful hoping by the husband or a pillow princess as said above.  Willing to receive, but not give.  Sorry, but if she is not indeed interested in full on playing with another woman please do not waste our time. We try to stick to people that know what their sexuality is and lists it that way.

We don't consider ourselves to be Bi, but that is because we don't do labels. What we do is play. If it feels right and all are in agreement, we do whatever is on the metaphorical table. So if with a couple who are Bi-Curious and things get heated, we may ask the question. "can I suck your cock" for instance. With a couple down as straight, we leave well alone, unless the other couple hint that they are interested. 

 

There is a lot of discussion on various sites about this. You sucked a cock, so you're Bi. Or, you went down on another woman, you must be Bi! That is not how we see it. Yes, what we do may be an act bisexual in nature, but to us it is just doing what feels right at the time, with the agreement of all concerned. So label if you must, but we don't!

It is just another label, for men and women.  With all labels, talk as you get to know the person and you will find out where they are at.  Sexuality is way too complex to sum up in one word.

Now I understand why we were told to join this forum for more information how others think of sex not just swinging. 
My parents thought gay or bisexual were other people not our friends or family. I came into contact early in my life with friends both male and female who were different which we looked at as strange. The older I got the more liberal my thinking got and the more accepting of different. In HS I knew gay guys who I accepted but didn’t understand. The lesbian girls wanted nothing to do with me. I heard stories about one girl who I thought was lesbian that was sleeping with a bunch of guys, my first bi person that I knew was bi. 
College was more and more contact with LGBTQ friends that I thought less negative about. Deep inside I didn’t understand gay, I accepted even being I was homophobic. I as a sophomore was offered to double team a friends date and said no thinking it was a gay thing. Boy was I wrong as I learned later on. 
Moving forward years later I met Linda, she is now my wife and will read this and knows I am writing this, and had sex on our first date. My infatuation was the sex we had, the best. She had no constraints, enjoyed getting high and having sex, a dream to this guy. I had a very good friend who I shared a place with that I bragged about the sex I was having. The next point is still questioned, I say Linda suggested a threesome she says I set it up. I had no sex with my friend during the time. 
Linda brought a new situation to the bed, her friend. I didn’t care if she was lesbian, gay or any other label. I also didn’t know I was going to fall in love with Linda and marry her. 
With marriage came no thirds in the bed. We became our parents, no we didn’t, we just became less sexually adventurous with others, and I emphasize with others and then came this summer. Hallelujah Linda has re-found her bisexual self. 
 

On 9/7/2022 at 11:26 AM, PJ&Lin said:

Hallelujah Linda has re-found her bisexual self. 

Good for both of you. 

On 9/6/2022 at 3:18 PM, enhancer said:

If you are attracted to both males and females you are Bi sexual.  All the other terms like bi curious and bi situational just come across as silly to us.  Don’t know how many times in the past we would be talking to a couple with a woman listed as bi curious or bi situational to find out she really was not all that interested in playing with other women.  Either listed that way, because of wishful hoping by the husband or a pillow princess as said above.  Willing to receive, but not give.  Sorry, but if she is not indeed interested in full on playing with another woman please do not waste our time. We try to stick to people that know what their sexuality is and lists it that way.

Ahhhh but what if you are not attracted to the same gender yet are willing to go along with whatever to keep the flow. You know, not be the bump that causes a derail.  For our crew, everyone is different in what their true favorites are yet we all pitch in to please each other. After a night or day of fun, we always ask if there is anything more anyone wants or needs. People step up and do whatever to take care of them. I am bisexual - seeing a woman does not arouse me though I have sex with both genders. Sex  arouses me. I can see most anyone having sex and get aroused.  

On 9/7/2022 at 6:38 AM, Rumour said:

We don't consider ourselves to be Bi, but that is because we don't do labels. What we do is play. If it feels right and all are in agreement, we do whatever is on the metaphorical table. So if with a couple who are Bi-Curious and things get heated, we may ask the question. "can I suck your cock" for instance. With a couple down as straight, we leave well alone, unless the other couple hint that they are interested. 

 

There is a lot of discussion on various sites about this. You sucked a cock, so you're Bi. Or, you went down on another woman, you must be Bi! That is not how we see it. Yes, what we do may be an act bisexual in nature, but to us it is just doing what feels right at the time, with the agreement of all concerned. So label if you must, but we don't!

This is us as well. Even in a group of bisexual couples, I never single out the ladies but things do happen in the heat of the moment. And I admit, I love sucking a cock with other people - together, gender doesn't matter. I love sex with other people, I am not much  of a loner type. I prefer sex friends over private time so yes I have sex with others and go with the flow of things. 

23 hours ago, herpob said:

Ahhhh but what if you are not attracted to the same gender yet are willing to go along with whatever to keep the flow. You know, not be the bump that causes a derail.  For our crew, everyone is different in what their true favorites are yet we all pitch in to please each other. After a night or day of fun, we always ask if there is anything more anyone wants or needs. People step up and do whatever to take care of them. I am bisexual - seeing a woman does not arouse me though I have sex with both genders. Sex  arouses me. I can see most anyone having sex and get aroused.  

That’s simple for us!  We do not have sex or preform sexual acts with people we are not attracted to regardless of their sex.  I get that some people just do whoever and whatever, but we are not those people and we do not look for people like that. Quality over quantity. Not here to please everyone in the world.  People that can not understand that are not worth our time.