I hope your wife is doing well and glad to see that you are an understanding husband. I am very happy to see such positive responses to you question. I felt I should share my story.
I had a hysterectomy after my second child at 32 in 2013. We were very concerned about sex afterwards.
It took about 6 months for me to heal. The next 18 months were great! I have a high sex drive and I continue to have a sex drive and interest in sex.
After the 18 month high, my ovaries stopped making estrogen and I now have vaginal atrophy.
I have extreme vaginal dryness and tear easily. I can handle deep penetration if it starts slow. The main issues are on the outer vaginal tissue.
Sex leaves me sore and sometimes with tears. I can not always produce enough lubrication so we always have to use astroglide or supplement even with hand stimulation. My husband can not be too rough.
I am told that I can not have oral hormone replacement due to my age and risk of cancer. I have recently been given estrace vaginal cream (cost $200 per 90 days) to use twice weekly.
Even with this some days are good, some are ok, and some are bad.
So for our family, it has become a very frustrating road. We no longer swing because I am afraid of the pain or lack of understanding from another partner. We have a high sex drive but a broken tool and almost inability to do anything.
I hope you have a better experience but I felt the need to share.
