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Scaredstiff started following New and nervous, Wife's fantasy is being fucklicked. Not sure how to make it happen., Difficult for Newbies? and and 6 others
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Sounds like you had a great first experience, so glad it went well for you! Funny how being a member here and reading the posts, taking the advice etc often results in a great entry into the swinging world ha ha. Do you mind if I ask which club you visited? We are also in the UK, Midlands area.
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There's a series on bbc1 here in the UK just started called wanderlust it's a comedy drama about a middle aged couple who are in love but bored with fucking each other so they both agree to having fun outside the marriage, it hasnt progressed to swinging yet in the traditional sense but it seems to be heading that way, we find it very funny, not sure if its available in other countries to be honest , but it might be through the BBC iPlayer
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We tried social meets to begin with and found they didn't really work for us, even when there was a mutual attraction after a few hours drinking in the pub somebody in the group would get overly comfortable and say or do something which put us off, we also had a lot of no shows, and that is why we started doing clubs instead, that environment works much better for us
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I haven't seen a good one yet, but I have watched; "Swung" Scottish film about a couple starting swinging to help cure ED problems, starts well but then becomes too fictional "Palm swings" a couple start swinging when they move next door to swingers, actually tries to convey the good things about swinging but just poor acting and dialogue. I can't think of any others off the top of my head but I'm always on the lookout for swinger films. Most seem to just show what goes wrong and the main characters always break the rules. Swingtown was a tv series which was okish
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Other male too romantic with my wife
Scaredstiff replied to njbm's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
Is it an option to have a quiet word with the husband ? If you like this couple a lot it might make sense to try and resolve the issue, it could just be a bit of banter on his part or him trying to make your wife feel good , it's really hard to say without being there. If that's not an option then how about getting your wife to ask his wife if she was indeed a bit put out by what he said. -
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Scaredstiff replied to Hornymdcpl's topic in Curious About Swinging?
I would say do a club, that way you can have a peek and get a feel for what it's all about and what the vibe is like without crossing any boundaries or changing anything about your relationship, if after the first visit you think you'd like to take it further then you can save that for your 2nd visit -
How long are you in hedo for? If you only had one meet with this other couple then by your 2nd day in hedo you might have got to know a new couple even better, stay positive and just go with your flow, try to empty yourself of expectations and you'll no doubt have a great time with a few surprises thrown in
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First time (sort of!) coming up on Friday!
Scaredstiff replied to Tm2017's topic in First Swinging Experiences
Aw man I am gutted for you guys, did your hubby elaborate much on why he's not into it? To be honest I think we would find your situation a little bit stressful , the idea of arranging a meet with one couple is a bit daunting for us , its a bit of a pressure cooker situation as all your eggs are in one basket, that's why we prefer going to a club , there's never been any pressure and quite often we will just enjoy the atmosphere and each other, occasionally we'll hit it off with a couple and something will happen but it always feels quite natural, maybe your husband might find that kind of environment less intense -
After years of talking wife is ready to try...
Scaredstiff replied to smithylife91's topic in Curious About Swinging?
The thing I'm getting at is that you say if it doesn't work out then you'll knock it on the head and find a different hobby, but paying someone really isn't anything like swinging so I feel you could end up giving up on swinging having not really tried it in the first place, I sincerely wish you the best of luck down this path , my advice would simply be to communicate as honestly and openly as you can before, during and after this adventure, try and be as clear as you can about what you liked and maybe disliked about the experience, one of the biggest turn ons for Mrs scared is the bit where she feels desired by other people, the flirting and banter is a big part of that , I guess you could say that we're the kind of couple that needs a bit of a connection with the people we play with, we're not just looking for an extra cock or pair of tits to play with and that's the background where my original advice is coming from, also we have learned a lot about ourselves while doing this, and it turned out we werent nearly as adventurous as we thought we were, looking back if we had started with a full swap situation we almost definitely wouldn't have continued, Mrs scared would have had guilt issues, we've had many club visits , starting out we just chatted with others and then over time we have started to play with others to varying degrees, taking our time has allowed us to de-sensitise to certain situations and scenarios which may have been a problem if we had just jumped straight in, if you end up regretting your planned threesome I would still advise you to try a club or two and to not close the door completely -
After years of talking wife is ready to try...
Scaredstiff replied to smithylife91's topic in Curious About Swinging?
Baby steps...a blow to your marriage is a big risk to take just because with an escort ''its not the same thing''...if this works than you'll better prepared for the club single male.....good luck! I totally agree with that part but I can't get my head around how having a threesome with a prostitute can be considered taking baby steps -
We've found that just being honest with other people is the best way, we tell people we're new and just edging in , they've all been there and most will be keen to help ease your nerves and worries, when you're ready and you meet that special couple that you're comfortable with everything will happen naturally , just don't set targets or goals
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After years of talking wife is ready to try...
Scaredstiff replied to smithylife91's topic in Curious About Swinging?
It's been covered already but by choosing a hooker you're really missing out on a lot of things that are good about swinging, it would be much better to go to a club and just go as many times as you like until you feel ready to dabble, you'll get to hear about others experiences , have good conversation and build some connections with some pretty awesome people, you're going to miss out on all that taking the route you're planning -
Looking for advice - wife wants to play alone
Scaredstiff replied to Rodsteel's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
It sounds to me that you have enough concerns to warrant shelving this idea until you are more sure if it's a)something you want b)something you can cope with- 17 replies
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Wall2705 I sent you a pm regarding your post , only telling you as I just realised I myself have a ton of unread mail, I guess I have notifications turned off or something lol, anyway I didn't want you to miss out on my awesome message