Background:
My wife and I got started roughly 3.5 yrs ago with our first exp. Our first exp more or less found us vs us going out looking for it. Our friends introduced us to the lifestyle and they helped convince my wife to give it a try and led to our first full swap. It took me another yr to convince her to meet with local cpls. And another yr after that before our first srsp date. 6 months later we had our first full swap (the same couple we met for srsp). We have since had a 3sum with each wife (MFM). So in the 3.5 yrs we been with 2 cpls (2nd cpl :- a srsp, a full swap, and a three-sum with each wife(mfm)).
Currently, our process involves finding a potentially compatible couple thru one of the websites (SLS, ....). And meeting them for drinks or dinner, we don’t play on first dates. We try to get to know them a bit. I am fine with most of this but I don’t think too many couples have the time or the inclination for this.
Question:
How do I encourage my wife to speed up our process? looking for suggestions.