Hi,
My husband and I have been in the lifestyle now for a short period of time. First we started off having threesomes with another guy. I guess to sort of make me feel more comfortable with all of this. They went well and we had lots of fun with it. Next we tried the threesomes with other girls, and just the same they went very well. We then moved on to couples, met some really great people and had a fun time. Now my husband wants to do more of the me on my own thing and him on his own... I am a little un-easy about this. I thought swingers had fun because it was something we did as a couple. He tells me that almost all swingers have no problem with their wife going off on her own to play or the guy going off on his own to play. He tells me it's just part of the fair and open trading. I am still now too comfortable with this. Maybe is the other woman knew me and I knew her and it was something we were all cool with I would be ok. But it's hard to find women like that. He thinks he needs to act like a single man and sweet talk them and have a one night fling this way. To me this is wrong because he is leading them on and who knows they might get upset or jealous and then cause problems for us, even though it's something I know about. Has anyone else ever had to dela with this type of scenerio? Is going off on one's own just another part of the "game"? Are most wives comfortable with this? I really hope I get some good input. Thanks!!!
Mary