reading thru I can understand how you are upset about the other woman and him. But to an extent, tempest what you are doing is unfair for your relationship. You get to play with someone else and he can't. Even if you justify it as only playing with the same sex, for some people it doesn't matter if your playing with the same sex or the opposite sex you are still getting action outside of the relationship and he may feel that since you are not being 'fair' by sharing this experience with him that he needs to find someone for himself. I'm not trying to stick up for him but you kind of seem selfish, in your post, by justifying your playing by basically saying 'well its a girl I'm with and no threat to our relationship.' But to him it could be a threat no matter what because that girl can give you something that he can't give you. Am i making sense. I'm not trying to start anything by posting, just adding my $.02.