My issue is a little different. All of the things about and reasons for swapping are great. But sometimes I get the remark "he can do it well but you(we) should not try to recreate it". You should not try to be him.Which I'm not, but I can tell how much she enjoys it and would like to replicate/recreate in my way that same enjoyment. That's on her side. As for me, I try to give her all the information to do option "c" because its fun with others, but great with my SO.