mokytag02

My problem with this whole thing is twofold. Most of the guys who have tried to meet my wife alone have been married guys who were cheating on their wives so they had no qualms about trying to get my wife to do the same. I guess they think I don't read the mail too. The second is this guys name is B4real. You aren't for real buddy. We have played with married guys but only when their wives had no problem with it and yes we talked to them.

Mr & Mrs. Sounds like you have talked to some of the same guys we have. LOL We agree that both of us has to have a comfort level with anyone we meet or it doesn't happen. The Mrs. is new to all this and it took her a while to learn to blow off the guys who come on crude. She was afraid to piss anyone off. I told her the ball is in your court not theirs, they are coming into our house so to speak. They are joining our world.I also explain to them, before we meet face to face, that if they show my wife any disrespect the deal is off. I explain to them that I am sharing the most important person in my life with them and if they cannot show her the same respect that I do then they need to go away. Some of these guys don't realize that for every couple or single lady in this lifestyle there is about 200 single guys. We have one single guy who goes head hunting if another single guy is rude to my wife in chat. He realizes the problems a certain few can cause the rest fo the single guys.

We have met with many single men and have had a lot of fun with them. Some couples feel they have nothing to bring to the plate, we don't. One thing that bothers me(he) is the single guy who hits on my wife to meet alone when it is all spelled out in our profiles that we only meet as a couple or when we are in a chat room that it is okay for them to come on, and when they figure out it's her chatting, get as crude as possible and also think that everything including meeting, is automatic. We have a habit of wanting to get to know people before we meet them. This really pissies some guys off. The bad ones are few but they pretty much make it tough on the good ones. That's my take on it.

We talked about it and we started this together and if we can't do it together then we don't do it period. That's just our 2 cents worth. Each couple would have to do what works for them but this is our take.